I saw this topic on the news tonight and was really curious what other people thought or would do or have done in your own situation.
Me and my husband lived together before we got married, I am glad that we did, but now that we are married I do not feel that it played any part in deciding whether or not we were going to get married.
What do you think?
2007-08-06 16:21:10 · 16 answers · asked by mom2abigsis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is a geed way to solidify your relationship. For you it was a good experience for others it may be an eye opener that the relationship may not be what they thought it was. For others who may not be convinced it may open their eyes to the fact they can have a good marriage. For others they may have no intention of getting married but find they can live very well together. So I think it is beneficial and something to be at least considered by all.
2007-08-06 16:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by K K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a great idea although it all depends on some people's religious beliefs and morals.Unless you live with someone 24/7 there is no way to get to know them better,see how they are and if they can make a good spouse.That way you split financial responsibilities as well which is a major factor in the future.This is the best test to find out whether two people should be together till the rest of their lives.
2007-08-06 23:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by AB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have nothing against it. Hubby and I lived together for a few years before we got married. It has worked for us going on 10 years now, and neither one of us changed after we got married. Part of that could be because we are high school sweethearts and we got to know each other very well through the years before we did get married. I can't say that for every one who lives together before hand, as my father in law married his live in girlfriend of about 8 years and hubby and I have seen the changes in her.
2007-08-07 01:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will disagree, but knowing how you get along as a couple before you get married can really open your eyes. You could find out that the two of you really don't hit it off well, or have some issues to work through before you get to the life-long commitment phase. I would rather know how compatible we were before we got married.....than to find out later, and go through an ugly messy divorce.
2007-08-06 23:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We lived together before we got married, but AFTER we got engaged. Personally that's the way that I'd recommend people go - there's a little more commitment than just bf/gf, and you're probably more likely to try and work it out if your engaged.
2007-08-06 23:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it did play a part...you had a sneak preview of the movie and learned if you wanted to watch the whole thing, lol...and good for you.
Not living with someone before marriage is in my belief, a bad idea. There's just too many negative surprises.
2007-08-07 02:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its definately important in my opinion - who knows maybe you get married and find he leaves his dirty clothes in a pile in the bathroom (just an example) and you cant stand it or maybe your partner does other things you just cant stand and they wont change - it may have been a deciding factor on wether you were going to get married in the first place - I really believe you should know that you can live together happily before you marry
2007-08-06 23:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a stupid thing for a girl to do. I would never suggest it to any female (up to age 50) For the man it is not such a big deal, but for the woman it can be devastating.
There is no way to duplicate the commitment and devotion of a marriage by shacking up together. I really oppose to it when there are young children involved. It is not good for children to see mom or dad with a bf/gf in her bed without being married. This is not about morals, my decision is based on being smart.
2007-08-06 23:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think living together is the best thing for everyone involved. No matter how long you've known someone, you never really know them until you live with them. How can you marry someone and commit a lifetime to them when you don't fully know them?
2007-08-06 23:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a good idea because you get to know the person better. i believe if me sister didn't live with her ex first she still would have married him last month... but since she lived with him she learned that he was a complete dick... everyone could see if but her. without all the time spent with him she'd be in a horrible situation right now
2007-08-06 23:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋