Women please answer this for me ?

Question

Why is it that some women will take back the cheaters (even when they continue) and will have more kids with them. The cheaters have kids outside the relationship and continue, yet the wife / gf still takes them back ?

Then the guys who are faithful and loving to their wives / gf's have to basically BEG them to have sex on occasion? Especially after years in a committed relationship?

I'm not trying to sterotype all women into one of these groups, but I'm truely dumbfounded.

Is it really the "bad boy" syndrome? Ladies SAY they want a committed, loving, caring man, but what they REALLY find attractive and sexually appealing is the guy who will hurt them or is dangerous, or is unattainable ?

I just don't get it ?

Answer 1

I think a woman that takes a man back after him cheating has 0% self esteeam and fill they can do no better .The Bad Boy is a passing thing a woman wants a Man that is a Man not a whip not a mammas boy not a drunk not a drugie .The sexest man in the world is a man that takes care of his family and stands by them

Answer 2

Most women who go back to there no good partner is because they have low self esteem and think they can't get anyone else or make it on there own. They probably have kids because they think that they can keep the guy around like that.
They other women the have the loving partner sometimes just get to comfortable. Even though you are faithful. Do some dangerous or spontaneous things once in a while to keep her going. It's not the she doesn't love you. It's just that she got comfortable with the way things are. Even though can have the same sex everything and enjoy it. Women like things a little different every time.

Answer 3

ok, first part:: The women who take back cheaters again and again dont think much of their selves at all, due to something in their past most likely, their fathers, watching their mothers put up with crap, their friends, any number of things.
second part:: withholding sex, not knowing her side, and how often this happens, Could you be expecting it too much? Is there more going on with her than you know? What does she say when you tell her your unsatisfied?
thirdly: The so-called bad boy, some women really want that, thats a real man to them. Some women like the idea, like a fantasy. Just like men women need their sex lives spiced up from time to time, something unpredictable. Throw us a curve ball, do something with aggression on occasion. Your still the good guy but have the skills of the bad boy that we want sometimes.

Answer 4

Unfortunately dear, you do get it. And good for you. Most women are stereotypical as are most men. (Hint if he/she cheats with you they will cheat on you.) The reason behind this is the thrill of the chase and with some people that is all that they want. After the chase most are satisfied with settling down some are not. I myself have been in both situations at one point in my life and I have found it to be more fulfilling to be with someone who wants me for me and to be with only me. Men who figure this out have most of the large questions about the opposite sex figured out. And the same goes for women. Some women may think that they want the "bad boy" when in fact they really want to feel secure and loved. The "bad boy" image is only that an "image." Men put this up as a front and so do some women. If the woman you are talking about has this problem then she may be too young to know what she wants or she really may love the creep and the only thing you can do is step back and wait for her HER to realise that he is the problem not her.

Answer 5

Frankly, neither do I, but since I've been in a few of them, I can only tell you about my experience.

First, they're not villians, these "bad boys" they are just wolves in sheeps clothing. They don't come off as arrogant, obnoxious or even evil. If they did, they wouldn't be able to find or keep a woman. They project a false..."misunderstood, mistreated, but essentially I just need to be loved because no one ever has..." image.

That, by itself, triggers the female, almost maternal side, we women, like to save the abandoned puppy, kitty, baby, whatever. We think if we give them what they've never had, this poor creature will turn into a beautiful man.

Never true, most of the bad boys have inherited dazzling good looks, an almost angelic-like, facial features. We think if we keep giving this bad boy the chances he's never had, he will be saved, by US and he will turn into the good boy we see in himself.

Delusional? Yes. Arrogant? Maybe, but it's not a malicious arrogance...we just want to save him.

For the other side, I'll get you the male opinion, hang in there.....

Answer 6

Girls want a sensitive, caring guy. They also want someone who isn't another girl though. Most of the girls who let the guy cheat on them over and over again has probably had issues in the past with their parents telling them they weren't good enough or something like that. They have to have some kind of issue because nobody in their right mind would take a disgusting man. Just be happy that you have someone who is also faithful to you. I don't like to have sex that often just because I don't feel very sexy anymore. Maybe you should just try buttering your girl up. Tell her that she looks sexy no matter what she is wearing. Let her know she if beautiful. Beautiful is a very powerful word. Look her in the eyes and let her see how much you desire her. Don't whine about not getting any.

Answer 7

The Male side. You ask alot of questions that frankly, I don't think anyone can truly answer.

Most women take back Cheaters because of children. The BAD part is, in that process, they *meaning both spouses* do nothing to change the behavior. If a woman has been burnt and you are the 2nd in line, you'll pay for that person's past sins. Bad Boy? As has been said previously, the mother hen breaks out and they think they can change that person.

Your last question could be all of the above.

its not going to be easy. Its going to take some perserverance on all parts, but, it can be found and it can be wonderful.

What most women want is a man with EMOTIONS and wants a man who is willing to show them. Not as a show to keep her happy, but, because he genuinely feels it. That, my friend, is the hardest part. Men don't share emotions real well. They aren't suppose to cry. "MEN DON'T CRY!!!". Men suck it up. Men take it and move on. Oh well, Welcome to the 21st Century you Metro-Sexual Men you!!!

Answer 8

It is lack of self-esteem all around. No ifs ands or but's about it. When you have confidence you don't mess around with someone who treats you bad.
And as far as the men having to beg for sex...sometimes it just becomes a chore to women..you know..take care of the house, wash the car, feed the kids, have sex with hubby...etc. Their is no more spark. Especially if the man stops taking her on dates. Men think that they no longer have to earn the affections of the wife. They need to show her that she is still worth the catch!
As far as the bad boy syndrome...some women feel the need to make him the good boy..."oh I can change him" "If I only love him enough..he will change" etc etc etc.People sometimes want what they can't have and the chase is more fun than the catch. By the time this bad boy has been caught..he is unfaithful, mean, abusive and treats her like crap..she is already emotionally involved and she loves him more than he loves her. Its a battle that has gone on for ages..

Answer 9

It's a simple difference of girls vs. women.

Girls love a challenge. They know they can "fix" a man and bring out the sweet, sensitive side that's buried beneath all the torment and "bad boy" attitudes.
They love a tormented soul that they can nurture and repair and show the world, "this is what he was, look what *I* did to fix him!"

Women know better and aren't looking for a project. They know if a man is sensitive and sweet, then he'll show it when he's comfortable.
Women know that if a man wants to change, he has to make that decision on his own, and women will do their damnedest to support his decision.

Sadly, age has nothing to do with it. I've known 40 year old mothers that go for the 40 year old alcoholic jerk that's still living in his mom's basement thinking his band can make it. And I've seen 18 year old women come out of high school and know exactly what to avoid in a guy.

It depends on the female and her thinking process. Some realize things sooner than others.

Answer 10

You cannot generalize like that only based on your marriage and that of your best friend, for example. Some women like bad boys, that's true, or maybe they feel too attached to them to leave them when they already have kids together, probably many of them do it because of the kids' well-being too... So if your wife doesn't want to have sex with you then maybe it's partially your fault. You should think about it and look for the reason in your own relationship, and not in those of other people.