Marriage & Divorce - 30 July 2007

2007-07-30 07:35:22 · 24 answers · asked by bigern 1

I appreciate honest answers from women out there. I have been married for 6 months and I am not happy. I brokeup with my boyfriend of 4 years 1 year ago (it was never official, things just kind of fizzled), then reconnected with an old friend and we married 6 months later. I guess it is a rebound, I don't know. Well, my husband is a great guy and does everything to try to make me happy, but I am not. I only think about my ex all the time, I miss him too much, feel bad for how things ended (as we never really officially ended things) and love him dearly.

I wish most of the time I wasn't married so I can go be with my ex and marry him instead. I know he was so heartbroken when I got married and became very depressed.

Now that it has been 6 months that I am married, I ask you will I become happy? So far I am not? I am sad. Will this change?
Should I get divorced, I am so confused....

2007-07-30 07:34:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

We went to a marriage counseling class and he committed to no more since he knew it bothered me. He went again and spent over $400.00 there and then lied. I only found out from the credit card statement. He of course is now saying he will not go again...already heard that. I am so hurt and devastated. I then went off and acted like a crazy woman yelling, screaming, threatening to burn his stuff, etc. We are now seperated...is it time to call it quits? We have been married for 7 years and none of them have been easy. I have 2 kids and we miscarried twins last year, which did not seem to phase him either. I am so lonely and so hurt.

2007-07-30 07:26:09 · 33 answers · asked by Faith W 1

Heard this in Divorce Court. The wife was having a baby and and when she returned hom (the husband didn't visit), she asked him if he couldn't have brought her a bouquet at the hospital. She said the husband's reply was that the only bouquet he wanted to bring her was a wreath, and since he couldn't, he didn't bother.

2007-07-30 07:18:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anthony F 6

i am 55yr old. my daughter is 34. she has a 6yr old and a 4yr old. she gets so annoyed because i am interested in watching my favorite shows at night on tv. she says i should be doing something better. i tell her i raised my children and she is just jelous because she doesn't have the time anymore to do anything. what do you guys think. i feel i have earned my right to sit in front of the tv as long as i want to.

2007-07-30 07:17:21 · 9 answers · asked by deborah l 2

when my ex husband and i divorced i used to write him letters pretending to be a new girl he had met and send them to his girlfriends house where he lived and had them postmarked from another state. they never found out. i think i probably messed up every relationship he had for about 10years. (it's really ok because he was the worst lying dog i ever met. we did have 3 children and i did get over it about 12years later and we were able to be friends at that time. but don't tell him what i did, he still doesn't know.

2007-07-30 07:13:26 · 6 answers · asked by deborah l 2

i i work monday -friday from 6am to4pm. I wake up @ 5am to make my husband his lunch and breakfast. He doesnt go in untill 7am.by the time i finish cooking its about 5:30am and i only have about 10 mintutes to get ready to work. then i work go home and cook diner and clean up. my husband doesnt aprreciate me,i know that alot of guys wifes dont eve make the luch or work for that matter. when the weeked comes all i want to do is go out to the stores or go to my moms house.my husband doesnt like going to the stores with me all he wants to do his go to this familys house. the problem is my husband doesnt like for me to go to my moms house. we always argue about this.he says that he married me not my family.therfore doesnt like hanging around with them.which i think its totaly unfair because we are always at his family'shouse in the weekend. I am getting tired of always telling my mom lies of why i never go over. should i pick family and divorce my husband or stick with my husband?

2007-07-30 07:13:08 · 9 answers · asked by the one 3

i heard this from california divorce attorney. i got married in 2001 for 3 months.. i left him. i tried locating him to do my divorce but could not find the bastard. one attorney told me if you are unable to find spouse for 7 years, in the eyes of the law, in the eyes of the law you are possibly a widow, he might be presumed dead. is this true?

2007-07-30 07:10:35 · 11 answers · asked by megaherzfan 4

i see it all the time lady goes into court ask for everything (and gets it) guy tries to the same in reverse and they just think he is a really bad guy?

2007-07-30 07:00:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whether you love her more than your mother.

My usual answer would be ' there is a difference in love for a mother and love for a wife. both are different and there can never be a shortage of love for any of them. however my duty definitely comes first towards her i.e.my wife'

insights please...

2007-07-30 06:58:14 · 28 answers · asked by bebe 3

My wife and I have been seperated for two months and do not speak to each other, I live in Virginia-she lives in Illinois

2007-07-30 06:55:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

and i want to divorce my husband for this man but i am afraid of what will happen when my husband finds out about it i dont want him or his co wrker to lose thier jobs what should i do?

2007-07-30 06:54:41 · 20 answers · asked by djd 2

If u are with a guy & u say stuff like I can't wait until I get a boyfriend because I need things done around my house & he says tell me what you need & I will do it. If u say my child's father is driving me crazy because he thinks I have a boyfriend & then he says well just make sure you don't tell him about me or he says things like (he's a single dad) Let me tell u about my daughter & then he says don't worry u are going to meet her. He came & spent the night at ur townhouse & all of a sudden he tells u he is going to give his notice at his apartment because he is interested in living in a townhouse or house & even ask a few questions about ur subdivision. Last but not least, I watched "The Secret" & I have this vision board of everything I hope to obtain in my life & the wedding ring I want being one of the things on the board. Before I tacked it up he took the paper & read over it for a few minutes then looked at me & smiled. So Can u be in a relationship and not know it?

2007-07-30 06:52:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

"Joe" has had a subpeona for 4 court dates regarding child support. He hasn't come to any dates, but "joe's" father does, and has lied under oath about the whereabouts of "Joe". A witness happened to mention after the last court date that he knows where Joe lives (not where dad said he lived) and Judge overheard. The judge told the person awaiting child support payments she could issue a 'private subpeona' of some sort, and that after that, police could actually be sent to find Joe, instead of just continuing to court subpeona him, only to have him not show up in court again. Obviously Joe is hiding out to avoid payment, and is likely trying to get on Social Security disability to avoid further payment. Has anybody ever heard of this or can shed some light??

Thanks.

2007-07-30 06:49:07 · 5 answers · asked by julz_shelton 2

ok my husband is goin to Iraq in October, I only get to see him once every couple months cause he's stationed in Kentucky and im in Texas. I really want to do somethin special for him before he leaves, something fun, romantic and sexy but im all out of ideas. Guys what would you want your wife or girlfriend to do for you. or girls what would you do for your man?

2007-07-30 06:48:23 · 7 answers · asked by Kami 2

had known each other for over a year and a half(basically dating but not offically)
& had been dating seriously for 7 or so months
assume you were fairly conservative, however could honestly see that the two were In Love w/ eachother
would you solely look at the time dating or how they obviously felt about eachother
would you look at the fact that they were both mature adults capable of making their own decision and asking for their blessing due to how they felt about family and respect.
Some intel you may need-
i am 28 she is 26, we are both responsible adults-
I have a good respectable job
I have the same high morals and values that are important to her and her family.
My parents have met her already and Love Her.
I would plan on meeting him and and asking him man to man
Im going to try not to but im guessing i will get emotional, as i always do when talking about our future
what could be done to up the chances when the time to ask comes
what would you guess he will say

2007-07-30 06:41:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-husband's birthday is this week. Our divorce was final the end of May. I don't love him as a spouse anymore, but I do still care about him. He still tells me he loves me everytime I see him, and has tried to get me to work things out with him. I want to send him a birthday card because I do still care about him. Is it weird to send an ex-husband a birthday card? Do you think he will get the wrong impression and think that I care about him more and that I might want to get back together with him or will he just see it as a nice gesture? We were separated (not divorced yet) on my birthday and he called me and came up and gave me a gift also. What should I do? Card or no card? If I do send a card, how do I sign it? Thanks for your help!!!!

2007-07-30 06:40:50 · 15 answers · asked by Chiquita 3

2007-07-30 06:27:02 · 24 answers · asked by thegodfather7375 2

Have you ever been caught making whoppie???

What Happened???

2007-07-30 06:21:28 · 26 answers · asked by DEBBY'S BABY 4

Why is it my husband gets more turned on while looking at porn and playing with himself next to me than when we are fooling around together with no porn. I feel loved, I just really don't understand it. I am hot, I know that isn't it. What is it?

2007-07-30 06:21:18 · 16 answers · asked by Sandi D 1

OK we were talking about talking dirty earlier and I don't know how. My husband askes why I dont do it and I never new what to say. I just dont say anything. So if ya'll could help me with that it would go good with the rest of the tips you guys have given me! Please be as serious as you can .

2007-07-30 06:12:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im always reading questions and answers on here about "all" men fantasing/wanting 3-somes with him,his wife and another woman..Why does everybody speak for every man in the world..My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and sometimes i tell him about these questions and answers and i told him everybody says if a man says he has never had that kind of fantasy then he is either lying or gay and my husband ask me why i listen to people who dont even know him...This conversation came about cause i answered a question awhile back about husbands and 3-somes and i said i know my husband and i know the kind of man he is and he never ever mentioned that kinda of fantasy cause he doesnt believe in that kinda thing in a marriage and he would never wanna do that either and some guy said he was either lying or gay cause all men have this fantasy and i told hubby about that and he said "why do you listen to those people they dont know me"..

2007-07-30 06:06:31 · 16 answers · asked by debbie c 1

Sometimes I think people are crazy because at my age, 51 they think its the law that I should have kids by now? Every man does not have to impregnate a woman especially when he knows he would not be able to care for them. So why bring them into the world knowing their lives would be miserable. Better to not be born then to be born and not paid attention to. There is no law or rule that says every man must have kids.

2007-07-30 06:01:58 · 46 answers · asked by Housecat 3

2007-07-30 05:59:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I dated for 11 months before I proposed. We got along great and it seemed like everything changed once I proposed. She became extremely controlling and I felt more and more smothered. I probably should have called the wedding off but I thought maybe the sudden change in her had to do with the stress and pressure of having only a 3 month engagement…wrong. We’ve been married for 4 months now and it’s been hell. She is upset with me a great majority of the time over the littlest issues and we’re both unhappy. I do my fair share around the house, make a good living, and we go on date nights at least once a week so I am trying my best. Every time we argue, she cusses me and calls me derogatory names. I told her that needed to stop but she does it hasn’t. I do love her but I find myself not liking her and I can’t imagine myself wanting to have kids with her even though I’ve always wanted kids. Does this marriage stand a chance or should we just move on?

2007-07-30 05:59:19 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

Has anyone else faced this? We are not divorced and her boyfriend is not divorced and he is bringing his daughter with him.

So my kids and his kid will spend a week with these two adulterers. Any suggestions?

2007-07-30 05:31:18 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-30 05:25:09 · 10 answers · asked by delmira g 1

Everyone wants love and to be loved. But this society is accepting that people can leave their wives or husbands and kids and continue to be accepted into society as if they have not destroyed the foundation for the kids. I know people in their 40s who still talk about how their parents divorced. But that is few and far in between. Now it will be every other person.

Do people not think that if they accept it and welcome the adulteres into their fold that there is nothing stopping anyone from doing the same with their spouses?

Any sociologists out there?

I am not talking about people who married at 17. This is happening with people who marry at 35 and above. "I 'm not happy" is an acceptable excuse. How about getting therapy to address your unhappiness. You take that with you.

2007-07-30 05:22:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know for fact that I am not the romanitc type. I want to be romantic to my wife and I don't know where to start. If I did try to be romantic she thinks I am doing it just for sex. How do I assure to her that I want her to be love mentally not physically. I am planning to drop off my son to my parents' house one Friday night so I can setup this romantic evening for my wife. I was thinking of putting a trail of rose pedals on the ground filling the room with candle lights along with a nice calming music in the background leadling her to the bath tub where on the floor is a single rose representing that she is the one. And in the bathtub the water is warm bubbly waiting for her to rest her naked body in. At the same time dinner is ready for her on the dining table with candle and roses. Tell me what you guys think?

2007-07-30 05:20:51 · 16 answers · asked by Harmless 1

I know sometimes when you say wether you do/dont want kids, you dont really know until you're older. well, i am almost 26yrs and i have been w/my boyfriend for about 5yrs now and i know dam well that i want at least 2 kids, but he had said from the begining and til this day that he will only have one. he had told he friends, and i quote, "she's lucky if she can even squeeze one out from me!" that actually hurt me more than it should. we get along great. yes, we have our issues and fights, but who doesnt? there are things that i dont like about him, and im sure there are things he doesnt like about me, but i dont want to be over 30yrs and either just had one child or still havent got any. am i wasting my time??? i want my boyfriend, i love him w/everything that i am/have, and i KNOW he feels the same, but is there a future?

2007-07-30 05:17:43 · 40 answers · asked by Raquel H 1