How to avoid the mistake of falling into the provider category? Thanks...
2007-08-06 17:12:40 · 20 answers · asked by Ronnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just act like an unreliable bad guy and that should take you out of the provider catagory. But why would you want to be any one other than who you are?
"To thine own self be true and it must follow, as the night the day, Thou can not then be false to any man." (Shakespeare’s Hamlet)
2007-08-06 17:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by sara r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women fall for either or, depending on their persona.
To avoid the mistake of falling into the provider category, do not provide during courtship and see how she loves or treats you then. Or just take a chance and provide anyways, and you will be able to search deep down your fears if someone really is there for you and not what you can do. Oh yeah, try finding someone who is financially stable as well and is not always talking about money. That is a good idea.
2007-08-06 17:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It needs to be a combination of both.
Without love the 'providing' seems worthless, without reward and you will only end up feeling 'short changed'
Without some sense of responsibility and goals to work for then love also becomes 'empty'. It is difficult for love to flourish in an environment when basic needs are not being met. Food, roof over head, etc.
The answer to the question is simple. A woman is attracted to the way you make her feel. She needs love, she needs you to desire her and you need her to want you for yourself. But also that very raw need that everyone has to have someone who contributes to the relationship and provides a healthy environment that takes care of all those within the relationship is also a part of the attraction.
You will never fall into the 'provider category' if you find someone who loves and respects you and turns to you for all her needs (emotional, physical) not just the need to 'have things'!
2007-08-06 17:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two in one, one can't have one with out the other. The provider makes us look and admire him as strong and as capable and we feel safe, the lover makes us feel loved and cared for and admired and as a woman we feel how wonderful their masculinity feels when they are the lover and we feel so feminine when we are being provided . So there is no way that the two are not one. Or that the one is not a two parted player in the life of a woman.. So don't try to be one always be both a provider and a lover...One can't be with out the other.. If you try to only be a lover you will lose and if you only try to be a provider you will lose..
2007-08-06 17:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women want both. If you don't want to be the provider you just have to master the art of romance. Get in to the womans head and find out what makes her tick. Then use it to give her fulfillment. Also don't do the sugar daddy thing an let the woman take too full of an advantage of you. Make sure she is capable of standing on her own.
2007-08-06 17:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth most woman still get caught up in the whole idea of romance. and they want to be provided for. the best advice i can give is if you really want a serious relationship, you need to be sure that the 2 of you can be a team. you have to be best friends. because sometimes when things get tough, it takes patience understanding and forgiveness. im curious to whats your birth year sign. ive been learning alot about chinese astrology and the compatabilities are fanominal. so accurate. feel free if you want some direction in what type of woman would be right for you.
2007-08-06 17:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question.I guess I would have to say I was attracted to the lover but now that you brought it up I guess it is a combination of both. I never really thought about it until now. A lot of these questions on here really make you think.
2007-08-06 21:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all women should look for a combination of both. In order for you to keep a balance just make sure to keep the romance alive. That means provide all the security you want, but keep it hot in the bedroom, and in the kitchen, and the shower, living room, car...
2007-08-06 17:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by dm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both is good - but I have never looked for the provider. I have always made more money than anyone I have dated or either of my husbands. Financial independence is freeing! All women should seek to be in the position of supporting themselves.
2007-08-06 17:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women just want the provider, they show you signs of materialist stuff & always wait for you to pay the bill.
Other woman (myself) want the lover, the man who can make her melt and take her heart away. A man who is completely into her and her feelings.
She will show you that when she looks into your eyes.
2007-08-06 17:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Grumpy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋