What would you do?
A few days ago I wrote to get advice about a man who just will not leave me alone.Thank you for the advice.?
OHHHHH! He is making me crazy and sad.Please take a peek at my question from a few days ago.I didnt have enough room to write everything here.Here are some of the things that he says to me when I break up with him.What do you think?:
Why won't you let me be your boyfriend? Why don't you want me, like I want you? Why won't you be my girlfriend? I don't understand. I just want you to want me. I just want you to touch me, to hug me, to kiss me....I just want to be with you. Why won't you let me be your boyfriend?
Why can't I ever be happy? What am I doing wrong? Why do I always have to be alone? I don't understand. What's wrong with me? Why won't you be with me? I'm so sad. I'm so very sad & alone. And you won't be with me. No one will.
I tried so hard. I really tried to be your boyfriend. I tried to be good to you. As good as I can be & I don't know what I'm doing wrong.
Sonya, I'm so alone all the time. I don't want to be alone anymore. Why won't you be my girlfriend? Why can't we be happy together? I don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying so hard to be a good man. I don't know how to be better.
I wish you'd come back to me.
With love,
Kevin
2007-07-30 13:40:07 · 13 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's sick and you know it. Stay with him and you will be miserable forever. Stay with him and you are as sick as he is. This must be a joke as no one would seriously consider this guy as dating or marriage material.
2007-07-30 13:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him like the plague. Don't give him any reason to think you might want to go back with him.
If he still keeps on bugging you after a week or so, I'd tell him in writing to leave you alone. If he continues you could file harrassment charges against him. People can't just bug the crap out of others. You could change your cell phone number and home number without a fee if you are intersted in doing that.
He probably is just really missing you, but hopefully after a few weeks he'll lighten up. Good luck!
2007-07-30 13:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are playing a big part in this and are allowing this to continue, so you have to STOP playing your part in this, if you want him to go away and leave you alone. He is using emotional technique to try and get to you, one of the cunning ways to power play and make you feel guilty. NOW you have to stop answering his phone calls and if he comes to your place at all, pretend your not home. If you pick up the phone and its him, hang up immediately. Tell him if you must that you don't think you are compatible and wish to go separate ways.
2007-07-30 13:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call the police, I'd take out a restraining order on him, and I'd go sleep at a girl friend's house for the next month. Change my phone, and stop the mail. These are the kind of guys that could kill you... he could easily work himself up to be a stalker.... Do it now, girl
2007-07-30 14:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order against this guy! he sounds a bit nuts. seriously. you've told him to leave you alone already. don't feel sad about this. be a little scared. there are stalking laws in effect in many areas. call the cops and find out how to get the r.o. good luck.
2007-07-30 13:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like perfect stalker material! Not at all stable.
My advice is to stay as far away from him as possible.
A restraining order might not be a bad idea.
Good luck!
2007-07-30 14:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a man w/no backbone and most women of course do not want that, he also sounds like the beginning stages of "if i can't have you no one will" please be careful, you will need to start changing your ways to make yourself unavailable for him to talk to you. men need to understand, when a woman is done, we are finished and there is no turning back. if this gets worse, i advise you to file a police report so that you can obtain a Protection Order ----- good luck
2007-07-30 13:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by lynnette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K. he's a freak, and possibly dangerous. Get a damn restraining order with a quickness. Let him know that you have drawn the line, and he needs to back off.
2007-07-30 13:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by diablo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very obsessive, just call it off completely, dont stay with him out of pity, that would just make it worse
2007-07-30 13:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are not the words of a mentally stable man. Run far, far away from him.
2007-07-30 13:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋