Knowing he has an addiction to beer, drinks 24 or more a day, and claims he doesn't remember how he acted or what he did the night before? I always remember what I did the night before, nothing was a fog even though I was drunk.
P.S. those days are past me, I don't get drink because of my husband's addiction.
2007-08-06 16:07:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depending on the situation I would stand by him...I don't think we should run off when we realize our spouse has issues...that's the time we stick by them UNLESS he's being violent, abusive, and/or there's kids involved.
My husband use to have an 'alcohol issue' that's what we use to call it. He use to drink so much and every time he would black out...it was scary. One day I researched alcohol addiction and emailed him this link that helps determine if you have an alcohol addiction or not. He filled it out and indeed the results came back as he had a possible alcohol problem.
That made him realize maybe it was a serious problem (And I wasn't making a big deal out of nothing)...since taking that quiz he stopped drinking so much and has maybe 3 beers on the weekend and that's it. Mind you that's after countless arguments about his alcohol consumption.
Good Luck with your situation!!!
2007-08-06 16:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by purplebee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things like this seem to run in my family, what they have done is given their husband an ultimatum and said if they do not clean up their act they will take the kids and leave. It got to the point in each situation where she left because he did not think she was serious, once she left he got his act together.
Like the other poster I suggest counseling. If the problem is that serious he is going to need help.
As hard as it may be you did get married for good or bad, sickness and health, to cherish, and love forever. If it were you what would you want him to do?
2007-08-06 23:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by mom2abigsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey unfortunately when it comes to addictions, often if he won't accept his problem and get help, you have to take drastic action to snap him outa it. Like leave him. Write the reason/s down in a note and leave it where he will find it. Tell him you'll come back when he is willing to stop / change / get help. That is the only way. Then if he doesn't, decide if you want to live this life or not.
2007-08-06 23:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give him one chance to seek help. Honestly anyone who drinks that much definitely has a problem with alcohol. Many claim not to have, thinking only hard liquor can do such harm, but beer and wine are just as bad. Don't let him think he can do it on his own, when he's that far into drinking. Convince him you'll leave unless he seeks help.
2007-08-06 23:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband might need help because it sounds like he has a drinking problem. Try getting him some help, this is if he is willing to go. If he is willing then give him another chance however, if he is not willing then you need to make moves and get into a healthier realtionship.
2007-08-06 23:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get some help for his addiction and you should go to Alanon meetings so you can see that you are enabling his behavior by continually giving him chances. Eventually you will get your fill, but I would highly recommend you seek counseling now so it can happen sooner than later and he can get the help he needs.
2007-08-06 23:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by DK Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not many. alcoholism is an addiction. you dont want him to be like this around your children, let alone yourself. He really needs to cut back to moderate drinking or social drinking. Please get him help before you consider "chances" becuase it is a really hard thing to work through and I'm sure as well for you.
2007-08-06 23:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll give him another chance if he starts attending AA meetings or does something definite to make a change. Saying "I promise not to drink any more" is not enough.
2007-08-06 23:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time that my husband lied to me I gave him the first chance, but after all this years,him committing adultery with a married woman,I can't anymore. i just can't stand saying I do understand even though that i don't, so overall I did gave him the only chance that i can give him.............
2007-08-07 01:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like that, I would seek counseling. If nothing changes, it sounds like you need to leave.
Life's too short to be unhappy because of someone else's problems!
2007-08-06 23:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋