my husband wants to have a 3-some and I am up for it but I want my first time with a woman to be without him plus I feel like I should have her first not him.
2007-07-30 15:41:55 · 23 answers · asked by Tessie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not ever ok to cheat. Not for any reason.
2007-07-30 15:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, cheating is cheating regardless of how you "label" it. When you marry, you're joining ONE person together in a union. You're not marrying a three some. You made a commitment to the one you married & ONLY to the ONE you married. Something is wrong in a marriage if there's a need for another member to be involved, its just not the way a marriage was intended to be. Why don't you rethink what you're planning on doing. You married someONE because you loved him & wanted to be in a committment w/HIM. But cheating is cheating regardless of how it's done or who it's done with.
2007-07-30 22:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sue C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating. It's your karma, and what goes around comes around...wonder if he's thinking the same thing. He may well have some chick picked out that he plans to "test drive" before introducing her to you as a playmate.
Don't do anything to anyone that you wouldn't want done to you. Your last statement is classic for a cheater...cheaters are selfish people and you said "I should have her first not him"
2007-07-30 22:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if this is your first attempt at a threesome don't do it!! It always gets weird! ALWAYS! and then you live your whole life wondering if he liked her better?was she better at this or that? have they fooled around again. and once the men get a tast of another woman the seal is broken and they usually go out and cheat on their own. don't do it! unless you want to break up.
2007-07-30 22:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by tookoolfool 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If you want out of the relationship get out. If you still love him, try again. Bringing other people into a relationship never works. You are already jealous and it is just an idea. Relationships are fragile, too fragile to risk if there is still love on both parts.
2007-07-30 22:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Swinging only adds trouble. I did it to try and save my marriage. Sure it was totally hot but the reprecussions are still ringing...5 years later.
I should have known better. I compromised my own morals to try and save our marriage and now...it's in shambles and we have kids.
It is cheating. I'm telling you, one or both of you will live to regret it.
2007-07-30 23:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by CeeJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's be for real here. NO, NO, NO, it's is never
okay to cheat no matter who says it is , because
when one gets married and is married then cheat-
ing is left behind. SORRY, but that's just how it is.
2007-07-30 22:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by RudiA 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be VERY careful with this. Most of the time it leads to serious problems of jealousy. You could end up with nothing but the third party, or maybe that is what you want. On the other hand it might serve him right.
2007-07-30 22:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it's ok, and not technically cheating if you explain this to him beforehand. Beware though, if you decide afterwards it's not "your thing" and decide not to go ahead with threesome - where does that leave things?
2007-07-30 23:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by meiha636 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if your gonna bring in a woman...you need to find one thats a WHOLE lotta woman like me!
I'll make sure you get your HERCULEEES on!
2007-07-30 22:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's nasty, point blank period. There is a limit to everything, and you and your husband will cross this line and you will hit the point of no return.
2007-07-30 22:47:51 · answer #11 · answered by RevGal 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋