Why is adultery so acceptable now?

Question

Everyone wants love and to be loved. But this society is accepting that people can leave their wives or husbands and kids and continue to be accepted into society as if they have not destroyed the foundation for the kids. I know people in their 40s who still talk about how their parents divorced. But that is few and far in between. Now it will be every other person.

Do people not think that if they accept it and welcome the adulteres into their fold that there is nothing stopping anyone from doing the same with their spouses?

Any sociologists out there?

I am not talking about people who married at 17. This is happening with people who marry at 35 and above. "I 'm not happy" is an acceptable excuse. How about getting therapy to address your unhappiness. You take that with you.

Answer 1

Uh...I do not think that it is acceptable AT ALL!

Answer 2

Because society makes it acceptable. When there is cheating going on some just cannot tollerate it in the marriage and divorce. I think that's the biggest reason that couples don't make it because the trust in the relationship is broken. They don't stick with commitment and work on problems before things get out of hand. So friends and family accept it because they want to keep their loved ones around right or wrong. Blended families are becoming the popular family of today. Some marriages could probably work out but then for some it just can't when there is emotional and physical abuse and the one doing it dosen't want to change.

Answer 3

Adultery is accepted because there is not a true commitment by people who get married too hastily. Most young people like jumping in and out of bed with whoever, as fast as changing underwear. No morales, No proper up-bringing, and absolutely no parental guidance for children to grow up to be responsible adults. Families won't take the time to talk to their children. So the children grow up the only way they know how, by the seat of their pants, and from children or young people not much older than they are. There sexual drive in most cases is uncontrollable. Free sex as far as they think is the way to go. That is also happening in the drug scene. Most parents that have a young person in their family doing drugs don't have a clue. So again the young person is living the way he/she wants to without fear or reprisal. That's it for me. I sure would like to see everything reverse themselves, and families get more involved in their children's lives. Someone needs to take charge of this mess that is going on. Someone has to be responsible and held accountable for the wrong that is going on in today's society.

Answer 4

in my opinion. there are a lot of people out there that still marry for all the wrong reasons. because they got someone "knocked up", or because they are in a bad situation and this person can get them out of it. a lot of people are not in love with the person that they are married. a lot of couples also get married because of public image. "well this person has money and a good rep., so i think that i would marry them" i have heard it all.
i am old fashion and i still believe in true love and the whole soulmate idea but i think that i am the only one left on the universe that feel this way. i believe that i have found my soulmate and we will be together until dooms day. no i am not saying that it is easy, but when people put aside the whole petty mess of the world and start looking for someone that not only makes them happy but keeps them happy, the world will be a better place.

Answer 5

I couldn't agree more!! the foundation of familys is being destroyed more than ever before and I think media has a lot to do with it. Adultry does affect kids and destroy families. Your right the funny thing is that people think that if they are not happy.. just find someone else, to eventually find out that new person is not so great either. I think society is going to have a bunch of lonely single people because nobody is willing to work things out anymore. " for better or worse" in todays society does not apply. SAD isn't it??!!

Answer 6

Possibly because the whole "PLAYA" thing is always glorified on television. Like it's cool to have a wife, a girlfriend, a side piece, and a jump off.

I know that it's much easier to get a divorce now, and there are incentives such as alimony, child support, etc. I also think it's because of the lack of spirituality/religion nowadays.

Answer 7

In this day and age of "no fault" divorce, it's easier than ever to just cheat or divorce and remarry at a hare's pace, especially if minor children are involved. I don't think it's more acceptable at all, I just believe it's more prevalent, the shock factor is a nanosecond and then it's on to better pastures.

People should be happy with themselves, about themselves and life in general, marriage is serious and shouldn't be taken lightly, I don't care about "I'm not happy," it needs to be addressed before you bring someone else down with you.

Answer 8

Well it is one of the 10 commandments and the Church and God are not very popular these days. It's unfortunate because God just wanted to teach us how to conduct ourselves to get the best possible way of living in peace. When they took away God they took away morals.
It is never to late to repent and ask forgiveness so that you can be redeemed and have a chance to get to heaven.
I could not believe all the parents divorced at school when my sons were in grammar school. They started divorcing when there kids were about to graduate and go to high school. My husband and I were they only few left that are still married today. September 2 will be 30 years. It has never been easy but we try everyday to work out our differences and we realize we are in this for the long haul. I would not want it any other way.
God Bless you and you get a star for your question from me. Thanks you.

Answer 9

I don't think it's acceptable, (I'm 20). I was raised in a Christian home and still hold those values and beliefs important. I think people just don't take the vowels serious enough now. It seems to me that a lot of people have the viewpoint "it's all about me and if I'm not happy then I can just get a divorce and get out". I try to remain optimistic though and hopefully by taking my vowels serious it can influence others to do the same. God Bless.

Answer 10

Adultery is not acceptable.
We are human beings and are able to live by a standard that allows all of us to live in peace with one another. A person taking advances at anothers wife is not living in peace. We are not animals and should not live like one.
Only we when we reach for a higher standard will we ever get close to it.

Answer 11

Not trying to be preachy here but the bible clearly talks about this. If people don't havea belief in something larger then themselves, they make themselves their "god". They do what feels good to them with out worrying about consequences to themselves and others. I agree they should get therapy but people tend to not want to face painful truths. When I went to counseling it was HARD work. I am thrilled I did it though and my dh and I have a much improved marriage. As christians we've had to learn that our lives are not all about us and our happiness. Therefore when we "feel" something we stop and evaluate it. Is this the right thing to do? Is this in line with God's word? etc if you don't have God to look to and you don't believe in forgiveness and salvation then what is the point in life. Then all you have is today and you live to please yourself only. I remember not being a christian and thinking I'm going to die one day and then none of this will matter so I may as well have fun now. Boy have I changed since then.