My husband is furious that I share details of our relationship with one of my best friends. We have been close since 10th grade. She is now 31 and I am 30. He doesn't want me to nag him about anything, and he sure doesn't want to hear discuss any of the issues. If I have made every reasonable effort to talk to him about something and he isn't interested, what am I supposed to do? I am already seeing a counselor, but it's not like I can call her up in the middle of the night when I have a problem. I can only go so far with the advice on Yahoo Answers. What are your thoughts?
2007-08-06 17:30:54 · 11 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
May I add that she lives in New Orleans.
2007-08-06 17:39:08 · update #1
that's a easy one.. you will learn in time you don't tell spouses everything. i talk to my friend or friends when i need to.. men do to don't let them fool you. i learned in my relationship with my hubby there are things they just don't need to know. like my deep dark secrets.. if you know it bothers him i would not tell him what you talk about to your friend. besides its not his business. and men do the same they don't tell us everything.. its like you don't go and do it then tell him you did it and you knowing its going to piss him off.
2007-08-06 17:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not. Yes, I am married. There are certain things I tell my friend.But Even though I've known her since we were babies she understands that he is now 'my best friend'.It is a betrayal to do that to your partner. Put yourself in his position....you wouldn't want him doing that with his best mate! If he's not listening to you , try approaching it from another angle .Blabbing off to a pal isn't going to solve it- maybe that's the whole problem...that's why he's being so difficult.Work out your problems with him and don't walk away till they are solved!
2007-08-07 00:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by no name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talk to my best friend about my relationship all the time. I've never told my husband about it though. It is better that way. I am sure my husband talks to his best friend about our relationship to some level and I don't want to know about it. What I talk about to my best friend is my business. What my husband talks about to his best friend is his business. Yes, we are married. BUT, we are still 2 different individuals. There are things that we share and there are things that we keep for ourselves.
2007-08-07 00:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say to him that if he isn't prepared to talk to you about issues, then you are going to have to get the answers/comments from somewhere - don't make him make this your problem, he needs to share some of the responsibility.
2007-08-07 00:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do and yes I'm "married" .My friends and I like to thrash things out and most times we come up with a solution or just feel a lot better for having talked about it!!
2007-08-07 00:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone has someone that they shre personal things with. Well maybe some guys don't but for me one of my best friends is a female so i will tell her personal stuff but guys don't to much do that sharing personal info stuff so he just don't understand. You shouldn't let him know you told her stuff.
2007-08-07 00:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
e mail me with your problems. ill do my best. skysmama77@yahoo.com. im 30 too. did you have your birthday yet this year? also i too confide my problems to my friend. i need advice from time to time. im also curious how old your hubby is and if he had his birthday yet. im only askin because i dabble in some chinese astrology and have come to find the compatabilities and the way we interact have some to do with it. get back to me kay.
2007-08-07 00:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you and ur husband does or says should stay with you and him, really would u want him telling his friends about you
2007-08-07 00:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do that is my outlet and yes we are both married.
2007-08-07 00:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by JANET 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, and that bitc h slept with him.
2007-08-07 00:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋