It seems as if marriages lasted longer in the past no matter what was going on, cheating yelling, screaming, fighting. I met a woman in her early 60's who told me her parents used to fight like cats and dogs, dishes flying across the room and everything. Her and her brother used to be terrified, but her parents stayed together till the end.
2007-07-07 09:22:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But roseandron, dishes flying across the room, could not be good for the children???
2007-07-07 09:33:35 · update #1
Divorce 50 years ago was greatly frowned on.
Women who were divorced were often shunned like lepers.
Today, divorces are easier to obtain and no longer carry the negative stigma of the past.
2007-07-07 09:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by tigsgal1 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because in today's society people view divorce as acceptable. In the past it was greatly frowned upon, and any who were divorced were socially stigmatized. Today we live in a world full of me first attitudes, and many enter into marriage with the idea that if it doesn't work out they can always get a divorce. Often people think that divorce is an easy solution to their problems. However it is not always the answer to marriage problems, and often causes a lot of problems. But in some cases, it is advisable (abuse, infidelity). Definitely your children seeing you fighting constantly with dishes flying across the room it not good. However if some effort were put into fixing the marriage problems it would be more beneficial that just immediately getting a divorce when things first start going badly.
2007-07-07 16:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by DK Julie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its simple back in the 1950 the word divorce was a dirty word people just didn't do it no matter what because the community would look on at both in shame. back then matters were more private too even if a couple despised each other behind doors in public they were the perfect couple.
times have changed drastically the 1950's men were raised and expected to be providers they were told this is what you need to do in life is to get a good job at the bank and find a beautiful woman buy a house and have children the woman cooked cleaned and had diner on the table when he came home.
these days the average man doesn't know what he wants to do with his life but knows he will do something. it takes a lil while for them to figure it out. and women have became more independent going to college and becoming doctors and lawyers. the provider and care giver idea went out the window. men arnt sure if they want to get married and women have realised that they don't need a man in there life to bring home the doe.
people don't have patients like they used too and they just do not think thoroughly about what they are doing in life and wind up marring to fast and not thinking it thorough and do not want to waste all of there lives being unhappy relationships just are not as strong as they used to be.
2007-07-07 16:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because people 50 years ago did not have as many or the same type of society or stressors back then as there is today. Society has changed from those days of low unemployment and high economic development to high rates of unemployment and slowed economic development that place more pressure on individuals to survive in this world.
Furthermore, 50 years ago, the family was much closer than they are today, thus relations were a much better support system for a majority of married couples than of those of today.
Also, individuals who married back then believed in working on their marriage instead of taking the easy way out and divorcing when the first opportunity arose. People these days are more selfish and will only stick around when things are going good.
We currently live in a generation of instant self gratification where most individuals will divorce over trivial things such as "my spouse gained weight since we got married" or petty jealousies that may arise.
2007-07-07 16:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by J T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a great social stigma associated with divorce...people generally frowned on the notion of breaking up families, and, since most people lived their whole lives in a certain community, they placed a great deal of emphasis on what the neighbors thought. The thing is, interpersonal dynamics were no better then than they are now...in fact, behavior behind closed doors was likely much worse, so no matter how ugly the spectre of divorce may be, it is infinitely more honest and healthy an existence than staying together for the sake of keeping up appearances. Good question.
2007-07-07 16:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Divorce was made too easy back in the seventies. Now, if it doesn't meet expectations, just can the whole thing.
I got married with the idea that divorce is not an option. That would cause us to work it out, get help, whatever it takes to stick up for our marriage. If more couples adopted that idea, divorce rates would go even lower.
I was glad to hear that they were once over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, now less than 50%.
2007-07-07 16:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in that day and age divorce was a dirty word and if you did find the courage to do it you were disowned and shunned. they stuck it out cause they had to. they put on a smiling face and were screaming inside. thats why people were not crazy,homosexual, and if a woman didnt marry she was an old maid. also if a new family was not having children it was always the woman who was infertile not the man. thank god we live in a better time.in our day these are all normal factors but then if you fell into any of those catigories there was something wrong with you
2007-07-07 16:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by sweet young thing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women put up and shut up back then.
And now the scales are all out of balance.
If my partner left me know I could efford the mortgage, bills, childcare etc on my own - so if he cheated or whatever he would be gone - why flog a dead horse. Whereas back in the day generally women had no or little income, so had to try and get over the wrongs and get on with it for the kids.
2007-07-07 16:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by bambam 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
In our society divorce isn't as frowned upon as much as it used to be. Instead of really trying to solve the problems in a constructive manner , people give up. However, somtimes you can't help solve the problem when the other party isn't willing to fix it as well. Commitment is taken so lighty now, it's sad.
2007-07-07 16:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no stigma attached to divorce these days. It's also pretty easy to get a divorce. People don't go into marriage thinking forever anymore. Now they just try it out and move on if it gets tough.
2007-07-07 16:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
People back in the day weren't always happy they just dealt with each other. Divorce was considered a bad thing so it wasn't as common.
2007-07-07 17:33:43 · answer #11 · answered by quitoslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋