2007-07-07 06:36:56 · 22 answers · asked by Lovely B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you want to live YOUR life that way? Living in the shadow of his other life, always second. Getting only the scraps of his time?
Then again, if he is such a cheater, then why do you even want him? Most likely, you are not the only 'other woman' he will be stringing along.
I hope you are at least practicing safer sex with this man as he sure sounds like he is high risk.
He betrays his wife's trust, most likely he will yours also. His behavior is selfish and in some ways, he is being cruel to all the women in his life. He is not trustworthy.
So, my only thought to you is this..... why would you want to live your life this way? Don't you deserve better?
Loving this man will always be painful. He is the cakeman, he wants it all at the expense of everyone else.
2007-07-07 06:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by joyh 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's wrong to be the one on hold all the time. You're not tired of being the 'other woman' the one who waits and gets only to be in second place in his heart and his life. Don't you think you deserve better? don't you think you deserve to be with a man who will put you in first place, Honor you and be there for you in front of the whole world. What are you gonna teach your child...that it's OK to be living in the shadow of someone else? that you are not worthy of a real relationship and a real commitment. If you're happy in a cheap second hand relationship...sure go ahead.
2007-07-07 06:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether you love him or not, having an affair with a married/taken man is wrong. If I was his woman and found out about you, I think I'd rip you apart, because who cares if you "might" love him ... she already does. How crushed would you be if you were in love with someone enough to give them your life and then found out they'd been betraying you and playing with someone else. What you are doing is horrible, and you are just as big a liar as he is. The only one I feel sorry for here is his poor woman who would be heartbroken to see what a loser she's tied to, someone who runs around with a tramp that sleep with a taken man.
Shame on you, you are a terrible example to your son of how men should treat women. And furthermore, he wouldn't cheat if he didn't have a whore ready to spread her legs for him, now would he?
2007-07-07 06:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is it wrong for me, yes. Why? I choose not to place myself in positions where the possibility of hurting others happen.
It's obviously not wrong for you because you are allowing it.
Why do you not have a problem selling yourself short? Not only are you cheating yourself from experiencing a real relationship, but you are cheating yourself from actively giving of your whole self. What's within you that think that it's ever okay to be a miss - stress?
As for might loving him, that's not love, it's settling for less, lust, and deceit. If no one has ever told you...YOU are better than what you are receiving.
Be blessed and learn to love the whole you, instead of dishing out parts of you for others gain.
2007-07-07 06:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Decent 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes being a mistress is bad. Think about the shoe being on the other foot.
2007-07-07 06:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course it is wrong. do you want anyone to break your marriage? cheating is bad, and mistress is even worse, when it comes to get involved with child. how can you tell your son?
anyway, never blame you,because he has a huge responsiblity on it too. you should make sure he will give your son money reagardless, so he can go school later without his help.
2007-07-07 06:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are asking this question then you already know the answer. So what you are doing is teaching your son that it is acceptable to be a liar and a cheat and its ok to expect a woman to settle for second best. Do better than that.
2007-07-07 06:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it wrong to ruin the lives of your child, and his family that he has with his wife. I'm sure you'd feel that same way if it was your husband, who cheated on you and had a child with his mistress. no one wins it this situation , except the cheater...who gets to get his cake and eat it too...if it don't work out with either one of you ...he'll just move on...leaving behind hurt to those he mislead.....
2007-07-07 06:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by blue moon lady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. If you think you love him you're only setting yourself up for disaster. The human instinct will get to you and you will get jealous or atleast feel unwanted and pointed.
If you honestly don't care that much about yourself or you think you can somehow handle it, think of your kid. That boy will be so messed up and will have a lot more angst than most teenagers. Or atleast will have an excuse to hate his dad, or worse, you.
So I think this situation will ultimately end up with you hating yourself and not feeling wanted.
2007-07-07 06:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nana 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OF COURSE its wrong!!
How could you possibly know he would cheat anyway?
He is a liar-why would you love him? I bet he told you that he doesn't love his wife...she won't have sex with him...they are like roommates..that he's going to leave her...am I right??
I hate to bust your bubble, but he DOES love his wife, he DOES have sex with her, he is NEVER going to leave her, and YOU, my dear, are no more than a piece of azz on the side.
Walk away from this cheat--there is no future there. See if you can dig up your self-respect, and maybe you could find a man that doesn't already belong to somebody ELSE.
Shame on you!
2007-07-07 06:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋