he doesn't even touch me or do anything physical or emotional things to me. hell what i'm i to do.
2007-07-07 10:14:28 · 25 answers · asked by lovelyc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That phrase is something I've heard in church before...woman often are great wives, but not a good woman to there husband. And I've gathered that it means, you keep good house, take great care of the kids, but your not sexually full filling him. I'm guessing here!
But the fact that your husband doesn't provide you w/the physical stimulation you need to be an ideal ''woman'' to him poses a problem as well/ Alot of men just lay there, waiting for the fire works, and don't understand that we need to be physically engaged, and provoked to be the sex kittens they desire in the bedroom.
2007-07-07 10:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you touch him or do anything physical?? If not then that could be a start. Was he different initially? Communication is the primary key to most marital problems. Ask him what he wants and tell him what you want. Ideally each of you should be trying to give the what what they desire in the relationship in a manner that you both can get pleasure from.
2007-07-07 10:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that he has failed his job in being a man. If he shows no interest and just lays there waitng for you to jump his bones all the time, how can you be interested? Women need the emotional loving as well as to be physically turned on to be ready for sex. Men need to show their women that they still love and desire them. If he is not doing this then the fault lies with him, not you. He may be seeing someone else and just wants to use this as an excuse, or is comparing some slut that doesn't care that he is married and it makes her want to get him all to her self all that much more and will do anything it takes to get him away from you. If he will not go cor counseling with you then you need to move out and let him have some space and time to decide what is more important to him. Either that or live this way the rest of your life. Don't put up with it. If he is emotionally and physically withdrawn then soemthing is going on in his mind or with someone else. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-07 10:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by phxmilitarymom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to sit down and talk!!! NO YELLING!!! ask him what he means, sexually? or what? it sounds like you have a major communication problem. if you've been married a long time and this has just come up, then there could be other things going on. some classic signals of infidelity. is someone else showing him something you're not? something is obviously going on if he hasn't always been this way. talk, be honest, and ask him to be also! tell him how you feel and what your needs are. if you get a negative reaction, then you have some hard decisions to make!! it's hard to survive in a relationship that has no caring, you must be able to communicate your love and your feelings honestly! for any relationship to work.
2007-07-07 10:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by b.douglaswyatt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a prick he's. sorry, yet your husband is strange and has no understand for you as a woman different than seeing you as a intercourse merchandise. sell off him and discover somebody who will understand you.
2016-10-01 02:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole world needs a damn marriage counselor or a divorce now...sheesh. Dont people know how to be adults and work out their problems?
Men equate sex with love, that is how they show their love for you. The more you have sex the more he will give you the little physical touches and meet your emotional needs.
Break the cycle.
2007-07-07 10:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
maybe he wants you to be more feminine? Caring? Sexual? Talk to him. He is the one able to clear the air here. It sounds familiar..............guys who blame their women all the type are insecure. Maybe he can not be the guy and says it is your fault. An open communication is a must here. Good luck.
2007-07-07 10:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've got 2 books for you, if you want to save your marriage.
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, by Dr. Laura
The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle
please read this weekend!!!!
2007-07-07 10:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by cpslo96 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Ask him what he means exactly. You need counseling now, but I would be checking out a lawyer. He's comparing you to someone who apparently is able to be "a woman" to you.
2007-07-07 10:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make him explain. It sounds to me like you need to get out of this relationship before things get worse. Or you could even try marriage counseling. Good luck! He is the only one that can answer your question.
2007-07-07 10:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋