he helped me while i was dating my husband.but now he enforces me to do sms or phone i cant do anything he threatens me that whatever conversion is going oon with him he will tell my hsbby.without my wish i am talking to him and trying to patch up things.but after 2 days he disturbs me.my health is getting affected due to metal tension
2007-08-06 15:56:45 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi, I really don't understand much of the question but if you want to go into more detail please feel free to e-mail me.
2007-08-06 16:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by dixie_n_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friendships do you get into? I gather you are newly married; just recently you had problems with your loneliness and now you share your thoughts with some stupid fellow[who threatens you]You are either confused and vague or not totally truthful. If you want to save your marriage, you have to be very straightforward with your partner. Playing games can never strengthen a relationship.Come clean with your husband-I am sure you have not been indulging in some shady affair. On the other hand if that is the sad truth and the blackmailer has some solid ground, then you will have to face the music-because lies and deceit cannot go on for too long. If you have been innocent, then be quick, pray to God and confess things to your husband. He will hold the aces till you confess things to your husband. once hubby knows, and things are settled the little rat can bang his head against a brick wall.
Good luck!
2007-08-07 07:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by artqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sunshine: First of all you are still shining and not at all in trouble. A calm and cool mind can solve any problem. You have to handle this villain in life with practical approach. Your husban knows this puzzy cat since he was the fixer for your dating. Follow these steps now:
1. Brief your husband about the problem in hand
2. Analyse the consequences of a direct confrontation with him or through a common friend or taking legal recourse.
3. If the guy is working, you can even inform his employer about his unethical behaviour and any progressive employer will fix such employees properly.
4. Call this fellow to your house and both you and your husband talk to him and make him understand the need to follow certain values in life. Give him a good treat and bid farewell. I am sure he will become normal.
5.As a last step, file a complain with the local police and there are provisions in criminal law to handle such paracites.
Best of luck
2007-08-07 05:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by villager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is not very clear how this guy can force you and what are those secrets? Unless things are clear no body can help you. I think you can add some details to your question because this site gives you the advantage of anonymity. I know a person with more or less same situation.
2007-08-06 23:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Friendly medic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really cant tell ur hubby abt it....then u shld turn to someone else who will be able to help.
Pls dun delay any further.........ask urself ,who is worth ur trust.
Explain to them abt it and heed their advise .
Am sure u ve some close sisters or brothers or aunts who will definitely help u out of this mess.
Pls dun worry too much and it will only increase ur tension and stress level.
Dun worry,this situation will soon change soon 4 the better.
May god bless u dear sister.
2007-08-07 04:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by *♥sugar♥* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what this guy is forcing you to do. Don't you think at this point that if you let it go any further you will only suffer more. You need to be honest with the hubby if its that bad. Or call his bluff tell to go ahead and tell hubby. Who will your hubby believe. Freedom from a trap is better and safer for you.
2007-08-06 23:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to face the music. Tell the hubby and let the chips fall where they may. Other wise this person will always hold the secret over your head.
2007-08-06 23:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur question is not much clear but better to face the reality rather then being get threaten n getting mental tentions.
2007-08-06 23:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just inform your husband.If you are finding it delicate, find a common good friend(preferably female) and ask them to handle it for you.
If the problem still persists go to a women protection cell.If you are in india the help is available.
Just relax. take action on any of the three
2007-08-07 08:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by dukominimo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not talk to him in person and ask him his intention to disturb you marriage? Do this guy has intention to you sexually? discuss with him what he wants and compromise as long he is committed to his promise? Nothing wrong with communication with him to settle your problem for the benefit of your family?
2007-08-06 23:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
waaaaaaa!!!!!
Stop being such a pu ss y. Tell your husband, take the heat and drive on. You can't be the innocent little victim that you are trying to portray here (otherwise you wouldn't have these "secrets"). Stop calling, texting and any other form of communication.
2007-08-06 23:03:32 · answer #11 · answered by jade j 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋