Marriage & Divorce - 7 July 2007

I have had a fairly ok life so far. I have a good job, I'm financially secure, my parents are alive, I'm educated. I'm 36.

I am going to marry a man that lives 2000 miles from me (we have been together a long time - it's not some long distance crazy thing that doesn't have a future). I am moving to be with him and I am very uncomfortable about that because I have to leave my family, friends and job. I do love him. I wonder if that is enough. I also wonder how I can possibly be happy there an ocean away when I cannot be happy here with all that I have. I am constantly sad and worried. I'm 36, have never been married and have no children. I still think I'm not old enough to have children and I'm now old enough to be a grandmother! What is wrong with me? Should I just go get married and fake it?

Is there anyone else out there that is just sad all the time? Nothing can make me happy. I'm constantly waiting for something bad to happen.

2007-07-07 10:16:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

he doesn't even touch me or do anything physical or emotional things to me. hell what i'm i to do.

2007-07-07 10:14:28 · 25 answers · asked by lovelyc 1

How would you react if your husband told you he was broke until pay day then you find out he some money on him..Would you be mad or would it be no big deal since it was only under 50 dollars.

2007-07-07 10:14:19 · 9 answers · asked by nicole m 1

Im 26 my hubby is 44, just got married 2 years ago but I felt I want a divorce I am not sure. Here are the things about him why I want a divorce...... he spends most of his time infront of his computer playing computer games almost all day on his day off, he doesnt going on shopping like what I want to do, he doesnt want to have a picnic in he backyard since he hates the bugs...just want to stay inside and play his game in the pc, he doesnt know how to please me like kissing, hugging ....and when i kiss him he always wipe his lips he says he hates saliva, i always the one who ask for sex he neve starts a spark ...sex in a month.....is that normal for married life? I am getting tired doing the spark between us all the time, he always says no to sex because he is tired and he always go to bed late at night spending his hours in his pc, I dont know what to do, i felt like we have our own worlds

2007-07-07 10:11:49 · 19 answers · asked by sleepyhead 1

as far as the law is concerned

2007-07-07 10:00:11 · 13 answers · asked by deb 1

It seems as if marriages lasted longer in the past no matter what was going on, cheating yelling, screaming, fighting. I met a woman in her early 60's who told me her parents used to fight like cats and dogs, dishes flying across the room and everything. Her and her brother used to be terrified, but her parents stayed together till the end.

2007-07-07 09:22:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

what good or bad thing ; would you get up to .

2007-07-07 09:11:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

What I really mean is if you were single and just met your spouse today, based on looks alone would you find them attractive enough to start a relationship with them again?

2007-07-07 09:01:26 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-07 08:57:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-07 08:57:16 · 3 answers · asked by Jacob W 1

If someone offered you $1,000,000 in cash, tax free. Would you take it? But.. you had to leave the love of your life & never see or talk to them again. Would You?

2007-07-07 08:48:00 · 25 answers · asked by the_kikione 3

My husband works with this girl and they are really friendly with each other. No problem there. Here's where it gets weird... I will be working for the same company, during a different shift than my husband but this girl will be my supervisor. It wouldn't seem so troubling if she hadn't told me, during my interview with her, that he and she are "right there" with each other. She went on to say that he's just so easy to talk to and started going on about him. We just moved here from out of state and we really need the money that would come with me working for this company. How can I bring this all up to my husband without seeming like the jealous-over-bearing wife? He tends to be clueless when it comes to when a women is hitting on him. He doesn't understand that his personality is what is so attractive about him. So whenever I have brought it up, in the past, he just says it's all in my head. What can I say? Any SENSIBLE suggestions?

2007-07-07 08:42:50 · 4 answers · asked by ionwheels03 3

well, i think that's important to him, and when he had an affair, i think that's what he got. good sex. so, i feel insecure about that and that bothers me.so, i think he could be inlove with this person. i have a different view of things, but that doesn't mean i'm right. anyways, how can i move on from this, i don't need to be part of that. i don't need that in my life. i'm going to go in a different direction! that's why she's so sure of herself, and all i have is insecurity. so, that says it all. i'm ready to move on and forget this business. i'm better off being by myself. i don't want to be with anyone that was happy being with someone else. the only reason he may consider being with me its because she's with someone else. i don't want to be with this person anymore. i'm over this. the person is brilliant. and he should leave me alone now. cause there's nothing that can change my mind. i just want to move on now. and lead a normal life. what's done is done. i don't care anymore .

2007-07-07 08:41:50 · 13 answers · asked by Amanda M 1

My boyfriend/fiancee (because I'm not really sure anymore!) just proposed to me. So I run over to my house (which is next door) to tell my Mom, because we're about to go to the movies. And when I get back, he's all like "Oh- it's you. Just- just go home right now, and, and, I'll call you."
"But we're going to the movies!" I say, hopelessly confused.
"No-no, no we're not!"
"Why not?"
"Something's come up. Just run home."
"I'm not running home until you tell me what's going on!" And then he just threw me out of the house! Almost literally! And no one else in the house seemed to be bothered about anything! In fact, they were all excited because we're getting married.... but I don't even know what's going on anymore! I came later, and tried to get him to explain, but he was incredibly distracted and all he said was "I love you very much, but you need to go home right now!"
"Have you gone crazy!?"
"Not yet, but I might soon! Just go!" And then he said he was too crazy to marry me

2007-07-07 08:32:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 10yrs and have 2 amazing kids. My husband is an ok bloke but although i love him its in a brother type way. He is a miserable **** to live with and he does nothing for me sexually. There are only 2 reasons I am still with him. 1) he is an amazing dad, 2) He hasnt done anything so terribly awful that i feel i could hurt him by divorcing him.
Now the real problem. I have a male friend whom I have known for 15yrs, he keeps in touch by email and txt but he came to visit this weekend and we ended up kissing and fondling each other and ive gotta say it was great. Its a known fact to me that he loves me, but he has kept his distance cos im married. I think im really falling for him and dont know what to do, he is willing to give up everything for me to be together and I have no idea where to turn. Any good advice please? And yes i know what im doing is wrong but it feels so right and at 29yrs old its the first time a man has really made me tingle.
Please help.

2007-07-07 08:24:01 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I never went through marriage counseling, my husband and I just went twice in our 9 yrs together, and we've had problems for about 9 yrs. I know, we should never have gotten married,
we're suffering for that mistake now. Has anyone reached the point in their marriage where they've had enough, felt completely turned off and pretty much disgust for the other person and it actually turned around? I feel that way now. We are actually separated as of today, I asked him to leave and honestly the only thing I feel bad about is that we have 2 children, 5 yrs old and 18 mos. old. I know I should of known better he's always been a problem from the beginning, but we
can't stop fighting and I don't want the children to grow up like that. But I'm curious about counselling, everyone always recommends it. It seems that everyone thinks a marriage can be saved as long as there's no cheating or hitting, but that's not the only way that someone can hurt you or the only thing that can make you sick.

2007-07-07 08:14:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 16 and matture for my age and i am with a man who is 27. i love him very much and he loves me. we talk for hours every day and never run out of things to say to each other when ever we are together its like there is no one else in the world i feel completly safe with him and know he will never hurt me and i will never hurt him. i have recently found engagment ring brouchers at his house but he doesnt know i have seen them. do you think the age difference matters?

2007-07-07 08:08:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am currently seeing a man who is 37 going on 38 yrs old and i am 27 going on 28 yrs old in 6 months.He has never been married and has no children.I have a 4 yr old daughter and am going through a divorce after 6 yrs of marriage 2.5 of those yrs spent seperated.Does age matter in relationships?My soon to be ex.hubby was only 3 yrs older than me .I have never dated anyone this much older everyone i have ever dated was my age will this make a difference?

2007-07-07 07:58:03 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

8 months ago, I asked my husband to move out of the house because my mom said he tried to rape her. ( He refused to do so, and until now I have no idea who tells the truth ) Our son stays with me, and I don't get any help from him to raise my son. He has a new girlfriend now, but what really bothers me is what he does to her and her daughter. He cooks. He washes her clothes-- which never happened when he lived with me. He takes her to eat out most of the time --at the restaurants the he hated before. He stops picking my son up on weekend, and spend time to take good care of her daughter.
Please help me! I feel really bad when I look at my son. What should I do now to keep myself emotionally balance? Thanks a lot.

2007-07-07 07:52:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had given her a 1 moonth timeframe to get a job, and she burned that up and upon the last few days told me she was pregnant. She has found an excuse to not get a job ever since. It's been 5 years and still no job. Sure shes tried Avon and watching old people die in their homes for 9 bucks an hour. But I can honestly say shes a drain on my family and can feel months of my life being swept away. I blame her for all our troubles and want her to cheat on me so I can dump her. I think I'll be happier. What can I do with the kids I love so much. Esp the lil girl. Shes my princess. What will the kids do with such a loser ****** mom? Help me im gonna explode...

2007-07-07 07:45:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

He picked our daughter up today and looked like a hobo. he looked like he hadn't shaved in 2 weeks. he also had a shy cowardly stand to him, like a kid looks when he is scolded. he also didn't have his sunglasses on which he ALWAYS does. whatever it was it wasn't the norm and i am trying to figure out if he want to speak to me or what his deal is. we do not speak at all accept to exchange our daughter. the other factor is is that his girlfriend that he left his family for is out of town, can that have something to do with it? I'm not even sure if there still together.
i don't know why i am asking or even caring so please just indulge me as to what you think is wrong with him.

2007-07-07 07:41:01 · 21 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

I Love my wife - but I am not IN - Love with her. Help me figure this one out!

2007-07-07 07:34:06 · 13 answers · asked by clubmaster300087 2

me and my ex are gettin a divorce what am i allowed he has started his on business..Plus we have chilrdren and he abandoned me when i was pregnant

2007-07-07 07:33:57 · 10 answers · asked by melme_98 2

i said the ex-wife is not a widow because they were divorced.she disagrees.which of us is right?please help.

2007-07-07 07:27:28 · 21 answers · asked by moanalisa 4

2007-07-07 07:16:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anthony 1

Ok should I be upset about this? Here goes. Hubby came home from work,slept.Then a few hrs latter I woke up then a couple of hrs after that he woke up. We were both on our laptops. I was looking at my mail ,he was playing wor craft and I jumped into the shower and then when I came out I gave him a flash and said ill be upstairs and then he smiled and said im going to jump in the shower and ill be wrate up.Well as im upstairs waiting,he is still trying to save his game.I came down stairs a few min latter and his words were im on my way i was waiting for the hr glass to go away trying to close my game,well any way i said forget it.Now im not in the mood. I was hoping he would just shut the door of his lapp top and jump in the shower and run up the stairs.I said to him It would have been nice to have had him jump to it and not sit there waiting to save his game.Is there somthing wrong with me just wanting him to want me? What would you do?

2007-07-07 07:13:59 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2

i have a friend that are married for almost 25 years and they are related to each other (first cousin) and they are both catholic. The only good thing is they dont have any children.

2007-07-07 07:04:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband says that he just had sex with this girl but he cant seem to give up these photos that he told me he got rid of! And come to find out there was a little bit more to it- like how he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her and raise her son and start a family of their own!i cant even remember what my ex who meant a ton to me looks like well i can but what i mean is i threw out all the pics when we got married! I love him very much but it seems to me like he still has feelings for her. I am afraid that he only married me because he wants a family quick and not bc he loves me! Any advice? I mean it hurts me to think he still wants to be with her.. but if he does why shouldnt he? Right?

2007-07-07 07:04:35 · 9 answers · asked by jacksgirl711 1

2007-07-07 06:36:56 · 22 answers · asked by Lovely B 3

I have a feeling I am about to get into some issues with this guy. So far, he has just been taking advantage of my wife's mother while going through this divorce, but today while my wife, her mother and a friend are having a yard sale, he sends his brothers over to cause problems and take pictures. I asked him to get them to back off because we have not involved ourselves with their problems, and he tells me that my wife has involved herself now. If I have further problems from him or anyone else in his family, what can I do legally?

2007-07-07 06:36:29 · 4 answers · asked by Oblivious 3