My husband has a bad habit of bringing up is ex-wife and momma in conversations.
He'll say something like; "my ex-wife knows "what ever it may be" about me....my momma knows this about me and you know this about me". It pisses me off to hear "my-ex and my momma". I understand he's trying to make a point but I hate it. Should I let it ride or should I tell'em how I really feel..."who gives a f*** about them and what they know about you"...that's what I really want to say when he does that.
2007-08-14 07:11:54 · 11 answers · asked by I am what I am 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him you are interested in his opinion only as that is the only one that matters to you.
2007-08-14 07:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but your man sounds lilke he has some real issues. What kind of man brings an ex-wife into his new marriage? You should defiantely tell him how you feel, I am thinking that the reason that he married you was because you were you, which is obviously nothing like his ex-wife...and his mom doesn't sleep in bed with him at night right?
So yea...tell him what's really good, he is married to you, and if he has problems with the way things are done...definately you guys should be working on it and talking about it, but you are you and it is demeaning to compare you to someone else...what the hell did he marry you for if he wanted someone like his mom and his ex?
2007-08-14 07:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by darknangelic77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him when you are NOT arguing, and ask him to please not bring up his ex or his momma again. Cursing in the middle of an argument will not drive the point across.
2007-08-14 07:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to say something in a controlled and respectful manner. I would address the situation at a quiet time not right after he says it. He will then have time to think about it. He probably does not realize he says it that often.
2007-08-14 07:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by Willie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are his wife now and you don't want to every hear the ex or his mom name in a converstation, other wise he is sleeping the quest room. Keep talking like that a divorce
2007-08-14 07:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea you need to let him know how much it bothers you. Sounds like he does it out of habit now so it will take alot of time and you reminding him when he says it that you don't like it for him to finally quit.
2007-08-14 07:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could tell him that you want to find things out for yourself because not knowing intrigues you.
That when he tells you what others think, it doesn't leave you any room for discovery. And that will get boring pretty quick.
Good luck.
2007-08-14 07:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by patsue69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him openly how much it bothers you. You are his number 1 priority and he should let you know as much as possible about him. He should not feel that his ex and mother know more.
2007-08-14 07:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely let him know that its bothering you, otherwise you'll start a whole different fight. Let him know that you don't like it now, because if you wait, one day you'll explode on him, and he won't know what he did to piss you off.
2007-08-14 07:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by tiffthone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him that you don't like that he's doing it and that they have nothing to do with your relationship and he needs to stop bringing them up like that. it's not respectful to you and he should not "use" other people against you
2007-08-14 07:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋