I met this couple years ago and became friends with them. Whats even better is that they wound up getting married. Now they have a house and two children together. Three years ago while i was over their house her husband made a move on me. Of course nothing happened cause i wasn't having it. But things changed between her and i . Our friendship changed. After this incident occured i left to college without saying goodbye. She questioned my behavior but i made up an excuse for my behavior. When i moved back i sought her out because i missed her so much, she is important to me. the only thing is that she always does everything with her husband and invites me over for dinner. I cant stand him and now her and i dont even speak anymore. she seeks me out and wonders about my behavior. He was drinking that night, is that an excuse? Should i tell her the real deal with everything she has invested? Should i just say goodbye to the friendship and let her come up with her assumptions?
2007-08-06 16:35:27 · 8 answers · asked by lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had this same thing happen with my best friend's husband and my own brother-in-law. I made it clear to both I was not interested and it stopped. Give him another chance. It could have been the alcohol talking that night. If it happens again, I might consider telling her. If he is doing it to you, you can be assured he is doing it to others. By the way, both my best friend and my sister-in-law ended up divorcing because their husbands cheated. You cannot change his behavior. You can just choose not to be part of the problem.
2007-08-06 16:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her everything u just wrote. If shes as good a friend she'll be cool Drinking's no excuse but if he does that often doesnt she need to know? the answer is yes
2007-08-06 16:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bubb@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is insecure with her relationship and maybe this has happened to her before. she might have trust issues. talk to her about it without telling her the details about your thing unless asked of course. you should never lie. maybe him drinking is a major problem that has been going on for a while and she just needs you to listen to her. let her talk about her situation. be there for her and if it doesn't work out at least you tried.
2007-08-06 16:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was drunk and nothing happened. Why are you wanting to ruin a friendship over this? We all do stupid things when we're drunk. Be an adult and move on.
2007-08-06 16:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. But I'd say be honest with her and tell her what happened. If he made a move on you, god only knows what he's doing now.
2007-08-06 16:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well friends should notlet a guy ruin their friendship and if he does not try anything else then by al means just try to forget what happen and if he starts sagain then tell her
2007-08-06 16:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by littlebit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her friendship is valuable to you, you should tell her what happened. Why let his actions ruin your friendship?
2007-08-06 17:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not upset her, but the first chance you got i would step to him and let him know what he did was inappropriate and could ruin lives and to keep his distance, once that was done, i would continue to be friends w/her and he would know everytime i was around don't play w/me or i will talk to your wife. and believe me, she knows who she married. - good luck
2007-08-06 16:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by lynnette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋