and then he goes by the way Charlie,that' My Husband Brothers son.He said he is here ,I go no phone call to check with me to see if I had any Plans.I said so when is he supposed to go Home,He is like tomrrow.He never buys me anything or wishes me A happy Birthday,I just wish he would think of me for once and do something nice for me.I don't consider his Nephew a gift because he gets &starts trouble alot.This is not the Only Holiday he does this to me,I geuss I just expected something I shouldn't have.It Just Hurts.Hope you all are having a Great day.
2007-08-14 07:28:44 · 18 answers · asked by Dew 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I have the right to be upset,but he will just say I am being selfish what is your Opinions?
2007-08-14 07:30:42 · update #1
I had to call Home for something and then my Husband says you are coming home and fixing dinner right? I said well I think I am going to get my nails done,a Birthday Present from you and he says as long as you have cash,I said no I was going to use my Checking card and he say no I don't think so...grrrr the day only gets Better!
2007-08-14 08:54:20 · update #2
I don't think its selfish to want your significant other to make you feel special and want to celebrate the day you were born. Just to say, "Man! I'm glad you were born and in my life now". Its not too much to ask for at all.
2007-08-14 07:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've answered this question before with other people on here. You can't make someone treat you the way you want to be treated. I have no idea why he does this but mine used to do it to. So I started making plans for my own birthdays. About 2 weeks before my birthday I say guess what I'm getting an ice cream cake for my birthday or I want to go out to a certain restaurant. Now sometimes he would take the hint and help me figure it out but generally he would just say ok. All of the sudden though in the last couple of years it's improved. Still not perfect but I get cards and the occasional gift. Once he even tried to make me a cheesecake LOL here's the thing this may be an area that he's not good a showing love. If you haven't ever read the book the 5 love languages you need to, it would help your husband as well. It describes the different ways people give and receive love. Your husband is clearly not a gifts person that doesn't make him a jerk. Does he do other nice things for you? Like cleaning your car or rubbing your back or saying nice things to you? It's ok to tell him the way you want to be treated on your birthday but also it helps to show him. Buy yourself some flowers and balloons, pick your favorite kind of cake and invite him (and whoever else you want) to join you. By doing this you are giving him a hint as to what you would like on your birthdays. If that doesn't do it for you then plan a special dinner out and say I made reservations for my birthday, if he doesn't go invite a friend. The key here is to help him see what you need and at the same time not let his ignorance ruin your special day.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!
2007-08-14 07:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!
Sorry you're dealing with issues as such, and yes, you have every right to feel hurt. Do you have anyone else you could go out with for dinner or something fun?
Honestly, some guys just don't get it....and then, they have this deer in the headlight look when you confront them about it.
Its your call. Personally, I would be very upset, but then, on the other hand, pick your battles... If you know he won't do anything special, go buy you something with HIS credit card...and say thank you when you hand him the receipt. He won't say a word.
2007-08-14 07:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday! :-)
You are not being selfish at all. I would recommend that you do something special for yourself, be it buying something that you've had your eye on for a while, or filling the tub and having a nice relaxing bubble bath. Do something that makes you feel good, since you don't know if your husband will.
My boyfriend is the same way, I know how you feel. You know what it took for my boyfriend to do something for me for Valentine's day? I had to tell him how bad it made me feel that he did nothing for me, and so he went out the next day. That hurts. Next year I may just buy roses for myself and bring them home, since I am kinda expecting him to do the same thing next year. And this is what you could do too; really treat yourself, and when your husband asks you who the gift came from, you could tell him that it was from someone very special - yourself!
2007-08-14 08:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by *Molly* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would royally piss me off.
My hubby has done that before too, I "forgot" his birthday in return.
I know two wrongs don't make a right. But, it's the same freaking date every year - how can he honestly forget it???!!
I even write it on the calendar for God's sake.
I know it hurts - I've been there.
Maybe you should just call up some girl friends tonight and go out and party with them. Since he already made plans with the nephew. I would.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
2007-08-14 08:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what- get yourself some retail therapy. Go out and buy yourself something special. Don't think about how much it costs or anything- do it!!!!!!!! Happy Birthday - treat yourself like the birthday girl/ Shoot- while your at it, buy yourself a cake and get take out to your favorite resteraunt.
2007-08-14 07:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by hawk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!
I think birthdays are not big deals, and wife thinks that they are. So the solution after 20+ years of marriage, is that I pretend that a birthday is a big deal, but on my birthday, I don't need to pretend.
2007-08-14 07:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by x2000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HAppy Birthday, girl! Have a wonderful day! Enjoy yourself.. Buy a present for yourself...
2007-08-14 07:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by back2future 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think your birthday is the one day of the year that you should be able to be completely selfish. if you want to hang out with you friends instead of your significant other, you should. you shouldn't have to watch a kid that causes you trouble on your birthday and your hubby should at least acknowledge that it's your birthday. i would be pissed if my hubby didn't get me anything.
2007-08-14 07:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex like that. Its why he's an EX! Buttttttttttttt. Happy Birthday! Heres a star just for you!
2007-08-14 07:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by lady S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋