and i want to divorce my husband for this man but i am afraid of what will happen when my husband finds out about it i dont want him or his co wrker to lose thier jobs what should i do?
2007-07-30 06:54:41 · 20 answers · asked by djd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the co worker is married too and he is going to divorce his wife for me
2007-07-30 07:06:17 · update #1
it's never a good idea to divorce the husband/wife for somebody. what if your relationship with your lover won't work out? you can divorce your husband because you don't love him anymore, you don't want to work on your marriage etc. but not because you've met somebody new. if you do decide to get divorced, don't run into your lovers arms right away. get yourself financially and mentally stable first.
explain to your husband that it's not because of another man, but because you stopped loving him. maybe, just maybe you won't hurt him as much. i pray that i will never be in his shoes.
2007-07-30 07:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're already sleeping with this coworker you obviously don't respect or love your husband. If you divorce your husband for a man in the same company, both will have problems. The co worker will be disrespected from his peers and most likely will do more harm to him. They have to leave jobs. I'm all for patching things up with your current husband, but if you slept around while married I personally have no problem is taking you to court and try to take everything I possibly can from my mate. I'm confident I can always get someone else if my wife ever decides to cheat. Just understand the consequences and make a decision based on that.
2007-07-30 07:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by the_blue_eyed_papi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think anyone will get fired? There may be some exceptions, but most companies couldn't care less about the sordid affairs and personal relationships of employees, just whether or not the job is getting done. That being said, if you and the co-worker go ahead with this relationship he will have to face the fact that he will have to get a new job. How do you think this 3 way relationship is going to work with him and your ex working at the same place? You are pretty naive if you think that's just going to be OK with both of them. Your BF and you need to face reality - if you want each other you need to start a new life and he needs to find a new job voluntarily Before the **** hits the fan!
2007-07-30 07:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by saturdays child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affairs are lazy attempts of escaping one's own life. You want more, but are too chicken to start clean. The thing is not everyone will take the next step to move on. I can very easily see your lover chickening out and NOT leaving his wife because "its just not the right time." I knew a man that was having an affair and the women left her husband and the man ended up get his own wife pregnant and therefore leaving his lover out on a lurch by her self. Remember lover have one game face when it comes to an affair, but they are a completely different person when it comes to being real and around each other 24/7.
2007-07-30 07:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you obviously aren't in love with your husband so divorce him...
and leave his co-worker alone. There is nothing you can do and no way that you can possibly have a relationship with this guy without it causing a LOT of issues.
2007-07-30 07:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
break it off with the co-worker until the divore is 100% finalized!
If your husband already knows about this he will win everything in the divorce (if the judge is an ethical human being).
This is why I won't get married....
2007-07-30 07:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by learningbusiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over. Go to counseling.
What makes you think that if you both divorced and you married the co-worker that he wouldn't do the same thing to you?
2007-07-30 12:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Wayne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do this? You've disrespected your husband, by allowing another man--a man he knows--to sleep with you. Moreover, you've disrespected another woman, by disrupting her marriage as well. You are a selfish person who lacks self-esteem. You don't even care about your own body. You're the worst kind of a woman, and your husband will be well rid of you. By all means, get your divorce; so you can ruin another life.
2007-07-30 07:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the co-worker feel the same way?
2007-07-30 07:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in love with my husbands co worker.....?
2014-12-14 21:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋