Why is it my husband gets more turned on while looking at porn and playing with himself next to me than when we are fooling around together with no porn. I feel loved, I just really don't understand it. I am hot, I know that isn't it. What is it?
2007-07-30 06:21:18 · 16 answers · asked by Sandi D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dosn't make me mad. Some here seem to think so. I just find it interesting and was wondering what about it that got him so hot. For me it is seeing him that hot.
2007-07-30 06:34:43 · update #1
At least he's including you....take advantage of it and stop complaining
2007-07-30 06:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the forbidden, taboo aspect of the porn that he finds compelling, and that is magnified when you sit next to him naked and watch it with him.
My wife started crying and we had a minor scene just this past weekend over this exact same subject. It took me a long time to explain to her and reassure her that the flickering porn actresses were not more stimulating to me than she was.
Your question has at its root an indication of your own insecurity. You say you are hot. KNOW that, instead of just saying it, and be amused by your husband's arousal with porn instead of personalizing the degree of his arousal afterwards when he is with you.
Jump in, girl! When you see him totally aroused by the porn, jump right on in there and get yours!
2007-07-30 13:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is supposed 2 b taboo and watched alone or w/ buddies at stag parties. U sitting there "sharing" the experience is a turn on b/c it's "dirty". As long as ur still getting it on and u don't feel cheated sexually, I would roll w/ it. It's not like he's cheating on u and he's letting u watch him masturbate, there's A LOT of potential there, use ur imagination. Have fun.
2007-07-30 13:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Misty D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He a voyeur...watching others is exciting for a lot of folks. There are all kinds of different things that turn people on...being caught and someone watching is a turn on for some. I won't even go into fetishes and kink. None of it is bad so long as it is between to consenting adults and no one gets hurt. Its called a healthy sex life.
2007-07-30 13:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm...You could be hot, but you might not be what he wants.
Maybe you're blonde and he likes redheads, maybe he has a little lean (if you know what I mean). Maybe he's into the voyeurism thing. Some like to watch.
2007-07-30 13:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Variety is the spice of life. No matter how hot you are he will seek alternatives. As long as you are getting yours, and he is not cheating, there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-07-30 13:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Copy what the girls in porn are doing
2007-07-30 13:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just really likes porn.
2007-07-30 13:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him play with himself, do it for him while he's watching porn, use it to your advantage, don't get pissed about it.
2007-07-30 13:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by crappiekat1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite some more women to have sex with the two of you it seems he needs more than one. WAIT he should pay me for telling you that whats his name
2007-07-30 13:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by Rodney E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋