How do I overcome my insecurities? My husband and I went on an "Adults Only Float" this weekend. We had a

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great time while we were there but now that we are back home, I'm feeling a little jealous. I totally trust my husband and he is very respectful to me so that's not the problem. I know the problem is strictly mine I just don't know how to deal with it. Don't get me wrong, it was not an orgy or anything, just a lot of flashing and nudity. I was really okay with everything and doing my fair share of showing my titties. Our "policy" was everytime he got to see, I got to show. Anyway, one of the girls had very big breast and my husband was very impressed to say the least. Now that we are back at home I can't get the image of her breast and my husbands reaction to them out of my mind. I am a 34 D so I'm not small by any means but I could never compete with her big mamms. Now all I can think of is that he wishes mine were that big or we would like them better if they were that big. He tells me that she had big nice **** but that he loves mine and he wouldn't change a thing about me

We are not "swinging" or having an "open" marriage!!! I am not stupid, I know that this would kill my marriage because I know that it is something I cannot handle. This was just something we did for fun and not a life style!!!

Answer 1

I don't know if this will help.

My wife (of 32 years) has very large breasts - I don't know what size but she needs to go to special shops to get bras.

Guess what I look at? Women with SMALL boobs!

It's not that I want the small-boobed woman - it's just something different grabbing my attention.

I love my wife just as she is and wouldn't want her to change a thing!

Answer 2

i was a swinger for many years. It sounds like your not YET secure enough in your relationship to have went on this float. Many couples can not deal with their spouse being attracted to others. A LOT OF people think a swing/orgy sounds great when it happens one person get angry jealous rejected. I never had that issue i see beauty in all things. You need to talk this out with him. Swinging is not for everyone don't do things that make you feel bad. On the other hand DON'T FEEL BAD because society makes you think it's wrong. THINK for yourself do what is best in your situation. I have big uns my hubby and i BOTH prefer smaller breast c cup. Large breast are not all that great we are thinking of getting mine reduced. SWINGING IS NOT A SURE WAY TO KILL A MARRIAGE. If your relationship is not ready both people don't want it well then you were screwed going in.

Answer 3

That trip was just the start and the beginning for more "Adults Only" trips. It usually starts out playful, each time, it becomes more.

So, if you are not secure enough to go down that road, then you must make a decision soon.

As far as the boobs, your husbanb will always see more attractive women. It doesn't mean that he is not attracted to you. However, with the move towards "Adult Activities", it seems as if the both of you are seeking a little more spice in your life.

But, in retrospect, you will see much larger and bigger cocks. That'll be something hard that your husband must deal with especially if you guess make it to the orgy stage.

Answer 4

I am not even going to look at the other answers. Speaking from the heart, after I read your letter. I would tell him that~~~ Honey, I would prefer that you not join the guys this year". (If he ask why?) I have no reason at this point not to trust you. "I would have an uneasy weekend if you join them." ( If he ask why ?)" In light of what I know about all of the other guys I would feel more secure in our marriage if you would not put your self in a position of becoming like them. I hope this will help. I have been married 54 yrs. to one man, and at 22 I stopped some similar nonsense, by going to my husbands commanding officer. A little talk from him and here we are today. My husband has never cheated since. His career was important to him. He is retired navy today and we have 5 happily married grown children & 5 grand children and life is wonderful. God is good & I am grateful. Good Luck~~jill

Answer 5

I think we all feel a little jealous from time to time. I would have never gone to something like that, I have way too many insecurities. You know the grass is greener on the other side, her breasts might be beautiful, but what about her attitude and nature. Your husband married you because he loves you, you need to remember that and don't let your jealousy ruin your life. Someone, somewhere will always be more beautiful and have a better body, but you are you and you are unique.

Answer 6

That's why these kind of things aren't good for a marriage. You married each other so you should only be seeing each other. Now it's led to you having insecurities and wondering if you need to improve yourself. I say you don't do this again because it opens doors that shouldn't be opened while in a committed relationship such as marriage. Just tell him how you feel and see what he has to say and move on. Don't compare yourself to other women.

Answer 7

It is nothing new. It is said,'men always feel the other man's wife is more beautiful' but it is also said, ' that a man calls his wife Queen of Hearts' in your case you are the Queen so don't spoil the relationship, it is a passing phase and may be many more such situations will come, you need to be more communicative and have more confidence in each other than only the relationship lasts longer and wish in your case it is, Till death do you apart.'

Answer 8

Forget about it, just a knew jerk reaction from a man, if you had seen a guy with a big one you would say "Oh wow" just a knee jerk reaction, you had your fun and so did he, just be happy you are happy in your relationship to experience a wild adventure like that, 34D is pretty healty, so you already have plenty of what most men like, lucky you. Don't harp on it, you will drive yourself crazy, just say to yourself all men will look at big chested women, it is a give, for that even women will do a double take and say 'oh my'.

Answer 9

What is wrong with you if your husband didnt love everything about you he wouldnt have married you in the first place.
so what this other person has big breast it doesnt mean a thing men like to see woman with big breast sometimes it doesnt mean he wants her. God made you just they way you are be happy and stop acting like a child.
best of luck

Answer 10

Not a problem that I can see, my only question is why is it that the women were only being nude and flashing. Men also like to nude too.. If I went I would have been nude as much as warranted if females can be naked why can't the males I believe in equal nudity for everyone.. Its natural and I do not see male and female group naturism as being being wrong.