Marriage & Divorce - 30 July 2007

What the fascination of having sex outside anyways..My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and we have never done that and i know neither 1 of us would ever want to do that cause i think making love is a private thing between 2 people not to be viewed by the whole world lol.

2007-07-30 18:09:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

current. He pays off and on, he has had two bench warrents out on him and one of them is still current. However, my issue is that he is a youth pastor at a local widely known baptist church. He also is a youth advisor. He has not paid any child support in months nor seen my child, and missed her birthday. He lives with his parents, two min. away from me. I feel like he is a hypocrite, and I want the truth out, what's the best way to handle this?

2007-07-30 17:29:46 · 14 answers · asked by single mami 2

I cheated on my wife and I got herpes. She'll get pretty upset if she knows that I cheated on her, but she's not really that smart, so I think there's a way out. Are there any good herpes articles or magazines that can give me something to tell my wife? Her gyno keeps filling her head with nonsense about me cheating. Which I did, but she doesn't need to know.

2007-07-30 17:25:06 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been watching Big Love on HBO for the past two seasons and I like the idea of having multiple spouses. I brought it up to my wife and she doesn't like the idea. It's not like I want a second wife, I want to give her a second husband. There's just so much to do around the house and I don't have 36 hours in a day.

What's the best way to convince my wife that having a second husband is good for our family?

2007-07-30 17:01:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is awesome, he works very hard at Wells Fargo, is taking part time courses and still has the time to make me smile everyday.

Unfortunately, everything he does for us and our future does not seem to be enough to help me stop being a complete b..... to him. I try really, really hard. I have even started therapy, am taking some anti depressants, getting rid of negative friends and environments, I have even picked up new hobbies to help me release stress and keep me busy while I am looking for work.

Still, sometimes I get frustrated because he does not help me with chores unless I get mad at him or yell. He does not listen to a word I say about anything and seems to think his ideas are always best, which they usually are. I have made some pretty stupid mistakes, maybe that is why he does not listen to any of my suggestions...I dont know. I am not sure if it is me that is causing him to think so less of me. Help! I have not idea what to do anymore.

2007-07-30 16:21:10 · 13 answers · asked by tuckerjess 2

headed to a hotel for a few days. I'm devastated, but we haven't been on the same page for ages, and there's been a lot of arguments. Arguments about the big things too - eg family and religion. We have a 6mo daughter. My question is; does a cooling-off period ever work? We both still love each other but need time to re-evaluate, and clear our heads. I knew this was coming but I didn't expect it to hurt so much. Has this sort of time out worked for anyone else?

2007-07-30 16:06:01 · 10 answers · asked by meiha636 2

currently in a secret relationship and hiding it from our parents that live in another city whom strongly disapprove and will do anything to stop it.

we love each other very much, are established working adults, and want to get married but now the parents want to move to the same city.

We love it where we live but we are afraid of what the parents will do. Do we stay and put up with the stress or do we move away and know that they will have to accept it and have no control over us if we are very far away?

2007-07-30 16:02:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my boyfriend is spiraling down into the disease of alcoholism at a deathly speed. I don't know what to do. He picks these really petty things to fight about, and it's just extremely irritating, saddening, and maddening. I don't know what to do. It's starting to affect our relationship.

My bf's mom says that I need to go to al-anon because I'm a "co". She went while her husband was alive and says that they saved her marriage.

Has anyone else gone to these when you have an alcoholic spouse/significant other?

(please don't tell me that I need to leave him--that's not what this is about)

2007-07-30 15:58:51 · 8 answers · asked by Froggy 3

2007-07-30 15:57:56 · 26 answers · asked by Sarah Diaz 1

wife is married with 2 kids that are his and one on the way?
if she were to take him to court what can she get him for...child support, and what else?

2007-07-30 15:55:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I believe he is not cheating on me. But I think it is disrespectful of them and him to be calling each other outside of work. If they came here toOUR home and visited when I am here ,it would be different. Am I wrong? I dont get high,but they do. I am not going to start either.I feel like they are laughing at me behind my back. I don't need other men. I only have eyes for my husband. He told me that he wants females to like him because he has some issues. I don't accuse him of cheating,I just think that my home is my territory and he is MY husband. They should keep their friendship at work and leave it there unless they want to come when i am here....uhoh..im rambling..is anyone else going thru this? Am i being narrow minded? I just want them to quit calling him is all..I do not think that is unreasonable..I t hurts me so bad inside. I want to be HIS only one. I pray to God everyday he will understand this is tearing me up. I don't know maybe I am nuts...what do u think?

2007-07-30 15:52:46 · 22 answers · asked by Shortydeb 3

2007-07-30 15:48:22 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband wants to have a 3-some and I am up for it but I want my first time with a woman to be without him plus I feel like I should have her first not him.

2007-07-30 15:41:55 · 23 answers · asked by Tessie 2

A Divorcee and a Violent person should not be heading the Women and Childwelfare Portfolios. A Divrocee who set an eg to her own daughter to Divorce - proves that she has no family values and instigating a lot of divorces around the country which is not in the best of the benifits of the children of the broken marriages - cannot hold these portfolios.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Renuka_Chowdhury

All other countries look into the backgrounds of their ministers!!

2007-07-30 15:38:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has gotten close to a guy that is married and my wife babysits for him and his wife. My wife says that he is just a friend and there is no sexual attraction. I feel threatend by him and I can't convince my wife that he is getting to close. We have since strated having problems and my wife says she just "needs her space" and in time our relationship can get back to where it was. What should I do? She says that I should not make her choose between her friend and me.

2007-07-30 15:23:36 · 16 answers · asked by Mike 4

My husband is an alcoholic, and I have come to believe that it is only a matter of time before it is over. I love him very much, but I know you cannot help someone who does not want to be helped. He doesn't see what the big deal is, having been raised in an alcoholic family. Anyhow, he has an excellent paying job, and I am disabled. We have two daughters, ages 3 & 2, and I am worried about what we will do financially when I kick him to the curb. He isn't abusive or beligerant at all when he drinks, he just likes to work alot when he has the buzz. I was never raised around drinkers though, and I do not want my children to be. So what should I do about the bills and such when he leaves? I have no family to turn to - actually, my disabled father depends on my husband and I - he lives with us. Any advice would be appreciated.

2007-07-30 15:21:58 · 7 answers · asked by portiaraylee 2

My husband and I have been married for two years now. We've been together for five years total. At first, we had a healthy sex life; however, when he got his otr truck driving job only six months after we married, things started to gradually go downhill in the sex department. I'm always innovative and very sexual when he comes home (he drives for three weeks and comes home for 4 days), but through the one year and a half that he's been driving, our sex life has gone from healthy, to pretty much non existent. We'll be intimate the first night he comes home, but afterward, it's foreplay (if I initiate) and that's it. Nothing else during the rest of his stay. He's 28 yrs old and overweight. I've heard that some overweight young men have trouble in this area. But how much trouble can an overweight male have in the peak of his sexual drive? Any honest and mature opinions?

2007-07-30 15:20:45 · 41 answers · asked by sweet_natally 1

I feel like I am....I never lived by myself for more than 3 months...
and after being married for 7 years, divorced for almost one I feel like im gonna kill myself one day from being home alone...
I work a lot 7 days a week,,but waking up in the morning and at night I can't stand it....Did anyone try to kill themselves out of boredom???

2007-07-30 14:56:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seems when I need him, he is not here for me. I don't know if I am really looking for any kind of answer here. Maybe I am just venting. He leaves home occasionally, without saying a word to anyone. Someone will ask "Where's Dad?" We'll look and the vehicle is gone. He doesn't come home till later. If he doesn't help fix my problem tonight, it will probably be too late tomorrow. I am very mad and hurt. I am ASSUMING he is at the bar. But this is how he works it.

2007-07-30 14:55:47 · 7 answers · asked by krymarbet 1

For the last 8 yrs my husband has been involved with one or more of these areas. I've made it very clear how I feel. I think it's cheating, he calls it "entertainment".

To me: watching porn, roll playing & acting out fantasies is entertainment.

Five years ago we entered the swinging lifestyle for about a year. It started out fun & ended in disaster. He became emotionally involved with someone. I was crushed. Their emotional tie just about killed me. We met them five years ago and their relationship ended last month. As far is he says, they weren't physically involved outside of our two trists.

Today he left his email open and yes, I found several different hook-up sites. I read emails. I feel deceived. He says he's a freak and that it's just entertainment. I say he's cheating. He hides it, he sneaks and he lies about it. If it's not cheating, then why lie?

Is it worth ending a marriage, 4 kids later? Can we find common ground? If it had ever stopped I may have trusted him.

2007-07-30 14:42:52 · 20 answers · asked by CeeJay 2

2007-07-30 14:29:31 · 13 answers · asked by Deb 1

yes my hubby knows and hes cool with it as long as i dont get to seriuos with another female and thats cool with me so is it still wrong cuz my hubby is cool with it?
no i shouldnt care what ppl think, but sometimes i just want the advice!

2007-07-30 14:27:46 · 19 answers · asked by colombiana_29 1

he is coming home in 2 months from a very long deployment. he loves everything, but is a simple man. im stumped! we live in virginia...is there any where special i can take him?

2007-07-30 13:57:47 · 10 answers · asked by @aX-roads 1

2007-07-30 13:56:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi my name is Ashley and I need some advice. My husband spanks my son and gets very angery with him. I try to get him to stop but he decided to go to far on here today when I simply asked him to help me cook dinner tonight hamburgers without his name is reojw. I asked him to simply show me how to cook hamburger without bread crum or anything? I just wan'ted some help. I never ***** about work actually I greet him at the door. I never never never said I would not get a job I gave him all my tax money at the bigginning of this year to get stuff for the house that we needed. I worked 2 jobs. I am willing to get a job but without a babysitter or daycare how can I do this.? I can't leave my son at home by himself. I am trying to work things out but he gets mad if I ask him to get off the computer or the game? So yes I did throw my rings at him after what I seen on here? What is going on? I try with all my heart to protect my son. IDC if he spends time with me or not.

2007-07-30 13:52:40 · 11 answers · asked by lostinlove1919 4

I have a friend who is going through a divorce, and I told her I'd research this... Can legally write write a separation aggreement without using a lawyer...?
Thanks in advance.

2007-07-30 13:45:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have been dating for 2 months, last weekend, he took me dinner, we went to see the show, he spent about $200, so I wrote him an email to thank him for the wonderful weekend. but he didnt reply, so I called him bcos I miss him and asked him if he got the email, he said yes, then he said he had a good time too. he says he prefers face to face talk, then phone calls.
but b4 we used to exchage emails a lot, does this show his less interest? I know he has access to internet during work and not that busy.
by the way, he went to do a std test today as I require him to, he told me he is interested in long term and we regularlly date on weekends, but Im not sure how serious he is to the relationship.

2007-07-30 13:44:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband told me he didn't love me or want the responsibility of our child. He still calls and emails just to talk about his day. Is it immature for me to ask him to stop? I don't want to be strung along and even though he probably thinks he's doing a nice thing by talking to me and checking in, it actually hurts more when he calls and writes and gives that kind of false hope. He even called to see if I knew anyone who had a pickup truck for sale and just to tell me about some physical test he passed today. I'm not saying I'm going to be bitter forever, I just need a couple weeks of space and talking to him makes me really sad because I think about all of the good times.

2007-07-30 13:40:08 · 30 answers · asked by Lorie 1

What would you do?
A few days ago I wrote to get advice about a man who just will not leave me alone.Thank you for the advice.?
OHHHHH! He is making me crazy and sad.Please take a peek at my question from a few days ago.I didnt have enough room to write everything here.Here are some of the things that he says to me when I break up with him.What do you think?:

Why won't you let me be your boyfriend? Why don't you want me, like I want you? Why won't you be my girlfriend? I don't understand. I just want you to want me. I just want you to touch me, to hug me, to kiss me....I just want to be with you. Why won't you let me be your boyfriend?

Why can't I ever be happy? What am I doing wrong? Why do I always have to be alone? I don't understand. What's wrong with me? Why won't you be with me? I'm so sad. I'm so very sad & alone. And you won't be with me. No one will.

I tried so hard. I really tried to be your boyfriend. I tried to be good to you. As good as I can be & I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

Sonya, I'm so alone all the time. I don't want to be alone anymore. Why won't you be my girlfriend? Why can't we be happy together? I don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying so hard to be a good man. I don't know how to be better.

I wish you'd come back to me.

With love,
Kevin

2007-07-30 13:40:07 · 13 answers · asked by Butterfly 2

I have been married 7 monthes now. When I visited my parents in law's house just after I got married I saw one picture of my husband and his ex-wife and thier 2 kids together in her living room. Now she doesnt display that picture anymore but there is another picture of my husband and his ex-wife and his brother together. She has lots of pictures of my husband and his kids in her living room but not a single picture of me and my husband together. I know she has got lots of pictures of me and my husband together.I dont know what to think. I thought me and her really get along. we often talk on the phone and my husband said she really likes me and I really thought she really likes me too. she always said the kids really likes me and how great I am with the kids.Do you think I should ask her? Why she doesnt have any picture of me in her house? But I dont wanna be rude. It is her house she can hang anypictures she wants. I just feel like I am not a part of family.

2007-07-30 13:34:35 · 31 answers · asked by Jiny 1