My boyfriend/fiancee (because I'm not really sure anymore!) just proposed to me. So I run over to my house (which is next door) to tell my Mom, because we're about to go to the movies. And when I get back, he's all like "Oh- it's you. Just- just go home right now, and, and, I'll call you."
"But we're going to the movies!" I say, hopelessly confused.
"No-no, no we're not!"
"Why not?"
"Something's come up. Just run home."
"I'm not running home until you tell me what's going on!" And then he just threw me out of the house! Almost literally! And no one else in the house seemed to be bothered about anything! In fact, they were all excited because we're getting married.... but I don't even know what's going on anymore! I came later, and tried to get him to explain, but he was incredibly distracted and all he said was "I love you very much, but you need to go home right now!"
"Have you gone crazy!?"
"Not yet, but I might soon! Just go!" And then he said he was too crazy to marry me
2007-07-07 08:32:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and he threw me out of the house again! What's going on! I love him very much and I know he loves me, but he called off the movies and all he said about getting married was "well as far as i know that's still on."
Help! I'm so confused- he's never acted this way before and I don't know what's going on at all! Whenever I tried to ask anyone else in the house, he dragged me away. What is going on here??!!
2007-07-07 08:34:21 · update #1
I'm not sure, but it sounds like he could have some mental problems, and likely needs some treatment. You should definitely not commit to marriage to him until you know exactly what is going on. If he can't/won't tell you then step back. You do not want to go into a marriage not knowing exactly what you are dealing with. If he can't communicate with you now it will not improve once you are married.
2007-07-07 08:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Besides being a jerk, this guy doesn't know what he wants.
My guess is that something he didn't want you to see showed up to his house--maybe an ex.
Honestly this is not only strange or wacky, and certainly not within the boundaries for normal. That means he's on drugs. I'd check for all the signs of it next time you see him.
I would give the ring back until he tells you, truthfully, what happened. You're his fiancee and you are entitled to be a part of everything in his life. Hiding stuff from you = dishonesty, lying to you. Bad, bad way to start an intimate relationship.
2007-07-14 09:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not avoid the warning signs and red flags! Some one who loves you would not act this way. He could have mental issues, you don't want to be tied down to a crazy person. You can do better and tell him it is over because he is acting too crazy. One minute he loves you and is nice and the next he is throwing you out! Get outta that relationship asap!
2007-07-14 13:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by mntekor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I have no clue what he might be thinking. I would be upset that he proposed and then broke a movie date of all the romantic ideas. After he proposed, he should have taken you to your mom's to tell her the good news, and then out to a nice meal or walk or something. Do you think he might be in some kind of trouble? The behavior is too suspicious. Take care and good luck to you -
2007-07-13 10:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nan74 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he got some tragic news in between the time he proposed and when you came back? I don't really know. Seems very weird. Try and give him some time and see if he will be willing to open up to you. If that fails, try talking to his family members or close friends to see if they know anything.
2007-07-14 13:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said it himself-- he is to crazy to marry you --- if you marry him anyway---- then your crazy too. DON'T LET HIM CONTROL YOUR FEELINGS LIKE THIS !! He needs to grow up--- you will find another love sooner or later and it would be better if you werent carring around excess bf baggage that he dumped on you. RUN ,GIRL , RUN ! Dont let this be one of those regrets that people look back on and say. " if I could just go back , I'd do thing differently. Bring happiness into your life , not this sh--.
2007-07-14 18:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by tundra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are confused all right, actions speak louder than words,if he is throwing you out now and you are not married.he will dump you as soon as you marry him,run as far away from him as you can,if you need a guy like that you should get some counseling.
2007-07-13 13:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by luka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either he has mental problems or hes scared or, best case scenario he has a awsome surprise for you and your not supposed to know yet.
2007-07-14 08:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by southerngirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma be hes cheating on you, and his OTHER girl(s) just called him up to say they wanted to get banged. ma by hes having second thoughts about proposing and wants you to break up with him ether way, DON"T MARRY HIM.
2007-07-15 06:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by Savana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call that love? He sounds like my soon to be ex : Cybill: you never know who you're gonna get in any situation!!!! I took that crap & physical abuse for 17 years so all I have to say is : GET OUT NOW !!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-13 07:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by betharoo63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋