Whether you love her more than your mother.
My usual answer would be ' there is a difference in love for a mother and love for a wife. both are different and there can never be a shortage of love for any of them. however my duty definitely comes first towards her i.e.my wife'
insights please...
2007-07-30 06:58:14 · 28 answers · asked by bebe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her your love for your mother is different that the love you have for her. Tell her she should be glad of this because, this makes you "normal". My children ask me sometimes who I love more, them or their father, or one of the other kids. Weird as it is, sometimes people wonder these things. We have the ability to love each individual in our lives differently, I love my older daughter differently than I love my younger daughter, my husband differently that I love my father, they are different people in my life. I love them all more than I could ever express......none could ever be replaced. Sounds like your wife is feeling left out some how.
2007-07-30 07:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sandi D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is pretty much perfect. Good for you.
Not only is it a nice way to word it, it's 100% accurate. Love for your wife is nothing at all like the love you have for your mother.
You should love both your mom and your wife the same amount - but obviously in different ways - but, your wife should, like you already stated, be your #1 duty.
2007-07-30 14:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your wife is asking that question implies that she doubts you love her as much as your mother. Your behavior communicates this to her, i.e. time you talk to mom on phone, what you tell your mom, etc. Keep a record for a month of the time you do anything with your mother, (even when you talk about her) vs. how much time you talk, spend with your wife. You may be surprised at what you find. Also, don't tell your mom that your wife feels this way. It will probably make things worse for you. Your behavior must "match up" with what you tell your wife, or you are communicating a more powerful message with your behavioral message than with your verbal message. I hopes this helps and best wishes for your marriage.
2007-07-30 14:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by farfromhome5yrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married to a 15 years-old immature and insecure teenager?? It seems you are...Something really CHILDISH!!!!
Well that question is just insane and stupid i know what people and you meant when you said the love for a mother is different of the love for a uwife but i think thats not it what your ... well , wife meant . Looks like she is asking you like who would you save if she and your mom were about to die like in a burning building which is the type of question i used to do to my parents when i was like 9 or 10 years old about loving me more than loving my sis!
If I ever asked that to my hubby(which ill never do) I´d expect him to say that he loves more his mom cause i think a mom is more important than a wife!
2007-07-30 16:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to take a giant leap and say that the question is referring to a problem where she feels that you defer to you mom and family and have not separated yourself emotionally from them. In other words, you value the opinion of your mother more than your wife's.
It is not about love. It is about starting a new life as an adult with your wife. Respect your mom, but put your wife first.
2007-07-30 14:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife asks that? Wow, the love for a mother and wife come from the same place but are soooo different. Or they should be. Your wife comes first but I ask myself why is she comparing herself to your mother?
2007-07-30 15:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by TJ H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because its am impossible question.. the love for your mother and the love for your wife are two different kinds of love. One is not higher than the other.
2007-07-30 14:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, the trick is to marry a sensible and intelligent woman, because a woman who is sensible and intelligent won't ask such a ridiculous question. Thank goodness I did -- my wife would never ask me that.
Unfortunately for you, it's too late. I like your answer, but what I would have done would have been to ask, "Who do you love more, me or your father?" Then, after she answered, I would give her back exactly the same answer she gave me.
2007-07-30 14:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would she be asking this did you leave something out about your mother. yes a love for mother is different than of you wife..but now that you are married you main love is your wife. and you mother comes second so don't make your wife jealous of you mother...something must be going on for her to ask such a question to you.
2007-07-30 14:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered correctly, in my opinion.
Did you wife ask you that? For what reason? Was there a situation in which your wife felt that you chose your mother over her?
If not, I think your wife is being somewhat immature by even asking such a question.
2007-07-30 14:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋