Marriage & Divorce - 6 August 2007

Compassion plays a great part in all our relationships. But some people seem to know very little about it. Do we inherit it with the color of our hair and eyes? Do we learn it as we go through life from the people we love? Or is it a simple communication skill? And could it possibly be too late to learn it for some of us anyway?

2007-08-06 17:33:51 · 4 answers · asked by ms.sophisticate 7

My husband is furious that I share details of our relationship with one of my best friends. We have been close since 10th grade. She is now 31 and I am 30. He doesn't want me to nag him about anything, and he sure doesn't want to hear discuss any of the issues. If I have made every reasonable effort to talk to him about something and he isn't interested, what am I supposed to do? I am already seeing a counselor, but it's not like I can call her up in the middle of the night when I have a problem. I can only go so far with the advice on Yahoo Answers. What are your thoughts?

2007-08-06 17:30:54 · 11 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

How to avoid the mistake of falling into the provider category? Thanks...

2007-08-06 17:12:40 · 20 answers · asked by Ronnie 2

Mr A has a g/f Miss B who he doesn't love (but owes £20,000to), and also is seeing Mrs C, a married woman, who he does love, but who is not separated from her hubby.
Miss B inherits £200,000.

Question: Would you chose money or love?

2007-08-06 17:11:49 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do we spend so much time on here asking and answering questions when we could be spending time with our hubbys and wives (if we have them)? That being asked, I'm going upstairs to cuddle with my hubby while watching wrestling....HEY...maybe that's why....cause he's watching wrestling....oh well....cuddling is cuddling!! Good night everyone! Thanks for your answers on my other questions....helping lots!

2007-08-06 17:10:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's our 4th WEDDING ANNIVERSARY tomorrow. We're both in our mid-twenties. We're having a really simple outing together, and just spending quality time together. So, what can I buy my husband for $40 or under besides a card?

I'm tight on budget because I'm not working right now. Plus, it enhances creativity this way. Any ideas will be gratefully appreciated. Thank you. :)

2007-08-06 17:07:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

When We First Met I Did'nt Have Much, I Was Down On Luck But She Stuck Around. We Went Into A Mall One Day And She Wanted To Go Into A Store. She Had Been Telling Me About All These Guys Who Had been Spending All This Money On Her And Buying Her All These Nice Things I Felt Embarrassed To Go In So I Told Her I Would Wait Outside. She Began Insulting Me Saying Your A Loser I Should Not Have Talked To You You're Stupid And All These Things. Over The Months This Continued. But Instead Of Leaving I Tried To Understand Her. Since Then We Got Married And We Have Come Far...But The Insults Continue...Now I Even Do It, And I Was Never This Type Of Person. I Know Some Might Say Why Did You Get Married In The First Place......Well I Love Her....She Is A Good Woman...She Just Says Things That Sink Deep Into Your Heart....I Still Have'nt Forgotten Things She Said Six Years Ago!. But Im Wondering What To Do Now..Because Im Getting Older And She Still Wants To Do These Things...I Need Help!!!!

2007-08-06 17:05:05 · 10 answers · asked by Mr Green Eyez 1

My boyfriend have a baby that is by a married women( before we met) we are planning to get married so I want to know if she wanted to seek child support out of anger can she ? And if so well they combine his income and mine or just his income?

2007-08-06 17:00:23 · 23 answers · asked by babygirl 1

My friend from over a decade recently married a man who is also a friend of mine. She changed drastically after she got married, she stopped having lunch/dinner with our guy friends (were platonic relationships). Her husband hasn't changed at all, I work at the same place as him and I saw him having dinner with this new girl at work 2 nights ago. When I mentioned it to her, she said her husband informed her about going to dinner with the girl from his workplace. I know she is confused about how much interaction is okay with the opposite gender after you are married. What interactions do you married people think are permissible?

2007-08-06 16:57:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I have been together for 4 yrs off and on. We now have a 14 month old. I feel like all we do is fight and when I talk to him about our relationship he sometimes says he wants to be w/me b/c of our daughter, and he's sick of me b/c all I do is gripe. Well I asked him to go to a counsler w/me and he hates the idea, but I think the only way for us to have a fighting chance is to talk to someone and hear what they have to say. I don't want my little girl to grow up in a house where all we do is fight. It's not healthy, but will this work even though he doesn't really want to do it??

2007-08-06 16:53:46 · 27 answers · asked by grlfrmtx04 1

me and my b/f have been dating for 4 years. and he keeps talking about marriage but i'm not all that sure i like him and we've been together for a long time what should i choose?

2007-08-06 16:45:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you have questions regarding S**, where are you supposed to ask them. I came across a gay,lesbian category but couldn't find any heterosexual s** category?

2007-08-06 16:45:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met this couple years ago and became friends with them. Whats even better is that they wound up getting married. Now they have a house and two children together. Three years ago while i was over their house her husband made a move on me. Of course nothing happened cause i wasn't having it. But things changed between her and i . Our friendship changed. After this incident occured i left to college without saying goodbye. She questioned my behavior but i made up an excuse for my behavior. When i moved back i sought her out because i missed her so much, she is important to me. the only thing is that she always does everything with her husband and invites me over for dinner. I cant stand him and now her and i dont even speak anymore. she seeks me out and wonders about my behavior. He was drinking that night, is that an excuse? Should i tell her the real deal with everything she has invested? Should i just say goodbye to the friendship and let her come up with her assumptions?

2007-08-06 16:35:27 · 8 answers · asked by lily 2

Why do people feel or say sex is wrong, its bad, or its nasty?

I have been with my Man for 3 years.. no other guys just him and only him.

Besides that.. i just don't understand why people get so a fended by it? My parents never talked about it NOT ONCE TO ME MY HOLE LIFE. and when i lost my V (witch it was 3 years ago) they treated me like i was the biggest slit in the world! Sex is something you do when you love some one.. yeah i understand when people get mad about slut'y girls and nast man whores but thats the GIRLS or GUYS flat they are the ones screw every one in the would and i would understand someone if they didn't like a people cause they slept with every guy they see... but why do people judge you when your with someone for o most 2 years and you and the guy wanna have and talk about sex...

Uhh i know you guys are like what the heck.. but i feel people think of sex as if, if you do it your going to Hell...

WHAT DO you think of sex?????

2007-08-06 16:34:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband only sleeps in the bed with me when he wants sex. What is wrong? i am 5'9 156lbs. I measure 36-30-42. When we met I measured 34-26-40. And I just had a baby 8mths ago. I bust my *** everyday going to work, school, taking care of my son and working out. Am I out of shap, or doing something wrong?

2007-08-06 16:30:29 · 12 answers · asked by MrsMarshall 2

I love him so much, so much that I don't want to lose him. I told him that I am so disappointed and sad. He said that he would end it and had managed to do it. I told him that he is forgiven but it is very painful for me. The thing is how can I pull through it. Any suggestion?

2007-08-06 16:27:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is the best and he wants me to ask this question...................... serious anwser please.....

2007-08-06 16:26:53 · 9 answers · asked by krazy 1

I saw this topic on the news tonight and was really curious what other people thought or would do or have done in your own situation.

Me and my husband lived together before we got married, I am glad that we did, but now that we are married I do not feel that it played any part in deciding whether or not we were going to get married.

What do you think?

2007-08-06 16:21:10 · 16 answers · asked by mom2abigsis 2

My husband currently said he doesn't love me anymore. We are growing apart. Everything I do, he hates. He is obsesed with money and doesn't want to work on our marrage. But he doesn't want me to leave. Another man resently came into my life that I was with 11 yrs ago. And he still loves me and everything about me. Flaws and All!!! He moved, so thats the only reason we broke up. My husband never appretiates me. So should I stay with him and deal with it. Wail until he gets alot of money and just hope it gets better? Or should I leave and start over with the other guy, who is not money drivin. Not broke, just not obsest with it. My husband is a great father and man, just not a very good husband to me. I will never be enough for him. Someone please help.

2007-08-06 16:14:10 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so my gf has an imeem account which is sorta similar to myspace but she kinda flirts with some guys on there....is that considered cheating?needa know....

2007-08-06 16:11:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's crazy, but sometimes when I'm sitting here, I feel sorry for him and wish he knew what love is. I miss him even though he hit me sometimes. It's been over a year since the divorce and I don't get this feeling alot but it surprises me when I do b/c I feel stupid for still caring. Anyone understand?

2007-08-06 16:08:18 · 12 answers · asked by jamie kat 6

Knowing he has an addiction to beer, drinks 24 or more a day, and claims he doesn't remember how he acted or what he did the night before? I always remember what I did the night before, nothing was a fog even though I was drunk.

P.S. those days are past me, I don't get drink because of my husband's addiction.

2007-08-06 16:07:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

he helped me while i was dating my husband.but now he enforces me to do sms or phone i cant do anything he threatens me that whatever conversion is going oon with him he will tell my hsbby.without my wish i am talking to him and trying to patch up things.but after 2 days he disturbs me.my health is getting affected due to metal tension

2007-08-06 15:56:45 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

This was just a theoretical question. But this actually happened but in the reverse. My husband was physically and emotionally abused by his stepfather. In addition, he took him to peep shows as a child and there was always pornography around the house. I didnt know all this before I married him. But as you can imagine, he has a lot of problems (of a sexual nature, including an addiction to porn). After many years of urging him to get help, all to no avail, we are finally separating. Our sex life was practically non-existant. In spite of all this, he is a good father to our kids. I really feel I did my best to get him help, but why do I feel like a failure? I know I shouldn't. I was sick myself in the mid-90s because of a condition similar to a brain tumor. Back then he stuck by me, took me to the hospital, didnt complain (much) when I couldn't work. I stuck by him too over the years, even through his affair. But I just want a normal sex life and an affectionate husband. Am I wrong?

2007-08-06 15:45:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please Indians help me with this situation. I am a doctor, just finishing my residency training in general surgery. So is my cousin, but now he is now entering a cardiovascular fellowship. My cousin is dating a white woman. I am trying to get him to leave her, but no luck. I want him away from her. I feel white women are dirty and slutty. I hear about white nurses at the hospital (also black women) who have 1 night stands with multiple men. I have found out the white woman my cousin is dating has been with several men.

My culture is different. I see white women dancing very slutty at bars, and kissing random men. I hear the stories and heard of some who do more than several men in a relationship, being unfaithful to their other.

I need my cousin away from this woman. Already he has told me she has initiated sex with him even though he has refrained because he wants to be married before sex.

any advise that will help me pursuade him?

2007-08-06 15:43:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay when your in a long term relationship asking your wife things like this... Are you happy with me? Is there anything I can do to make your life more stress free and happy. Do you feel I communicate enough with you? If there was things you could change about me whats the first one? I'm trying to learn from my failed marriage as I think lack of communication was a key factor and I never want to go through the heartache again but I also don't want to give up on love. Would that be considered good communication regarding the relationship? Currently a student studying in the school of hard knocks!

2007-08-06 15:34:25 · 20 answers · asked by David r 1

My husband was recently arrested and had to agree to rehab for his dependency issues and he wanted it kept from his family but it was out of control and financially i needed help. First he begged me not to say anything but as the charges started to pile up as well as the bills i was left with little choies. Now he is so mad at me he is contemplating divorce. My family as well as his said that i did the right thing but i dont know should i have kept my mouth shut like he wanted? i helped more than he knows i was the one who got him into rehab and out of jail and he has no idea but he does not even want to hear waht i have to say. he has little remorse for how he has hurt me and his family and is blaming the whole thing on me. Was i wrong? i never meant to betray him i needed help adn had no idea what to do.

2007-08-06 15:27:03 · 20 answers · asked by kayshlee72 2

This is crazy. My husband had (what I think was a very minor affair) with a mutual married friend. Needless to say, we're no longer friends with this couple. This was over a year ago. I just found out recently that she and her husband are pregnant. I am a career girl and want to be sure this marriage can survive before bringing a child into this world, so we are waiting for those reasons...but, I'm feeling older and older. Then, I found out my ex from YEARS ago (who I had some serious history--an abortion--with) got a girl pregnant and married her. We are all now in our 30s, so not babies ourselves.

Why do I care about what happens in the lives of these other people who have hurt me in the past? I want to live a good and happy life and this feels so bad.

Why do I feel like I have to one-up people who have wronged me? I think it's too much at one time coming back to haunt me. Why can't I just deal with my own life and not care about these losers?!?!?

Sorry so long..

2007-08-06 15:23:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

it has been months now and i still feel withdrawn from my boyfriend. he tells me to be patient and that he will eventually heal. he claims that he responds this way to me b/c i wanted to do a temporary job move 3 hrs away. says he couldn't imagine being away from me and felt hurt so to prevent himself from being hurt he began to shut down. problem is...i am no longer leaving and it has been months and he is still the same...getting worse actually. i cry now when i lay next to him b/c of how withdrawn he is...is this apart of the normal ups and downs of a relationship or is it really over

2007-08-06 14:50:29 · 15 answers · asked by Divine_10 2

My wife of many years left me for a guy at her work last year. I divorced her very fast as she didn't want to go to marriage counceling or anything she just wanted her new lover. I talked to her last week as we share our children together. I told her how I'm putting my life back together and she said "Your putting your life back together what about my life?" I almost fell off my chair! She bankrupted us from gambling 3 years ago and I had excellent credit and now she is blaming me!!! I somewhat feel blessed that she is out of my life now so I can find a wonderfulk women who will love me and I will love her. Was my thinking right about her statement?Is she in some kind of denial? I also found out that she has written tons of bad checks.

2007-08-06 14:43:09 · 15 answers · asked by David r 1