why is it ok for women to go after the most child support, but if a man tries to pay the least hes selfish?

Question

i see it all the time lady goes into court ask for everything (and gets it) guy tries to the same in reverse and they just think he is a really bad guy?

Answer 1

Because she's using her kid to get everything. The excuse, "it's for the child." makes anything go!

Now, I'm saying that children are not expensive or that some mothers really do need that money and use it for the betterment of her child, but I cannot deny that many mother's are not very good at raising children and are just as selfish as their ex husbands. You see, the guy who wants to keep the money doesn't give a rat's *** about the betterment of the child excuse. If he knows the wife is just selfish, he should be fighting his *** off for custody.

Answer 2

I'm a woman that receives child support (occasionally) from my ex. There are so many people dodging child support payments, it makes it hard on the ones that are doing the right thing and supporting their children. On the flip side, I've seen women receive child support that's supposed to go to the children and totally blow it on drugs, expensive things for themselves, and even on their current boyfriends! To answer your question, paying the least child support you can, has the "appearance" of being stingy. The courts leave enough for you to live on, but not what you'd LIKE to live on. If you're ex is spending the money on the children, you shouldn't have a problem with it. The children are with her, so the expense is going to be higher on her end anyway. I think what pisses most people off that have to pay child support is the WAY it's done. From your point of view, the government just goes in and TAKES your money away. As I said in the beginning. You have to thank all these damned deadbeat parents for that one. If they would've been taking care of theor responsibility, the government would've never started doing this type of thing.I know it doesn't mean much to you, but i have the utmost respect for people like you that step up and take care of their responsibility...

Answer 3

This is because society is still imbedding how the family structure should work into our heads. The belief is the man makes the money...supports the family....blah blah blah.

I think it's a bunch of crap! If a mother doesn't have custody of her kids she should pay whatever amount of child support the father would if he didn't have full custody.

here are many instances that the woman can be negativly impacted because of societies views as well. I was reading an article about how mothers get more time in prison than fathers for the same exact charges for child abuse. Personally I think they should both be hung...but my point is...our legal system is influenced by our society's belief just as most people are.

Answer 4

That's not true at all. My Mom didn't get ANYTHING... She willingly, out of guilt, gave my Dad everything and she's suffering now because of it.

It's a proven fact that most men make more money per hour than a women - even if they work at the very same place for the same exact amount of time.

Men in most cases can find a way to support themselves with little struggle, while women like my mother work THREE jobs and can barely keep the electric on.

It all depends on the case. You're wrong to say that it always happens.

Answer 5

Trust me, even at 23% of the guys income, isn't enough to pay even half the cost of childcare in most cases. And why wouldn't a man want to support his children the best that he can? I don't get that. I do everything for my daughter, I care for her daily, I do without so I can give her the basics. Her father tells me he doesn't have the $$ but he goes out a buys a new cell phone, which he has 2 that are in working order. HMMMMMMM....yeah an electronic device is more important than your child having formula? Not to mention he doesn't take any responsibility for ANY of the daily care. He drops by once a week to see her. She just stares @ him the way she stares at the bag boy at the grocery store, like who the hell are you?
When I see a father, a true father, caring for his children it steals my heart. Show me more men like that and I'll show you a man who isn't b!tching about what he's having to pay for child support.

Answer 6

I don't think the guy is bad. I actually had the weekly child support I get reduced from $60 a week to $45 a week because it don't take very much to raise a kid here in Arkansas. I do believe men have to pay way too much when a woman leaves him. My hubby now pays $180 a week and there is no way that money is getting spent on the kid. I didn't want crap from my ex husband when I left him. I'm not a mooch like my hubby's ex.

Answer 7

It's another two-sided issue. Both parents should be equally responsible for their children's welfare. I think that the money involved in this sort of case should be handled by a third-party. It would solve the problem of 'supporting the ex's greed' that's for sure. The courts need to change the way the child support system works, because as it is now, it doesn't always work.

I think alimony is a bunch of crap, too, unless the reason for the marriage ending is because of adultery.

Answer 8

Because it takes money to raise a child and most of the time (Unless you're a Trump offspring) child support falls at least $200.00 short of what it actually takes, yes the custodial parent puts in their share, but th child uses electricty, groceries, telephone, water, sewer, garbage, the custodial home either has a mortgage or rent, then there are clothes, school supplies, gas, taking the child to and from school/doctor/dental appointments and if the non-custodial parent doesn't carry insurance on the child then the custodial parent pays for it all. There are entertainment fees, the child usually likes to go to the movies, skating rinks, after school activities which all cost money. The non custodial parent should pay for at least HALF of all of these things since the custodial parent is providing half plus for herself. Maybe the non-custodial parent should have thought about how much child support costs BEFORE he unzipped his levis and pulled down his hanes and planted his seed.

Answer 9

Boy, you are a brave one to ask this question! :)

I believe that the father should pay a fair amount towards raising his children. I, however, don't believe that the courts are aways fair in deciding how much to take from the father. The mother needs to also work hard to earn enough to support the family that she helped create.

Answer 10

Children have to eat, every day. They need clothes, shoes, soap, water, a bed to sleep in, schools supplies, coats, hats, a roof over their head, vitamins--every day! Why should the mother have to pay more than her share for all of this, while the father pays as little as possible? Wake up, my friend. A father who tries to get out of paying his fair share of child support is a bum.