For example, my fiance and I have agreed not to talk about religion or politics with each other most days. We usually just end up on each others nerves in a dead end argument. We're both stubborn people with opposing veiws. You?
2007-08-06 03:30:55 · 13 answers · asked by skunk pie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes, yes. Whatever works for you, whatever makes your relationship work, is fine. If this is a way that you two can get along its great. My fiance and I have varying views on many things, and sometimes we talk about them, some times we don't, for the same reason you stated here. If it works for you, do it!
2007-08-06 03:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like some very personal and important issues that need to be addressed here. If I were to get married to someone, those are a couple of issues that I would really need to work out. They encompass so many aspects of life that I would not let it just ride throught a marraige. You may find in a few years that you can't live something that is covered by one of those topics.
I would suggest to everyone to have a soft heart, be humble and have a mature discussion. If you can't do that, I would suggest staying engaged until you can.
2007-08-06 03:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by byroneann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband is quite prejudice, actually he is racist, I'm not, come from a very open minded family, on occasion he's made remarks (we're both white) my mother was remarried after she divorced my father and I have two sisters (I do not consider them halves) that are part cuban and he has in the past made remarks about hispanics, blacks, and it really pisses me off but he's who he is and I'm who I am, now mind you, we've known eachother for over 20 years and he loves my sisters, mom, but we've agreed to not discuss racial issues, if we did, it would be world war 3. While I think people esp. couples/marrieds should respect eachothers opinions slip ups occur so we just let it go and don't ever discuss things directly on that subject.
2007-08-06 16:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We talk about everything. Sometimes we get into arguments, but if we do, we're able to start laughing and having fun like we were before the argument really quickly.
We've promised each other that we wouldn't keep anything from each other, and we wouldn't not tell each other something out of fear for what their reaction would be.
I think keeping something- anything- from your partner because you're scared they'll be mad or upset with you is dumb. Granted, we all have our little quirks and secrets that we keep to ourselves [( like the things we all do when no one is looking! Haha! )], and keeping those to yourself is okay. But if this is the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, wouldn't you want to know all you can about them, and want them to know all they can about you?
2007-08-06 03:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by msxcheshirexcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex, so I will talk about it now cause he is not here. She is the reason people like me get labeled evil step mother. She has started verbal fights with me and when I have defended my self, she runs back to the kids and tells them I attacked her for no reason. She has told my husband in front of the kids that they hate him and don't want to be with him. Mind you he has 50-50. She has told the two oldest that there brother poops his pants because of me, (He has been to a specialist, which then told us that he has a weak muscle) She confronted my ex husband at a wedding and asked him how could you ruin your life by marrying and having two children with her. I could go on for ever. So there I feel better. This is why we don't talk about her. LOL. good luck cause it is hard to keep your mouth shut about something you are passionate about
2007-08-06 03:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yikes, opposing veiws as fiances, let me tell you (as a divorced woman) that those itssues you agree not to talk about are going to come back to haunt you. my ex and i agreed not to talk abotu religion, too bad his family wasnt in on the bet, it was a mess. my inlaws tried to sneak off and baptize my kid, i had to get a court order. To agree not to talk about something is against everything that marriage stands for. Communication is the key!
2007-08-06 03:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by eb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if a relationship is strong you could talk about everything, but if there are problems in the relationship then the topics you don't see eye to eye on will cause problems.
2007-08-06 04:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by jessica r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! Agreeing to disagree is a sign of a good relationship. Neither of you absolutely have to be right in all things and you enjoy so many other aspects of the relationship.
2007-08-06 03:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first year my husband and I were together everything was fabulous. Our second year together, everything went downhill because he lost his job, I got pregnant and supported the family all by myself. I resented him for this because I was selfish and a spoiled brat. Today, everything is harmonious and fabulous again. We buried this horrible episode of our lives and refuse to talk about it.
Ex's is another topic we do not talk about.
2007-08-06 03:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't have anything specific, but if we get into a heated argument about something we stop and say subject over. We don't sweat the small stuff.
2007-08-06 03:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋