I am 45 with 2 preteen children. Do you think there is a chance it could work?
2007-08-14 07:54:09 · 17 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, give it a whirl. What is the worst that could happen? Take it slow, keep the kids away so they don't get attached. Go out a few times. If he is worth dating, you will continue seeing him and working him into your life.
If he is not, then the kids wont be attached or ask questions on where he went and you have lost nothing but a few hours. I would give it a shot.
2007-08-14 07:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by Helga 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
almost sound like you're talking about my hubby & me but he's only 4 yrs younger...that's the only thing i'd be concerned about, the fact that he's so MUCH younger than you. but it depends on the person -- my young whippersnapper of a hubby (lol) is much more mature and responsible than the older men i was dating before we met. i also had 2 preteen kids - most of the child-rearing should still fall to you anyway (unless it works out for him to share in the parenting -- everyone's different) so that shouldn't be a problem as long as he gets along with the kids and they like & respect him.
honey, if i were 45 (i'm close) and single and had a 31 yr old man interested in me, i'd be all over that!! (i tease my husband that i'll need to trade him in for a younger model if he doesn't straighten up -- he KNOWS i'm only kidding -- wouldn't trade him for ANYthing or EVERYthing)
btw, hubby was 29 when we met, single nevermarried, no kids -- and he did just fine w/my kids
2007-08-14 09:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a 50/50 chance it could work, no more or less than any other relationship. The only possible problem I see is that he may decide he wants a baby of his own and you are past the age to be getting pregnant without many risks for birth defects such as Down syndrome. Since you have 2 children, is he really ready to be a father figure to them? You are a package deal.
If you do decide you want to pursue a relationship with him, date him for a good while before you introduce him to the children. Nothing worse than them getting attached to him only for it to end and they be hurt.
2007-08-14 08:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are 45 years old and have two preteens right this man is 31 years old never married. there's probably not that much age difference between your kids and this man. My question is he looking for home. Is this young man employed me he would be to young but for you maybe not. so go ahead and see if it works. Nothing beats a try but a failure.
Best of luck
2007-08-14 08:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's always a chance, but it's hard to imagine it working out in the long run given the vast differences in your backgrounds. Not sure I'd want my tweeny kids hanging around with a 31 year old guy with no family background.
2007-08-14 08:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it is not the age that matters, but how in-sync you both are. If you feel he is mature enough to get into a relationship with you and your kids, plus he treats you right as well as your children... give it a try. If things don't work out you can always break up with him and you will be in the same exact situation you are now (as a single mom).
2007-08-14 08:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by oxalisb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might want to date and date and really get to know each other.
I would not bring him around the kids for a very long while at least until you know this is serious and he is not going to be inappropriate with them.
You really need to take it slow & check it out closly. I've read that single Moms are what predetors look for.
2007-08-14 08:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whos to say "will it work"... That all depends on you and him. If you feel the attraction then go for it. Its evident he likes you, so whats the worst that can happen? Keep it real and maybe you'll get some needed attention from a wonderful guy.
2007-08-14 08:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he has been looking for somebody who is perfectly suited to him. You have to admit that there are a lot of young and flighty idiots running around these days.
2007-08-14 08:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a chance at least! could be a great thing! you never know until you try...my mother married someone younger and he has no kids and we are a totally happy family now! (they have been married now for 5 years and she is in her forties and he is in his thirties) so i know that it CAN be great.
2007-08-14 08:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋