Do you ever miss and care about your ex, even if they were physically mean to you?

Question

It's crazy, but sometimes when I'm sitting here, I feel sorry for him and wish he knew what love is. I miss him even though he hit me sometimes. It's been over a year since the divorce and I don't get this feeling alot but it surprises me when I do b/c I feel stupid for still caring. Anyone understand?

Answer 1

I completely understand. My ex was physically and emotionally abusive to me, but when he was acting normal, it was the best love I ever knew. I miss him occasionally, but then I remember that I'm better off not being hit and without all the bruises. It's okay to feel sorry for him, but don't pursue it. You deserve better than being hit.

Answer 2

Right now I do. Oh well. I cant vomit though, as I havent eaten anything but a king size Snickers Almond for two days. I have had heartbreak before. And believe you me, thats what it is. It does get easier. You dont forget the words, or actions, of said person, and yes you may very well miss them forever, but it gets easier. Obviously he didnt deserve you if he was harsh, and someone out there does deserve you and will be better for and to you. Just remember he hurt you alot when you were with him, and you werent getting any closer to getting over it. At least now you can try to move on. EDIT: I seriously thought I was pregnant with the second Messiah there for awhile. I was waking up sicker than a dog, and vomiting alot. No sex in almost a year though. Turns out it was stress.

Answer 3

I really do not understand why you would label this as being stupid. This world would be a much better place if everyone could truly forgive their exes and wish them well in life compared to being bitter and full of hatred. Having compassion for mankind is never a stupid thing.

Answer 4

Yes, I do understand. I got out of an abusive relationship about a year ago. What I've learned is that I do miss the good things. It makes me sad it went so bad but there are NEVER enough good things to make physical violence okay.

Answer 5

I had the same situation with my ex. I got married to another man, and even after we had a child together, I still miss the ex that hit me. There's nothing wrong with caring about someone. Just make sure you never go back to him. If he hit you once, he will do it again. You can be his friend, just let someone else be his punching bag.

Answer 6

I had a friend that kept going back to her husband. He would cry, say he was sorry and would get help. He never did. Not only did he almost kill her, he almost killed her child.

You fell in love with him when he was on good behavior. You can usually find good things in anyone; however, they do not out weigh being betten on or worse.

Stay far, far away. Find someone who treats you like you should be treated.

Answer 7

Yes, it's normal 'cause you shared an important part of your life with that person. But just remember that you got divorced 'cause he didn't love you. You did, but not him. You have a scar that needs to heal, but only time would do. Be patient, and you won't ever remember him at all.

Answer 8

of course dont feel stupid its perfectly normal. that just means that ur a caring woman every man shoud b lucky to have u. i understand tho. but good luck on the situation. every time u think about him whethere every other day or once in a yellow moon breathe a prayer in your heart to God. pray that he does learn the true meaning of love.

Answer 9

Once you get over him, you'll look back and know that you did the right thing by leaving. Abusive relationships are NEVER good to stay in. I admire your courage fro standing up for yourself.

Answer 10

You have made the right choice, you love yourself more than you love him so you moved on. Care for him is acceptable as you are human and you loved him before.