Marriage & Divorce - 6 August 2007

Ok, so I'm trying to come up with ideas to spice things up with my husband of 17 years and I came across an idea I'm looking for some thoughts.

Has anyone been to a 'clothing optional' vacation resort? I looked and they have them in Cancun and places like that.

What are they really like? Do people really walk around totally naked? Is that weird? Do you think this would be a good idea to spice up a relationship, or is it gross?

I think it would be fun to try, but I really have no idea what I am getting into.

2007-08-06 04:35:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My story is a bit long... I live outboard as students with my wife. We were separated one year. We had problems in our country and during that year I felt my love end. We met again after that year and things went worse. Six months ago I met a girl. We became friends immediately and it was like kinda immediate attraction. However we saw again after three months and I told her that I was married. However we continue our friendship. Continuously we agreed for coffees and long chats, she also did a lot to meet me. Little by little I fell in love. Then I felt that I cannot continue my marriage, and this girl offered me her support as a friend which I really appreciated so much and I told her my story. With this girl nothing has happened physically. Plus, luckily I have been offered a job in this country and I will return to work single after finishing my relationship and she knows about that.

2007-08-06 04:33:06 · 19 answers · asked by NewTiger :) 1

Its our 1st year anniversary today...and very upset with my marriage for various reasons. off late i am into depression...or i fel i am getting into depression.
i am so attached to my husband...that its difficult to take any decision on my own.
we have been seeing a marriage counsellor...i'm happy on the day i meet the counselor...then it gets back being bad...
its ok as long as i'm talking to friends and family...it again gets back being bad in just a day...
its like i want to be with my husband...but he does not need me. he says that himself. that for him his mom is all his life.
i am finding this extremely difficult to bear with.
divorce is not an option....no children yet...not planning to have one soon either...
i desire a husband who needs me...but i do not have one.
is this destiny?
i am very confused...

2007-08-06 04:24:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm totally confused about what to make of my wife's relationship with some of her coworkers. I really don't trust her coworkers at all. My wife is gorgeous and she's also extremely friendly and smart. There have been three or four occasions over the past year when she'd be telling me about a guy who she'd become friends with. She mentioned one guy had been putting some pressure on her to go out to office-party type things because he wanted to get to know her better. Another guy started asking her to go jogging with him, she never went. Still he gives her apples every day, which she takes. He also tries to impress her by writing her some emails.

She continually reassures me and always tells me how much she loves me. I trust her completely, but I just can't settle my mind about why she gets all this attention all the time unless she's somehow sending signals to them... It also seems so disrespectful of her to not be more upfront with these guys to the point where they won't try anything. This sort of thing happens when guys think they have a chance and act on it. I hate knowing that they see her as a potential, and I hate knowing she somehow lets them see it that way.

And now, in her new job, she's been telling me about her new manager, a 31 year old guy (she's 25), handsome, successful, single, cocky. She's working in the same office as he, and she stays late regularly and she travels with him together across town. I have learned that they were the only 2 persons in their department alone at the office those times they worked late. Now I really wonder about what sort of working relationship they have...

2007-08-06 04:19:07 · 27 answers · asked by Rohit 1

My husband said he wants an early retirement, want to be retired at 50, I told him, he better start his own business if he does, I just can't watch idolness from a man

2007-08-06 04:14:37 · 13 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5

I have been with my man since Nov 99, before i was with him i was in a relationship with a substance abuser (male) but before that i was in a relationship with a female.
My husband knows i have had same sex relationships, and seems ok as long as i am no longer interested in women in that way,
I would never! be unfaithful, but on the other hand i do enjoy attention from gay women when i have the oppurtunity.
There are a few gay women that come into my work and we have conversations, exchange music we like and so forth.
This particular woman Mandy, is really sweet, a lovely person.
So do people think this is being unfaithful, being appreciated by the same sex, or appreciating the same sex?

2007-08-06 04:12:36 · 10 answers · asked by jordancassandra 3

2007-08-06 04:11:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

We try to prolong it but she always climaxes before me and afterwards she ready to stop. This is normally the other way around. What should I do?

2007-08-06 04:08:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-06 04:07:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-06 04:01:17 · 39 answers · asked by its not that serious 2

My ex and I went to mediation Tuesday to discuss parenting time with our 3 children. The magistrate referred us to mediation because he wanted to maintain parenting time as is (p/u Wednesday @ 7p, d/o Thursday @ 7p, p/u Saturday @ 7p, and d/o Sunday 7p). I am disputing this because I want to have the children every other weekend so that we can have some quality family time. Since I work Monday - Friday, I never get a full day and night with my children. When we got to mediation, he floored me, the first thing he said is that he wants 50% parenting time. My jaw dropped and I couldn't find myself to say anything in my defense. The schedule he suggested was ludicrous, basically, he would have the kids 4 nights/week, 3 weekends out of 4, and he would never be responsible for child care, transporting to and from school (2 different school districts), and he would never have them more than 2 consecutive nights. There are so many things wrong with this scenario!

2007-08-06 03:59:10 · 12 answers · asked by Jen M 4

My boyfriend/fiance is in the army & he's coming home for labor day weekend but only for 3days & so 4 days ago we decided to get married Sept.1st. I haven't asked for the days off @ my job & to make matters worse on thurs. I will have a new manager. So my question is: Do they have to give me the days off or could they deny them?????

2007-08-06 03:58:40 · 10 answers · asked by ****Janina_Be_Rockin 3

1.marry a person with a kid?
2.have your first kids by them that will be their second?
3.feel your kids will ever be as special to them like their first kid is to them?
4.feel their second birth will be as special to them as this first is to you?
5.Think that, I saved myself for the right person, I wish they did that for me?
6. want to kill the old kid's other parent(not literally) because they stole that 1rst birth experience away from you?


5 questions in 1 but everyone likes list right?

2007-08-06 03:57:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend who was married to a guy since she was 18 years old. They divorced over six years ago but over the course of the last year he has been in contact with her. He calls her and texts her all the time. He also makes reference to her appearance on how good she looks and he makes sexual comments about her. She is not sure if he wants her back or not. Just to add right now he is involved with another woman they may even be married. He says he is alone most of the time and they don't spend much time together. He says he keeps waiting onthe moment where their relationship will be like him and his ex wife relationship use to be. But for some reason he keeps contacting his ex wife. They talk almost everyday or every other day. He also does things for her like help her fix her car and he brought her fruit when she was sick in the hospital. My friend still has feelings for him and if it was up to her they would be back together. However, she is not sure if he wants her back ?

2007-08-06 03:56:03 · 9 answers · asked by Sexysass 2

great time while we were there but now that we are back home, I'm feeling a little jealous. I totally trust my husband and he is very respectful to me so that's not the problem. I know the problem is strictly mine I just don't know how to deal with it. Don't get me wrong, it was not an orgy or anything, just a lot of flashing and nudity. I was really okay with everything and doing my fair share of showing my titties. Our "policy" was everytime he got to see, I got to show. Anyway, one of the girls had very big breast and my husband was very impressed to say the least. Now that we are back at home I can't get the image of her breast and my husbands reaction to them out of my mind. I am a 34 D so I'm not small by any means but I could never compete with her big mamms. Now all I can think of is that he wishes mine were that big or we would like them better if they were that big. He tells me that she had big nice **** but that he loves mine and he wouldn't change a thing about me

2007-08-06 03:54:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Let's just say a spouse goes to thier brothers house or Mothers house once a month or so, drinks, and then spends the night. Would you think it's strange for someone to do this? Do you or your spouse take little overnight trips like this?

2007-08-06 03:54:07 · 15 answers · asked by Wendy B 5

Can anyone honestly tell me that theire happy with theire love life & truly have a great honest loving relationship with theire girlfriend/boyfriend..husband or wife. That they are really with theire love of theire life and would never evr do anything to hurt one another.

Or is everyone unhappy with theire spouse & arguing all the time and wishing they were with someone else??

2007-08-06 03:38:46 · 19 answers · asked by liza 3

For example, my fiance and I have agreed not to talk about religion or politics with each other most days. We usually just end up on each others nerves in a dead end argument. We're both stubborn people with opposing veiws. You?

2007-08-06 03:30:55 · 13 answers · asked by skunk pie 5

our neighburs 16yr old daughter has a major crush on my husband. They chat occasionally on msn. Bear in mind my husband is soooo not interested. They were chatting the other night and we pretended i wasn't looking in on the convo and she tried to convince him to go to london so they could go drinking together. Has anyone got any suggestions about how i can warn this 16 yr old W.hore off my husband before i punch her lights out...bear in mind im not usually the confrontational kind....( i don't want to get into trouble)

also this 16 yr old has slept with 7 guys that we know of this year and already had threesomes..at her age!

2007-08-06 03:28:20 · 51 answers · asked by wolfstorm 4

2007-08-06 03:25:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi it's me again, I have another question about marriages and the Catholic church. I've been with my fiancé for 9 yrs & we have a child together. I want to get married in the church and I know I will have to get my previous divorces annulled I'm not sure how long it will take or how much money, but you guys have been very helpful so I need advise again.
Even though I have not been with my ex for 10 yrs the divorce was just finalized last week and I can get married again in 30 days. My fiancé wants to rush to the J.P and have a civil marriage right away, but I want to be married in the church. His compromise was that we'll get married first by the JP and then get married in the church because the annulments will take awhile and such. I read the cannon law and I am allowed to use conscious for this decision but even my conscious wants this done right, but it also tells me I have a kid with him & we've been together along time.
He thinks I'm making too much of it. What should I do?

2007-08-06 03:23:09 · 8 answers · asked by Kiki's Treasure 2

i have been married to him for 5.5 years and i love him with all my heart what do i do?

2007-08-06 03:16:35 · 26 answers · asked by suepooh23 3

2007-08-06 03:16:24 · 10 answers · asked by lindley l 1

I'm trying to get out of an abusive relationship that I've been in for 13 years. But there are so many times where I think "We listened to this" or "He hated me doing that" and tonight I was out and just felt like I should run back home and wait until he allowed me out. And apologise for daring to think I could survive without him.

Sort of like a puppy that runs away, then sneaks back into it's kennel, waits for the master to come with the lead, and licks master's hand and wags it's tail apologetically, then follows him around again, trying to please him.

Is this normal? And how do I get past it?

*Supportive answers only please.

2007-08-06 03:09:10 · 14 answers · asked by Callisto 3

I happen to walk in and saw a picture of a naked chic on my guys computer.I could see the picture it took the whole screen and it had those controls at the bottom of it like zoom,rotate ect like on a attachment.How do you get this picture like that?

2007-08-06 03:02:18 · 10 answers · asked by jessy 3

2007-08-06 02:58:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-06 02:55:38 · 16 answers · asked by zoobin 2

I am looking for suggestions and tips on how to help wife feel more comfortable about expressing her sexual desires.

Due to the her upbringing she has always been reserved when it comes to sex. I would like to slowly help her understand it is ok to express and share such things with me.

2007-08-06 02:52:46 · 6 answers · asked by lovelonghair 1

2007-08-06 02:49:20 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married four years, we moved to the USA after losing everything in a Hurricane. I am from the USA and he is from a caribbean island. He is not well educated and has not made any attempts ( i have tried) to educate himself further. This leave me with 95% of the the daily responsibilites. I am tired of doing everything and having to make all major decision without assistance. When I ask him for help with something he says that i am too bossy and to much like his mother... I am afraid he has lost his sence of manhood. I have become extreemly stressed and it is causing health problems things are getting worse. We bought a home a couple of years ago, and I too have turned into a plumber, carpenter, etc while he takes the time to washing his vechile./... My god can you help me fix this plugged pipe... Stop telling me what to do ( his typical replay. I am seaking legal help and I want out of this endless torment...... do anyone have any advice

2007-08-06 02:41:14 · 8 answers · asked by Sunshine 1