yes my hubby knows and hes cool with it as long as i dont get to seriuos with another female and thats cool with me so is it still wrong cuz my hubby is cool with it?
no i shouldnt care what ppl think, but sometimes i just want the advice!
2007-07-30 14:27:46 · 19 answers · asked by colombiana_29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are free to live your life the way you want. It is perfectly okay to be attracted to both sexes. However, you married a MAN. I would say that if you stick with him, there is no problem. If there are other relationships (whatever they may be--romantically, not friendship--boy or girl) I would say you had a problem.
I think your husband deserves a truthful and loyal relationship. Regardless of your sexual orientation.
2007-07-30 14:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he knew you were bisexual when you guys got married and he's ok with it then you should have nothing to worry about unless like you said get serious with a female then i dont see how it would be a problem. Good luck!! Have a happy marriage!
2007-07-30 14:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Pat's Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what "get too serious" means -- how far is OK with your husband?
The reason I wonder is because I am also bisexual by preference, and married. However, I have never had sex with another man in my life -- I would like to, but I haven't.
In my opinion, bisexual people in marriages are just like heterosexual people. All married people sometimes feel attractions to other people. What's important is how they act (or don't act) on those attractions.
2007-07-31 01:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you're asking that tells me you might think you're doing something wrong. That's what really matters here - do you think it's wrong?
Personally I think bisexuality isn't a reason for sleeping with multiple people while with a serious partner, but then I'm an old fashioned kind of girl. It doesn't seem like you're hurting anyone by doing this, so I don't really see that it's anyone else's business. If you're hubby is happy, why aren't you?
2007-07-30 14:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi colombiana_29. The good thing about your question is that you have actually talked to your husband about your sexual feelings, not a lot of people would have done that, so congratulations. If your hubby is cool with the idea then there is no need to worry, he has stipulated that you don't get to involved with another, that shows although he trusts and loves you, but there is a little bit of the situation has caused a little of fear you might leave him. Just take things slowly and if you are openly talking about this situation, watch for signs of him being uncomfortable and deal with it there and then, making sure he knows he is your number 1. Good luck....David
2007-07-31 00:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there Colombiana_29, Whilst there is nothing wrong with being bi-sexual, the fact is that you are married. If you have relations with another woman, that does not make it ok...you are still being unfaithful to your husband; whether he approves or not. In my opinion, this is a recipe for disaster. It is more than likely that one day your husband may become jealous and resentful...he could expect to 'join in' on your encounters. Also, you could fall for one of the women you meet. Some couples have 'open' marriages, but very few survive this sort of arrangement. I wish you all the best.
2007-07-30 16:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a couple is truly okay with it, then there's nothing wrong. Different strokes and all.
I wouldn't be okay with it, but that's the neat thing here... I get to decide what I'm comfortable with, and you and your husband get to decide what's right for you.
I'd just keep communication open. If it starts to bother him, take him seriously. And maybe go the extra mile to show him he'll always be your number one.
2007-07-30 15:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by thegnomeofwrath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is still cheating. Having an open relationship with someone else is showing less a commitment to the person you are married to. If you promised him to love him and only him - why are you looking for a relationship other than him? I think while you have attraction to others....it still is an attraction to another "mate" and the marriage will be compromised.
2007-07-30 14:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's a problem that you are bi sexual, however you have choosen a man as your life partner and I think you should be totally faithful to him.
2007-07-30 18:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is awesome that your husband is cool with it. He knows that you are bisexual and I think that if you got involved with anyone else, male or female, that it would be cheating.
2007-07-30 15:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by s_brown 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋