What if you catch your husband on single sites?

Question

And he says it means nothing, he says he loves me, so help me understand the need, desire to go to the sites

Answer 1

Ok, chances are good that this behavior means he's looking to see what else is out there and may not be completely faithful to you. HOWEVER, I've gotta say that I read the personal ads on Craigslist (my husband knows this, by the way) because I find them to be hilariously funny. I read them for pure amusement and nothing else, and would never in a million years contact someone who posted one (I'm very happily married.) If he has a profile on a singles site, though, he's definitely looking for another woman.

Answer 2

Tricky question because one or two things...He could just be curious everyone gets curious when you get a pop up from this site you want to go check it out you would have to know if you can trust him when he says that there was nothing meant by him going there, has he ever acted as if he was cheating or anything? Don't ruin your marriage until you get some proof. The other thing he could be looking for other females either to meet up with or just to talk to but usually not always but usually you would be able to tell if he was wanted to look around at what else is out there. I have also had a husband who did this same thing at first he was just curious but I kept accusing him and pushing the fact he was cheating and I go so bitter about it he did go cheat and we went our separate ways so just look around and try to get proof before you assume. Or explain to him you do not appreciate what he is doing and you find it disrespectful COMMUNICATION is the key word. Good luck to you hope this helps!

Answer 3

It happened to me.
Hubby was bored, lonely and looking for attention. He got it.
At first he just went to get naked pictures and for the excitement of having someone interested in him and to fantasize.
Then he made a date to hook up. He chatted with women when he could have been loving his wife.
Husbands do not need to be on single sites unless they plan on being single.
For my husband, he had to learn that it was up to him to state his needs and take action to have them met at home, rather than to go looking for it outside the marriage. He wanted more sex, more intimacy, more fun. He wanted to feel attractive and special. He looked in the wrong place, but later he found it at home where he should've looked in the first place. His computer and cell phone are an open book now. He is now putting his time and attention here where it belongs.

For him, it took a reality check and the reality of losing his wife and everything we worked for. Then it took a lot of work for both of us to figure out how to fix our broken marriage.

It is not a negotiable issues. A man working on his marriage does not go to single sites, have women friends, or do anything else that looks suspicious. A man who wants to stay married should not behave in ways that make his wife worry about his fidelity. He should be a grown up and get to work on his marriage.

You can accept it or decide not tolerate it. He needs to get real and decide if he wants to face his marriage or his divorce.

Answer 4

if it means nothing, then ask him WHY he is doing it, it's got to mean something, he has to be getting something from it, so what is it..... People don't normally put enough effort into joining a website that means nothing....especially if you have to type out a registration page and/or even pay $$$....nobody does that for nothing. I would not accept that as an answer. Perhaps he needs more attention and flirtation from you?????

Answer 5

Tell him to sign up or get off the single site. If he signs up kick him out the door with his computer. This is just plain wrong!!!! Watching porn is one thing, checking out the girls for dating purposes is a no no.

Answer 6

Actually I did find my husband on a single site...and now he's my husband. Don't fall for that bullsh*t, he has no needs to be there.

Answer 7

Check the date when he join the website. i have yahoo personal before knowing my girlfriend, still every week or so, they sent me a update. I just like to see, that is all. Beside my girl know 100 percent what my schedules are.

Answer 8

Take off your wedding ring, have him do the same. Make a date to meet at a trendy bar or club that neither of you have been to before....get absolutly GLAM/SEXY..get a new outfit...new lingerie....the works...do your hair different..etc...When you meet him at this club....sit away from him...other end of the bar...across the room...buy him a drink...like you have never met & you are trying to hook up...reel him in and get kinky in the car...bedroom or couch...kitchen do all things out to the norm to SPICE IT UP and make him feel like he is out with a new YOU! try it....what could it hurt

Answer 9

KICK THIS MAN TO THE CURB!!!!!!!!! I just went through a two year battle with my ex bf over this crap. It killed me! I was ripped. He was emailing these women. Talking to them. Looking at porn. Kiddie porn! God it made me feel ugly, like I wasn't good enough. I cried out to him. But my voice and tears went unheard and uncared about. This crap is CHEATING! If hes on dating sites, he cheating! Or planning on it. Believe me, I know those people are real on there. I made myself a profile. I flirted with my ex on it. He jerk saved my profile! Cheating like I said.

Answer 10

he's looking for someone to cheat with and he just got caught...there's no other reason for a husband to go on a singles website. you know that, open your eyes.