Ok should I be upset about this? Here goes. Hubby came home from work,slept.Then a few hrs latter I woke up then a couple of hrs after that he woke up. We were both on our laptops. I was looking at my mail ,he was playing wor craft and I jumped into the shower and then when I came out I gave him a flash and said ill be upstairs and then he smiled and said im going to jump in the shower and ill be wrate up.Well as im upstairs waiting,he is still trying to save his game.I came down stairs a few min latter and his words were im on my way i was waiting for the hr glass to go away trying to close my game,well any way i said forget it.Now im not in the mood. I was hoping he would just shut the door of his lapp top and jump in the shower and run up the stairs.I said to him It would have been nice to have had him jump to it and not sit there waiting to save his game.Is there somthing wrong with me just wanting him to want me? What would you do?
2007-07-07 07:13:59 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now other then this we have a strong marrege.We are both good looking also,so theres not a problem with being turned on. Its just a lack of motavation
2007-07-07 07:15:54 · update #1
I forgot to mention ,This is not the first time this has happend. I seem like the one who wants it more.I have talked about this and told him how it makes me feel. Its not so wrong for a women to want her man to want to jump her bones.He thinks by pinching my butt is a sighn,I send naked pic to his phone all dressed up waiting for him to get home and he will send tex saying thats hot and i cant wait to get home.but when he gets home he doesnt do anything
2007-07-07 07:24:38 · update #2
He still wants you, you just wanted him to demonstrate it by dropping everything and coming on the run, and he just wanted to save what he was doing before charging to your side. Neither of you are wrong, you just had conflicting "expectations"...that will happen a million times for a million different reasons in the lifetime of a marriage. You both had the same intent, you just wanted him to go about it differently than he did; then, once you felt slighted, you lost your mood for "it" saying the moment had passed. When you're fortunate enough to be on the same page about what to do, it's helpful to give the other person a little latitude on how they accomplish a task....this goes for anything and it goes for both of you because both genders are guilty of it at some time or another. When the "how" something is done is as important to you as the "what" is done, you need to make sure those expectations are clearly communicated in advance. These are the hidden "give and take" challenges of marriage, and it's part of the charm of the journey. Good luck to you both.
2007-07-07 07:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like boredom to me. A romantic getaway alone might help. Getting away from electronics (laptops, cellphones, etc) and people, jobs, and the ho-hum mundane-ness of life could make the two of you focus more on yourselves as a couple. If that's not possible right now, I'd actually spend some time apart (living in the same house but doing things apart) to shake things up a little. I was married for 15 years and went through this all the time. I never thought about going away together or spending several nights a week apart (absence makes the heart grow fonder). I wish I had. He got so bored he left me for a friend of mine. Good luck.
2007-07-07 14:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definately talk to him. Not neccesarily about sex or your marriage, but the game. It has turned into a dangerous things, has caused people to loose lives, give up everything in the real world. Its very dangerous if someone can't step away. They have clinics starting to pop up all over for people who have become addicted to warcraft. Its like gambling, drugs, alcohol, its a stimulant. Definately let him know you are concerned, and look at how much time he is on the comp!good luck
2007-07-07 14:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by swoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The World of Warcraft is quickly ruining marriages all over the place. That game is a bad addiction and most people who join it can't seem to get off of it. Lack of motivation goes hand in hand with it. I would start with ridding yourselves of that game. Good luck.
2007-07-07 14:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by jaclynridge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warcraft strikes again! I've never played it but it is a very addictive game. Let him know that he needs to better manage his time between you and the game. You might even want to give him a taste of what he's missing by playing too much. With that, he just might be willing to give up WOW for a little "wow!" with his wife.
2007-07-07 14:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by djruffin614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Temporarily disconnect the Internet service. I know it's mean. Have you talked to him about this? Here's a fun idea, since you both have laptops get cams and play like that.
2007-07-07 14:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously his playing the game was more important, I've dealt with this issue in my relationship and it leads to bad communication and eventually demise of the relationship.
You need to tell him that his action (or lack of action) really upset you and hurt you. Tell him you don't want it to happen again.
2007-07-07 14:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cupcakes Moosey! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like I would react that way with you at anytime, anyplace*.. You got me hot and bothered just thinking about it*...
2007-07-07 15:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋