We are both enjoying each other ,we talk through text throughout the day on cell, we chat online through message ,we see each other as much as possible, I have four kids though and he has three ,from marriages we are both wanting out of ,but we both love our families! but this friendship has been making me so unhappy because I feeling lost in my marriage because my husband shows me no emotions at all I married him when I were in a low point in my life ,and I really cant see myself being with him forever, I am about to graduate and work in agood field where I would be able to provied onm my own along, he is in a marriage with a wife who tells him he trapped her into marriage and she tells me stuff like if any woman wants him they can have him, he is such a sweet person I dont know why she doesnt see it! yes we are all friends kind of a big mess I never thought I would be in!!! what to do?
2007-08-14 06:27:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do what makes you happy. After all this is not a merry-go-round, you get one shot in life make if count.
2007-08-14 06:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Craig B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all both of your priorities should be toward your children, not each other. You could be doing irreversable damage if you proceed further. You are having an emotional affair, and since neither of you have any responsabilities toward each other it is so easy to live in your everything is perfect fantasy land. You basucally have 2 choices, and lots of potential consequences and fall out. First of all neither of you are in a position to be thinking of each other until your marriages ARE over, and if you are friends with his wife, even if she doesn't appreciate what you refer to as his good qualities, as her friend and out of respect for their children and YOUR chlidren STAY AWAY from him. Now that being said if you both get a divorce, and resolve your own issues from your previous marriages, AND you work out the friendship thing then that might be a differant story. But right now it is wrong and somewhere inside you know that or you wouldn't be asking this question~
2007-08-14 13:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by *blah blah* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, every woman always seems to blame the husband for their failed marriage. You have a role in your marriage's demise too, whether or not you want to except it. Now, you're having an emotional affair. I can't really feel sympathy and I can't say what to do. As a faithful married woman, I would never allow myself to maintain a friendship with a man that included all you have said. I'm sure your husband doesn't know all this. Wow.
2007-08-14 13:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you are going to be happy in a blended family with 7 kids, think again! Wait till the not-siblings start going at each other when they are teenagers.
Of course, you can always dump your kids on your spouses and make them take care of them but the child support you're going to have to pay for 4 kids will guarantee that you can never afford a decent life with your new man (and his child support will be at least half his income, too).
You should both work on your marriages and cool this down. Or you're going to ruin 7 lives (the lives of your kids and your friend's kids) - and what kind of message will it send to your kids - you want them bouncing from marriage to marriage all their lives, too?
2007-08-14 13:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you didn't spend so much time texting or talking on the phone, your marriage wouldn't be in such a mess. You're both blaming your spouses when you should really be blaming each other. You want an excuse to hook up and you've got it. I hope they leave the both of you. You deserve each other.
2007-08-14 13:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the marriage with your husband if he has abandoned you emotionally. I wouldn't count on being in a relationship with your friend because you said the friendship is making you unhappy and losing your feelings about your marriage. You dog on well if you went after her husband she would probably try to kick your but.t. Because if that was the case she would have divorced him.
2007-08-14 13:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating on your husband! You need to leave him and stop talking to the other guy until he leaves his wife. What you two are doing is wrong and you can't put it on the people you are married to. Leave them and then you can be together.
2007-08-14 13:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If people put all the effort into their marriage that they put into sneaking around, they'd find what they have and always wanted is what they have always had!
2007-08-14 13:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by lady S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband and his wife have feelings for each other as well, you all can just switch.
2007-08-14 13:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the song "secret lovers"
2007-08-14 13:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋