My husband only sleeps in the bed with me when he wants sex. What is wrong? i am 5'9 156lbs. I measure 36-30-42. When we met I measured 34-26-40. And I just had a baby 8mths ago. I bust my *** everyday going to work, school, taking care of my son and working out. Am I out of shap, or doing something wrong?
2007-08-06 16:30:29 · 12 answers · asked by MrsMarshall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I ask him, he says he just likes sleeping on the couch. We have been together 5yrs, and had the same couch for 3. Yet this just started a few months ago. I don't think i am out of shape i can run a mile and a half in 14mins. My stomach is flat, but I do not have a six pack anymore. Its really depressing because other guys tell me how good I look all the time, but my husband doesn't even look my way. He doesn't kiss me unless i force it or we are about to have sex, and he only sleeps with me when he wants sex.
2007-08-06 16:42:39 · update #1
If you just had a child, this is probably the problem. Everyone thinks children will bring you closer, but it's really the opposite. You're tired, stressed, and have lost the last shred of your freedom. He's probably just coming to terms with the fact that he's essentially signed away the next 18 years of his life. Give him time, he'll come around.
2007-08-06 16:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you seem to be putting too much of an emphasis on materialistic things in life (i.e. how you look) rather than focusing on each other. you should just come out and ask him why he doesn't want to sleep in the bed anymore. The best approach is to act concerned and try not to accuse him of anything. Let him know you miss him sleeping in bed and want to know what you can do to make it better. Men love to feel like they are wanted/needed. give him that satisfaction and you will be surprised by his reaction.
2007-08-06 23:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by girlygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you at all he must seeing some other women or now you guys have a little baby he feels like that you don't put too much attentions on him like when only two of you.
2007-08-06 23:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Racecardriver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with CuriousMe.
The two of you just had your whole world change and I would think readjustments are still being made with the new addition to the family.
2007-08-06 23:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rickard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him this question. He is the only one that knows why he doesn't sleep with you. Are you out of shape, not really compared to your pre baby size. There is probably nothing wrong with you, just him. Ask him.
2007-08-06 23:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The reasons could be:
1) He could be very tired due to taking care of the baby?
2) You are out of shape after giving birth
2007-08-06 23:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by CJR 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe he has something on his mind (i.e. his path in life, his kids, the marriage). Y'all need to have a serious talk, but on his time only...only when he's ready to let it all out. Don't nag him about it.
2007-08-06 23:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by ***MAF*** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes to sleep alone, there is nothing wrong with you. Many people like that.
2007-08-06 23:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is horrible, you sound like you are a good size. i am a woman so I dont guess you really wanted me to answer but I just had to give you my opinion. No offense, but maybe you snore, or maybe he snores and doesnt want to keep you up...
2007-08-06 23:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think anything is wrong with yu.. maybe theres something wrong with him.. try talking to him.. let him know how you feel.. and ask him how he feels.. with communication the relationship goes a long way.. try working it out :) good luck
2007-08-06 23:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋