my husband says that he just had sex with this girl but he cant seem to give up these photos that he told me he got rid of! And come to find out there was a little bit more to it- like how he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her and raise her son and start a family of their own!i cant even remember what my ex who meant a ton to me looks like well i can but what i mean is i threw out all the pics when we got married! I love him very much but it seems to me like he still has feelings for her. I am afraid that he only married me because he wants a family quick and not bc he loves me! Any advice? I mean it hurts me to think he still wants to be with her.. but if he does why shouldnt he? Right?
2007-07-07 07:04:35 · 9 answers · asked by jacksgirl711 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well the thing is she didnt want anymore kids and he did. He may love me but i just dont feel like its meant for me so much as our son and possibly future kids.
2007-07-07 07:13:57 · update #1
i didnt mention he still talks to her even though i have told him that it bothered me.... he talks to other exes and has their pics but she -for some reason- is the only one that still bothers me...
2007-07-07 07:24:44 · update #2
Just because he wants to keep her pictures does not mean he wants to be with her. Pictures are our past, and they are a part of who we are.
I have all of my pictures I've ever taken, gotten, etc. I'm divorced now, but my ex had pictures of his other exes and people from his past. It didn't bother me...he was with me. And...he was fine with me having pictures of other people (they weren't displayed in our home or anything...but we had them).
Don't sweat it. Whether she was just sex or someone he adored, she's in the PAST. He loves you. :)
2007-07-07 07:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 23:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling---PRONTO! Normally I wouldn't see a problem with someone keeping photos from the past. After all, we all have past lives and just because you marry doesn't mean you want to leave all your memories in the dust. However, the fact that you don't feel as loved as you should feel, and believe he only married you because he wanted a family quickly, indicates some very deep unhappiness on your part. This needs to be addressed. It sounds like you have already spoken with him about it and his answers didn't dissipate your insecurities about the matter. Time for a specialist to step in and help you two communicate. Best of luck to you!
2007-07-07 07:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For good or bad, this woman is part of his history. He obviously cared about her. It's unrealistic to expect him to feel nothing for someone he once loved, the human heart doesn't work that way. For whatever reason, it didn't work between them, obviously. He has kept pictures to commemorate the time he spent with her and probably cares for her still. That does NOT mean he's in love with her. You are his wife, so put your big girl panties on and deal with it. You can hurt your marriage with endless carping, jealousy and silliness or you can accept he wasn't a monk and move on. Be glad your man has a heart and STOP letting your insecurity justify trying to control him, it will only cause problems.
2007-07-07 07:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by dana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jacksgirl711 Oh hon I am very very sorry ! When he married you those photos any communication with the x"es should have been out ! They are history that is over. You are the present and future ! You should be his priority, now and always !
2007-07-07 07:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Back With An Ex - http://tinyurl.com/YKHVjVBzZM
2015-09-28 03:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Gus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs an ultimatum. if she means that much to him to hurt you then somethings wrong. i would kill my husband if he had pictures of his ex. i cant even stand it when he talks to his ex. theres no reason why you shouldnt be upset. shes his ex for a reason. remind him of that.
2007-07-07 07:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mess up the marriage because if you do she will be the first thing on his mind!!! Now you know. Keep him well happy!! Stay Golden.......
2007-07-07 07:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by IOWA HAWKEYES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be so insecure, he married you, not her, right??
2007-07-07 07:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by BrusselSprouts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋