Marriage & Divorce - 14 June 2007

My STB Ex-Husband left me for another girl 6 weeks ago. They have since moved to NC together (she 2 weeks ago, he 2 days ago). 3 weeks ago, he BEGGED me not to get him for Adultery, & we worked out what would be in the separation papers on MY terms if I didn't. Now, he's begging me TO get him for adultery! he keeps saying "I HAVE to divorce you now. you NEED to file on grounds of adultery so I can get this over w/as soon as possible". Last night, when i talked to him on the phone, I could hear him shaking in his voice. when i asked him what was wrong, he said "i just have some things i have to deal with". the ONLY think that comes to my mind is that his gf is pregnant! In the last 6 weeks, she has slept with my husband, her ex-husband, & possibly another guy. so even if she is, it may not be him. (please see aditional details below ...)

2007-06-14 06:38:39 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

forgive your father that you admire and love after finding out that he had an affair? How would you feel knowing after he apologized, he asked you to forget what he done and move forward? Does a father knows that it will not be that easy? He acts like he didn't ruined my life as well as my sister and brother..why??

2007-06-14 06:33:58 · 19 answers · asked by islandgirl06 5

My husband and I have been together for 5 years and just recently lost our son due to SIDS less than a year ago. Well, I found out about 2 motnhs ago that my husband had a great emotional relationship that was leading elsewhere with my bestfreind. After finding out he continued to talk to her. Now come to find out he has been talking with women online and on the phone for almost a year (that I know of). Why is he doing this. What am i doing wrong. I feel like I dont know my husband anymore. I am confused on what to do or how to approch this situation. He knows that I know and wants me to blow if off and get over it. To be honsest I am not mentally ready to take in all of this after the passing of my son. I am hurt and confused please help!

2007-06-14 06:32:33 · 21 answers · asked by Princess22 2

2007-06-14 06:31:43 · 4 answers · asked by Questioner 1

I have been married for 3 years and my husband has been ignoring me for the past 2 years. I have tried talking to him but, things arent what they used to be.

Last year i have been seeing someone until now. I just found out yesterday that I was pregnant and it's my boyfriend's child. I never told him that I was married until yesterday. He never suspected anything because I have been coming over to his place for a year now. He is hurt and i don't know what to do. I love him dearly.

I don't want to get an abortion but, scared of getting a divorce because of the unknown. What should I do? What can I do?

I made my mistakes and now I have to face the consequences. My boyfriend is a great guy, he loves me and I love him. But, now we are having a baby together. I just want to know how I can make things right.

2007-06-14 06:28:51 · 26 answers · asked by Aileen 1

I'm in a good relationship, but this question stems from something that happened to my friend.

Why is it that men will date certain women, but not marry them? For example, a couple will date for 5 years and then all of a sudden just break up one day. I'm not talking cheating or anything, just one day call it quits.

Than, maybe 6 months or a year later, they meet another girl. Just as nice as the other, and marry her. What is it about some women being more marriageable material?

Why is it that men date some women, but would never consider marrying them. And why are some women instant marriage material?

Lots of men say, they knew they'd marry their wife from the first moment they meet. Some what makes those women, fit the marriage catergory so quickly?

2007-06-14 06:28:21 · 24 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5

I will be going thru a divorce. How can I forget about him??

2007-06-14 06:23:08 · 7 answers · asked by Judith H 5

What does it cost? What did you wear? Where did you get the marrage license signed? What is normally said?

2007-06-14 06:22:52 · 3 answers · asked by movu101779 3

Why is it wrong for a man to want to protect himself in case things turn sour?
I personally believe that if a woman truely loves the man she plans on marrying she shouldn't be worried about signing a prenup....I also believe the ones who refuse to do so want to take their husband to the cleaner if they divorce.

2007-06-14 06:18:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

just a regular massage, yet you found a solictation for an erotic massage as a text on his phone from the unlicensed therapist?

2007-06-14 06:17:42 · 13 answers · asked by Questioner 1

You worked hard all day and came home to find your spouse cheating?

2007-06-14 06:15:28 · 55 answers · asked by Just_B 3

Getting married 2morrow, and alot of people have made negative comments about love, marriage, and being in love. How many of you actually enjoy Love, being in love, and being married?

2007-06-14 06:15:24 · 14 answers · asked by Tam 3

....than the rules she has for friends & family.
Why is this?
Please note that I said tend to be.
It is refreshing to see that people think I must be getting my info from a nasty sample of women, but I'm here to understand the realities I personally view/experience/hear-about, and minimize my risk.
Many women have rules & point systems that are nebulous, unspoken, & different than those she has for even her mother or girlfriends. Most men are the worst beings in the universe to expect these things of. So why; is it the excitement of getting a man to do these things?

2007-06-14 06:09:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am going through a case where the mother of my daughter wont let me see her....im trying to get a child visitation order but i cant because i was told that i needed to clear my child support case before i can obtain a child visitation order...i've done all that i can with the child support case they just tell me to keep on waiting until i get my court date and even after all that is cleared i still have to wait a pretty long time before i can get my visitation order??all i want is to see my daughter because she is a baby and i really wouldnt like for her to forget me....what i am trying to do is to record all of the conversations between the mother and i so that when i go to court i can let them know what really has been going on because i am pretty sure that she is going to be making up all kinds of things in there....anyways am i allowed to do that by law???im in california?anybody have any advice ireally need it

2007-06-14 06:07:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is a question about john 4 1-10

2007-06-14 06:05:13 · 7 answers · asked by ronaldcraiganthonyjrisdead 1

I worked hard and paid my way through school working overnight for the postal service while I went to college in the day time and raised a child to get to where I am today why is it a crime to want the finer things in life after sacrificing so much shouldn't I be commended for not being a statistic on welfare? Instead I'm being spat on for being successful.

2007-06-14 06:01:36 · 13 answers · asked by mrsknowitall 5

ok I have been with the father of my baby girl for 3yrs and are baby is 6 months. and I have never you know :) when having sex. is there something wrong with me.. and to top it off he has no clue.

2007-06-14 06:01:00 · 18 answers · asked by gia00601 3

I just found out that my girlfriend is having a baby and it is my baby. I also found out that my girlfriend is married. Having been deceived, hurting, and above all having a baby soon. What kind of mindset should I have? I want the child to have a great life and will do anything for that to happen. I'm currently working as a Database Engineer, so money is not really a problem. The problem is I think I need some guidance because of the complications that's involved.

At this point I think my girlfriend and I needs to put our differences aside. We both need to focus on raising a child together. But, the question is how?

I have cared for my girlfriend and will continue to care for her. Then decided what we will do after the baby is born. I think at this point I will just have to swallow my pride.

Ladies: What would you do, if you were in her situation? Let's say it's not that easy to get a divorce because of cultural differences.

2007-06-14 05:53:59 · 14 answers · asked by Cerealkiller 2

i can wait outside her work for her ., would a suite and tie and flowers be too much ? any suggestions would be good,

2007-06-14 05:49:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ahusband and I have been married for 3 years. He is a Malayalee and I am white. His parents are Pentacostal Christians as am I but we had issues with is family from the beginning. They never supported our marriage. Almost two months ago we were dealing with some things his parents said about me. I was offended and he took their side. He told me he was going to speak with them in person (we live in Oklahoma and they live in Michigan) and he would be back in a few days. He never returned, he changed his address, and quit his job by e-mail. He will not speak to me but I have received a few general e-mails. I know that many Americans will say I should divorce him but as a Christian I feel that is the wrong thing to do. Also I have heard from some people he worked with that he may have been on singles websites at work and that he may have gone meet someone. I really need some advice about what to do. Anyone who is a Malayalee Christian might have some insight about this situation.

2007-06-14 05:47:19 · 30 answers · asked by pigweed4christ 1

what do you say about something like that?

2007-06-14 05:46:15 · 16 answers · asked by wmanderson6 1

I have never given my husband a reason to believe that I am jealous or insecure. I don't question him about his where abouts and I don't give him a hard time about going anywhere. But recently he received a graduation invitation from someone that he did not recognize and when I asked him who it was he told me he didn't know. I left it at that. He went all out trying to find out who it was and later told me it was one of his cousins. Then he made a comment about how cute it was that I was jealous. To me that's not jealousy, that's just asking a question and I think anyone would have asked. What do you think?

2007-06-14 05:27:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

and if you are, why are you this way?

2007-06-14 05:25:36 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

i always wonder if its pointless to care about it or even think about it but its just i can never find anyone attractive aside from my spouse and it bothers me that he could think anything lustful about another woman.

2007-06-14 05:22:17 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

What if you are married and your husband is 11 years older than you and says constantly how he dislikes your age and how you are too old for him, what does it mean?

2007-06-14 05:20:38 · 14 answers · asked by jims 2

As you all know I'm 2xx married mid 20's and I don't like to brag I'm a great catch, smart, beautiful, professional and career motivated.

My hubby and I have been married almost a year although we have known each other for 15 years he's my brothers bf anyways when we graduated highs school he went to military I moved to NYC got married had a kid got divorced and moved back to my hometown all in 3 years time. Once I moved back I started dating and living life again. My current hubby proposed I said yes and later borke it off because I was dating another guy. Well when my hubby left military and started doing reserves his career took him into another direction, now he is a big time investor with an extermely rewarding career that affords me all the luxuries a girl could ever want. He has close ties to a number of celebrities and I get to live teh lifestyle of a celebrity without the paparazzi and madness. Well recently I ran into the one guy who had my heart and we have been seeing

2007-06-14 05:14:33 · 17 answers · asked by mrsknowitall 5

2007-06-14 05:12:18 · 18 answers · asked by RaMrOd 1

My husband has never been romantic... never asked me to marry him, never tries to sweep me off my feet, nothing like that. I used to try to have these quiet romantic moments together, like, plan a hike when it might rain, or recreate our first "date"... he never notices things...

Some times i guess I just get sad. I used to be such a passionate person, such a hopeless romantic, life and love was all so mysterious and magical. But its all lost on him, and its like it died in me. Its such a hopeless empty feeling some times.

Not that the love is gone or something... just the magic in my own heart. I cant really discribe it i guess.

Any one else ever gone through that?

2007-06-14 05:05:35 · 12 answers · asked by amosunknown 7

I have been with my man off and on for 5 years. He always seems to leave the relationship when things get too stressful or when we get to serious. Once I agree to the fact (that was his idea in the first place) to move on myself and don't care anymore he comes back 10 fold..begging and pleading and making promises he always breaks. I know it is part of the chase but seriously its so dumb, if you don't want me but just don't want me to move on then why do you leave in the first place..??

2007-06-14 05:02:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Number one my marriage has lots of issues. (he is controlling, jealous, always telling me what my intentions are and aren't) up until now I have always sorta brushed these issues under the rug because I know its just the way he is. its not just me he does not trust it is everyone. Ok, I know I have a troubled marriage, my problem is I can't make the final step to leave. I have every reason to, I have told him many, many times I have to separate from him because its just too stressful. Why does my mind keep ratinalizing things, why do I keep hoping for things to change? I know he is who he is and it most likely will never change. I serious from one conversation to the next my emotions flip flop, "I can do this marrige, then soon as he says something stupid, bam, I'm back to I gotta go" and it starts all over. This is on a daily . Please help me, it seems like his crazieness is making me crazy. Do I stick it out with him for better or worse and do what a wife should? I know he loves me.

2007-06-14 05:02:01 · 15 answers · asked by Tamm 4