Why is it Crime to want the finer things in life?

Question

I worked hard and paid my way through school working overnight for the postal service while I went to college in the day time and raised a child to get to where I am today why is it a crime to want the finer things in life after sacrificing so much shouldn't I be commended for not being a statistic on welfare? Instead I'm being spat on for being successful.

See first ? I asked earlier

Answer 1

Because, first, if you have nice things, it makes many people feel inferior and many of them assume or get it in their heads that you are a snob or that you think you're better because you have nice stuff. They don't realize how wrong they are until they get to know you and realize that you don't have a problem sharing or acting "down-to-earth" or being nice. Many people think all wealthy people are greedy snobs because it's a stereotype. Just like many people think all poor people are lazy. It's a shame but that's the way a lot of people think. I've misjudged people before just because I listened to some negative comments and lies a player-hater was spreading. That's why it's good to pass judgment on people without talking to them first or getting to know them.

But now, if people see that you're arrogant or conceited or a show-off about what you have and all you do is talk about your stuff or yourself or what YOU have done, then of course, they won't want to be bothered with you. They will get tired of you talking about your accomplishments all the time. That junk doesn't matter. What matters is if you're a good person or a nice person. Have pride in what you do, but don't brag and go on and on about it. You'll enjoy your success a lot more if you have friends to share it with.

But keep on doing what you do and strive to be better. If you gain a friend it's a blessing. If you don't, you ain't loss nothin'.

Answer 2

Liking the finer things in life and flaunting it are not the same thing.
The way you wrote your previous question simply focused too much on the material things you have and made you look like (excuse my language) an image whore.
In my experience there are plenty of people who want the finer things in life because they think by having these things they will themselves be transformed into someone more refined. Unfortunately, for these people its not that simple.

Let me explain it another way. I knew a man who was so proud to have a Rolex because it was a status symbol of success, but then I showed him that I wore my grandfather's watch that kept horrible time. The difference was I already had the luxury of to do things on my schedule not someone else's. His nice Rolex was still a chain that showed the world he was still a slave to time.
True power and affluence does not come from the thinks you have, but from the things you can get if you so happen to want them.

Answer 3

Who is "spatting" on you? Look - yes, you deserve to reward yourself and your child for making it through a difficult time in your life. Just be sure your focus and attitude don't become "it's all about me." Sometimes when people make it through something like that, they get an attitude of ENTITLEMENT - meaning "the world OWES me" because I went through this. The fact is the world doesn't owe you anything. You worked hard for something and you'll continue to work hard - not because you want a pat on the back but because it's the right thing to do. Buck up - don't let other people's jealousy bring you down.

Answer 4

It isn't a crime to want the finer things in life, as long as you're working for what you want. I am the same way...I work my tail off to make the money I do and maintain my standard of living. I figure, as long as I'm taking care of myself and not expecting anyone else (including the govt.) to support me, than I can only be described as a successful independent woman....and all the naysayers are jealous!

Answer 5

noone is spitting on you for being successful...they are responding to you name dropping and talking about having your needs met and "seeing" someone on the side when you are married. Their responses to your original question have nothing to do with wanting the finer things in life. You are not a victim here so please don't act like people are attacking you...they simply responded to the question/scenario you posed.

Answer 6

maybe your one of those kinds that wants to tell everyone else that they can do the same and spit on them for saying other-wise. WHy should we praise you for making it harder on yourself? I do the same minus the kid and I don't look for a pat on the back nor do I tute my own horn. SO you made it..Congratulation! Don't expect the world to give you nomore than that. My two friends graduated from Clemson University and wait tables at a Food joint.

Answer 7

I commend you! There is nothing wrong with wanting and having the finer things, providing you have earned it and it sounds like you have. People are envious! Try not to let their pettiness bother you.

Answer 8

No i think you deserve it and it shouldnt bother you what other people think.. That's why you busted your *** and everyone else should mine their own business..my sister startede out in a mobile home raising her kid and now shes a successful woman driving a 60,000 car a huge house and were all happy for her.

Answer 9

by who? BTW what the hell do you care what people think? at the end of the day you only have yourself to answer to if you KNOW in your heart you are doing what's best ..should it matter someone else thinks diffrent? come on your more mature then this.

Answer 10

You should be proud of yourself!!! This is something not easily done. And anyone who doesn't think so is either jealous that you actually made it for yourself or ... mad they didn't do the same for themselves.

*just my opinion*