PLEASE tell me she's NOT PREGNANT!?

Question

My STB Ex-Husband left me for another girl 6 weeks ago. They have since moved to NC together (she 2 weeks ago, he 2 days ago). 3 weeks ago, he BEGGED me not to get him for Adultery, & we worked out what would be in the separation papers on MY terms if I didn't. Now, he's begging me TO get him for adultery! he keeps saying "I HAVE to divorce you now. you NEED to file on grounds of adultery so I can get this over w/as soon as possible". Last night, when i talked to him on the phone, I could hear him shaking in his voice. when i asked him what was wrong, he said "i just have some things i have to deal with". the ONLY think that comes to my mind is that his gf is pregnant! In the last 6 weeks, she has slept with my husband, her ex-husband, & possibly another guy. so even if she is, it may not be him. (please see aditional details below ...)

However, I wouldn't put it past her to FAKE a pregnancy b/c she's a VERY decietful person. Also, she is getting madder & madder at the fact that him & i keep getting closer & closer through this separation (as friends). I know FOR A FACT that she is using him (proof). How often have you heard of MISTRESSES faking a pregnancy like this to "make sure" the marriage is over?

oh, and i guess i should add, his reason for wanting to rush this is b/c he "just wants to and needs to be with her" .. he wont give any further details or admit that she is pregnant, so i have no proof, that's just my guess.

Answer 1

Wow. There's alot of drama going on at that trailer park!

Answer 2

It might not be just the girl, but perhaps she belongs to a prominent or rather infamous family, and the relatives are going to take action against your ex. It's pretty scary, but the question is...So what if she's pregnant? If you're already in the process of divorce, then how awful can that be? Are you thinking that you and your ex might reconcile, and him having kids from someone else will affect your decision? I think that as long as you are in no danger, you mustn't fret too much, because it will only cause you more grief. If he won't tell you the true reason for this pressure he's been imposing on you, then there's nothing you can do except to force him to tell you, otherwise you'll delay the whole process. That wouldn't be a great idea, because the best thing for you now is to find the path quickest to reaching the stage of "letting go and moving on" because even if a sacred sacrament has been taken for granted, the world shouldn't end for you. You obviously deserve better. I would also suggest that you undergo a test, to see if you've been infected with anything. That should also be a priority, in my opinion. I hope you can sort your feelings and act from there, but also keep your head on your shoulders and this time, try to be fair to yourself and your heart. Best of luck. :)

Answer 3

How old is this girlfriend of his? She may be playing games, which a lot of women do to guys. She may be lying about being pregnant. Gosh, you know.. it dosn't really matter what is going on in his life anymore. He hurt you so badly, and now all you have to do is run and run fast. Don't be angry, bitter, hateful.. nothing like that. Just protect yourself and get out of that situation because he won't change. Don't even entertain the thought of getting closer to him again. It's okay to remain friends.. Of course! That's what should be done. But, don't let it go any further than that. I stayed and stayed with my husband. He kept crawling back, real tears, the works. Then the beatings started. I lost four babies out of three pregnancies from abuse. Then ended up getting an STD, having to have an emergency surgery, hysterectomy, at 26 years old, never could have babies again, and I was the one who paid for his playing around. Don't let this happen to you, ever.. please. Just get him for adultery. Get everything you can out of him. He's made the mess in his bed, now he can lie in that mess. Just take care of yourself. Don't be the one to end up paying for his infidelity(ies), k? You take care of yourself. You are in my prayers.

Answer 4

Sounds like the girl is pregnant but here is some real advice. Quit being so nice to the creep. Go find a bad a** attorney and sue him for adultery and get a nice piece of change in alimony you deserve it for him deceiving you. If he did cheat on you with this what sounds like a tramp don't worry it is better you are rid of him cheaters never win and it will all come back around to him someday probably very soon.

Answer 5

So hubby replaced into "enjoying you the two" sounds approximately ideal. optimistically your on some beginning administration so he would not finally end up with 2 babies with 2 women. whilst a guy says, "i conflict with the aid of a divorce" you respond with "nicely Frank call me whilst the divorce is signed ok till we don't have something". A separated guy (he wasn't) is married. So even whilst they lie and say they're separated it particularly is married with problems. she gets finished custody because of the fact he's a cheat and he or she has the money to get the ultimate lawyer!! it particularly is the way it works. you do no longer tell something. you're able to desire to leave him on my own now. do no longer answer any calls no longer something. Now you already know so which you have no longer have been given any excuses. i would not think of you're able to wish a cheater for a clean bf. no longer with all the different men interior the international....yet who's acquainted with.

Answer 6

I am going through the same thing. My husband left me for a woman when i was 5 months pregnant. As far as I was told she was pregant 2 months before my child was born! But...she then had a miscarriage. I also have a feeling she did it(get pregnat...if she ever really was) to make sure she would keep him. I think you should move on with your life and let them be in their own drama. Life is too short from what ive learned. I let god handle it and I truely believe what goes around comes around. i feel bad for the baby that died...but I feel like...well....she didnt care about something maybe happening to my unborn child because of their affair....so....how should I feel. Im not a vendictive person . I let god handle it and thats what you should do to!

Answer 7

So Much Drama! You need to step back and let your STB learn from his own mistakes, there is a life lesson to be learned here.

If what you are saying is true, then he initially wanted to negotiate the terms of divorce so he could afford to take care of this women, meaning you would get cheated. Now he finds out that she is manipulating him and he wants you to take him for all he's worth so she doesn't end up with it. The bottom line is: he knew you deserved the money more than she did and yet he made you second to her until it didn't work for him anymore.

This guy is more confused than the situation itself. You need to let them both reap the benefits/kayos that they have created for themselves.

Answer 8

He's STB X, so what does it matter? It's HIS problem, not yours. And be very glad about that!
It will all come out in the wash, sooner or later. As for WHO"S child it belongs to (assuming that she really is) that too will be determined. If he doesnt pursue that issue, he'd hafta be really insane. Again, thank you're lucky stars, it's HIS & HER problem, & not yours! And if you do have any children, ENSURE that you receive financial assistance from him.

Answer 9

No recommendations from me, accept to say that you should read every response here. Mistress maybe no "cup of tea", but "the husband" is a real winner as well.

Will continue to follow the story out of interest.

Answer 10

She might be pregnant or she might not be who knows. If I where you thow I would not be worring about it at all because he is the one who was suppose to be faithfull to you and did not do that now wants a divorce to be with this woman who sounds crazy if you ask me so let him have her let em both have eachother and you can move on and find something better and someone who will treat you right.

Answer 11

My brother wound up marrying a girl he was cheating on his fiance with because the girl told him she was pregnant. So I'm sure people fake those things to manipulate a situation. But, really, does it matter? Just file however you want and be done with him.