Help me out guys! I am so confused, frustrated and miserable. How can this be! When you [love] someone to death, but be very very extremely unhappy with his or hers performance, as a husband or wife in general?
2007-08-14 08:04:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is so damm confusing to me! But very real in True Life!
1. There maybe tons of LOVE in a relationship, with NO HAPPINESS invovled, whatsoever.
2. There may be tons of HAPPINESS in a relationship, with absolutely NO LOVE whatsoever.
3. Some relationships have both LOVE and HAPPINESS-together. These are probably the Happily Married Couples.
I do not understand this at all..
2007-08-14 08:17:16 · update #1
Right on the money! Alex B
2007-08-14 08:20:40 · update #2
True Love is when you can have the feeling for someone that you feel happy around and you can be around, yet your life can be down a hole, jobless, broke and in need of a good feeling. The emotion you have for a person can be the greatest ever, yet you can be miserable in life. Love can be happy, but not cause true happiness.
2007-08-14 08:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by JtotheOtotheHtotheN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love and true happiness DO exist.....But they are not easy to find, nor to maintain. It takes hard work on both sides to keep things working.
Sometimes we may love someone very much; but they are simply NOT compatible with you. And many times people are sad and heartbroken because they have an IDEA of what they want but their reality is different....
We can change no one- except ourselves.
We can try to love and accept others, but there is no perfect recipe. What works for two people may or may not work for another couple.
Sounds like you have to sit down and think things over....Go to counseling or therapy if you can afford it. Perhaps a trained professional can help you deal with your feelings and sort out the issues you have now. Good luck!
2007-08-14 10:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If I talk interior the tongues of adult adult males and of angels, yet have not love, i'm purely a convincing gong or a clanging cymbal. If I even have the present of prophecy and could fathom all mysteries and all expertise, and if I also have a faith that could pass mountains, yet have not love, i'm no longer something. If I provide all I very own to the undesirable and renounce my physique to the flames, yet have not love, I benefit no longer something. Love is affected person, love is variety. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not impolite, it is not self-searching for, it is not easily angered, it keeps no checklist of wrongs. Love does not take exhilaration in evil yet rejoices with the reality. it consistently protects, consistently trusts, consistently hopes, consistently perseveres." - (a million Corinthians 13) it rather is the main absolute summation of affection that I even have ever encountered. religious or no longer, the Bible is positively know-how incarnate and a appealing piece of literature.
2016-11-12 07:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by tito 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your aren't happy then you didn't find true love. Maybe you love then to death as a best friend. True love and true happiness are kinda the same. To find true love,you have to be happy to figure that love out with your lover. Friends love is different. You can love them but not be that happy with them.
2007-08-14 08:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by scoopie110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not heard or experienced that the two were different...i have true love and true happiness....so, maybe if one is lacking you can just work on it? fix the problems that cause you to be unhappy with whatever "performance" you are talking about.
2007-08-14 08:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at times it can happen but it is ebbs and flows. At times you are not going to be happy with your significant other it just depends on how the both of you handle it open in honest communication is a key to all relationships.
2007-08-14 08:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jason J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just stated is an oxymoron, It is a contradiction. You cannot love and hate at the same time. If you really love this woman, you would overlook her imperfections.
2007-08-14 08:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
abram i, My friend sounds like you have are lacking in honesty and openess. I too had that problem when I was younger !My problem was that she didn"t commit to me like I did to her. I will pray for you both to get together and work it out !!!
2007-08-14 08:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've been with the person for a while .
2007-08-14 08:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Babylove 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not in love then ....Love means to love unconditionally
if you were in Love real love you would not find fault with hm
2007-08-14 08:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋