question for the ladies , my gf of 5 years left and won't answer my emails or phone calls?

Question

i can wait outside her work for her ., would a suite and tie and flowers be too much ? any suggestions would be good,

she has depression and went off her meds. she hooked up with this man hater friend at work , who would call everynight to check up on her if she had not called,. mutul friend have asked my x and this women to leave parties becuase she was so negative. it seems since my gf is very impressunable that this lady convinced her to leave me and her step kids of 5 years..

i did not do anything to her. she has even estranged her whole family now.

she left on my little girls birthday on top of everything else,

i droipped her off the morning she left for work , she talked to me on break and emailed me a few times then at lunch all comunication stopped. i went to her work at 5 and she had already left. my ex was taking my kids over to celebrate , my little girls birthday , and the house was cleared out, i have had no contact from her since then 15 days ago , neither have the kids , my son is heart broken as he is 6 and she has been there since he was 1 year old

Answer 1

Kevin, if she won't answer your calls or emails why put yourself through being rejected again. The best thing to do is go on with your life, as hard as it may be right now and don't show her how your hurting. If she wants to talk with you she will contact you.

Answer 2

A suit, tie, and flowers would be great...
BUT, you need to know what went wrong.
What did you do?
What has she said?
Depending on what happened, you may be needing to get ready to do whole lot of talking (and listening).
You need to tell her how you feel about her, your relationship, and what you want to do from here & what you're willing to do to make things better.

Confronting her at work might not be the best plan.
Email her and leave a phone voicemail asking her to meet you some where so that you two can talk.
Talk to her friends, family,...to find out if she'll be willing to actually show up.
Then, meet her.
If she shows---great! Get to talking.
If she doesn't---well, you may need to just back off and let her calm down & think things through. As long as you let her know (if she doesn't show leave an email & voicemail) that you love her and care about working things out and that you'll be waiting for her...when she's ready to talk, you'll be there.

Good luck and take care.

Answer 3

Did she give a reason for leaving? If not that was really crappy, but do not chase her. By chasing her, emailing, and calling it only pushes her away from you. Obviously you have been together for a while she won't forget you in a day so just hold out on calling her. Give it a while she will either feel bad, miss you, or want to come back if you just give her a little time to herself. If she calls you I know it's hard not to answer but don't be so quick to answer her calls and right there for her whenever she needs or she will walk all over you. Act as though it doesn't bother you much even though it may hurt you alot. need any help email me @ [e-mail]

Answer 4

What happened? I mean, before she left? You just don't storm out of a long-term relationship like that.
Do you have something to apologize for, that makes you want to wait for her outside of work with flowers?

The answer for that is NO though. It will only embarrass her in front of her co-workers, and she might not want them to know what happens in her life.

Second, it makes you look bad and needy, and you're less likely to get her back if you do that. Let he cool off on her own.

====> After reading the aditional details. I really sympathise with you. It's awful to leave a small child, and you must tell your child that it's not her/ his fault. Kids have the tendency to blame themselves when parents fight.

Answer 5

There's a lot of truth to the saying If you love something set it free... If you hound her you'll never get her back. My best suggestion is to give her some space. If she wants you back she needs some space to realize that. That has been proven time and time and time again with my friends relationship. An occasional email or phone call is fine but we don't like to be smothered. Please back off if you want a chance. Good luck!

Answer 6

Some confidence would work a lot better. If you just start being happy doing your own thing she will think, "damnit, why is he so happy?". The happier and stronger the person the happier and stronger the relationship they will make with someone. By being happy on your own you then have something to share with someone else.

Answer 7

think did u hurt her discust her or emmbarress her in any way? or maybe shes just depressed. and to figure that out, a suit, tie, and flowers are a lil to far, just bring her some flowers and take her to her fav resturaunt, u 2 can talk things over on whys shes been actin like that and then ask her if you can do anythin to hlp her

Answer 8

There is a reason she isn't responding to your emails and phone calls. Give her space... If you start showing up unexpectedly.... it might be considered harrassment. Just give her space and time. Might be all she needs. I'm sure this isn't easy on her either... 5 years is a long time and i know you both are probably hurting. Not sure why you broke up- that's your business.... I would just give her space.

Good luck

Answer 9

she is distancing herself from you. Girls will do this to make it easier on themselves. They, like guys, think that if its not able to be remembered, seen or talked to, then that person isn't there and the pain is less unbearable. She's just being either protective of herself or she is angry at you.

Answer 10

Suit and tie would go well with the handcuffs when the police shows up to arrest you for harassment. LMAO dude.