headed to a hotel for a few days. I'm devastated, but we haven't been on the same page for ages, and there's been a lot of arguments. Arguments about the big things too - eg family and religion. We have a 6mo daughter. My question is; does a cooling-off period ever work? We both still love each other but need time to re-evaluate, and clear our heads. I knew this was coming but I didn't expect it to hurt so much. Has this sort of time out worked for anyone else?
2007-07-30 16:06:01 · 10 answers · asked by meiha636 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, this is tough.
But it just may help, so hang in there.
Just keep your cool and your dignity. Wait it out and see if this will give both or either of you another perspective on your unrsolved issues.
Good luck. You really need it
2007-07-30 16:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by LotsofFun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I are doing that very thing right now. I got tired of his crap all the time. I was the one to move out and not him. And I did bawl like a baby for the first 2 or 3 months after I moved out, didn't let him see me bawl. That was almost 2 years ago. We still talk to each other and still see each other once in awhile, but I am not ready to take him back yet.
Some people the cool down only takes a couple of days and some takes longer. Ours well take a long time as he is having to go threw drug rehab and all that good stuff. Don't get me wrong, I do support him in it, but I will not stay with him until I know that he has changed 100%.
I have even told him that I will wait on him to change BUT not forever!
Keep one thing in mind, if it was meant to be for you guys to be together again, you will be together again.
2007-07-30 23:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unthinkable for two people to cool off and then get back together but when one leaves, it's usually the beginning of the end. Family and religion are indeed big issues but you have a child without marriage committment and that just adds more problems to the mix. If you can't come to agreement on the major issues, it's better to call it quits before it takes a divorce to settle things.
2007-07-30 23:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH god no! This doesn't work. That's running away from your problem. I have a boyfriend and were not little kids or young teenagers, but we did a cooling off thing and it was murder!!!! I wondered where he was at and vice versa. It wasn't a good feeling. Luckily we loved eachother enough to forgive and try to forget about what happened in the two months we took off, but it's definitely not something I would recommend. However we are still happily together now, after almost 3 years.
2007-07-30 23:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really need to take a cooling off period with my man too, except he won't leave, but it may help. I say just try it for a few days. Maybe it will give you two the time that you really need.
2007-07-30 23:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a cooling off period does work. My advice is to find a hobby or something to do during this time period and do not push your partner. If pushed he or she may feel pressured to make a quick decision and not have time to think things thru.
2007-07-31 09:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i left for a few weeks when me and my husband were having problems and we talked a lot while i was gone and eventually i came back. this was 8 months ago and ever since i have been back our relationship has been wonderful. i really hope that everything works out good for you. if you both really love each other you will be able to work through your problems. suggest going to see a counselor and getting a some relationship advise.
2007-07-30 23:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by daisycm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I long for time apart sometimes. Look you too need to talk not runaway from your problems. I'm sure he'll be back and then you too can have that talk you so badly need. No problem is so great that it can ruin true love unless you let it.
2007-07-30 23:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by rebeccaangel2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back and breath. Everything will work out how it needs to. Sometimes that's what you need, time apart. Just give him time, it will be okay.
2007-07-30 23:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by RevGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times it does, but in the end it depends on how willing you both are to work on your problems, sometimes love just isnt enough.
2007-08-03 19:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋