Marriage & Divorce - 14 June 2007

My B/friend is what most Fathers would like their daughters to bring home. He is well educated,(An accountant in the top management team of his company)respectful,well mannered,tall,handsome and never been married before. But not my father.I'm 28yrs and my b/friend is 36yrs. My family and I have been in America for 15years now and i thought my father has left his African thinking but i just found out that's not true. My father believes in bridal price which my b/friend is willing to pay though it's against his American culture.

My mother approves of my b/friend but my father is the other half that has to approve the marriage.

My fathers reasons for saying NO are: (1) his of a different race (2) his older than me (3) his American culture clashes with ours. I told my dad we are in America though, but he doesn't care.

I love my b/friend and he is very disappointed and hurt that my father rejected him. Should i go against my father's wishes?

2007-06-14 08:54:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't imagine myself with anyone else, and I know he's the one for me. He asked me to marry him a few months ago. I've told him that I wanted to wait until marriage for sex. He used to respect that and he surprisingly told me that he would be okay with that. that sex didn't matter now. but recently he's been bringing it up more and more. He says he doesn't know how much longer he can wait. So my question is, do i surrender my beliefs and give up my one-time gift for him, as I intended to do anyway, or do i wait until marriage. I don't expect him to love me more if we do have sex. but he gave me the bs excuse that it would bring us closer.

2007-06-14 08:50:29 · 17 answers · asked by Ciavana 3

Why get married? It's just a piece of paper. I don't need a piece of paper to show I'm in a relationship.

2007-06-14 08:48:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

LET THINGS BE REGARDING an aquaintanance's tragedy....I happen to know the family and they have worked through it and do not RE-LIVE IT ANYMORE...when someone says.. ."You know I do not re-live that painful time>"...wouldn't you just say ..."I am sorry, i brought it up"...or just.."I'm sorry"...but people just keep bringing it up in the store...the how, what and why questions...???...what is your take on that???I feel people are sooo INSENSITIVE...AND NOSY ALSO....

2007-06-14 08:46:35 · 3 answers · asked by sweet 4

2007-06-14 08:45:08 · 45 answers · asked by . S 2

I feel like an idiot for asking this. My wife was hurt 3 weeks ago and we have not had sex since the incident. I have tried be patient but I am going crazy. I do not know what to do. I told her and she says sorry she is just not ready. We usually had sex 3-4 times a week. This is the longest we have gone since we got married 7 years ago. What should I do. I do not want to pressure her but I am going crazy. Would it be bad to pressure to have sex even if it is basically just for me?

2007-06-14 08:41:27 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

i ave been under serious depression,eating sleeping pills every nigt since 1 yr,my usband ignores me,never talks to me properly; hides his cell from me;i tried to trust him many times but everytime he shocks me wen i come to know of his datingswit tat girl from my relatives;now i ave lost my patience and tolerance;i take out te frustration on myself by beating myself,my kids are3 yrs and 1yr

2007-06-14 08:37:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to change my last name to my husband last name after married 3 yeards, as I hold greencard now. Where and what I should go and do? And what document I have to preapre? And how much that I have to pay? And how long it will be legal? And what benefit that I will have for the future if I do this??

2007-06-14 08:34:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-14 08:27:57 · 16 answers · asked by JesseNevaehsMommy 3

My husband's friend left his wife and three kids for a stripper and moved her in with him. One day when he was at work, the stripper loaded all his valuables into a Uhaul truck and left. He never saw her again. I say he got what he deserved.

2007-06-14 08:26:48 · 14 answers · asked by Me 1

My husband has had 4 days off, he also has West Nile which makes him tired.
All he does is sleep but my problem is that he asked me to make him a honey do list, I never have before I guess i think that he should look around and know what needs to be done.
I do not want to turn into a nag.
should i do this?? it really does not bother me if he doesn't clean as long as he doesn't complain when i don't clean.
????????

2007-06-14 08:23:07 · 19 answers · asked by nobodytotalkabout 4

I asked this question a while back. Women what would you say if your husband or boyfriend told you he showed your privite pictures to some of his friends. And the only reason he did this is because he thinks you are the sexest thing he had ever seen and said other men should see such a beautfull women. How mad would you be and would you be courious of what they had to say about them????

2007-06-14 08:21:33 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

when I learned about his wif I confronted him about it & he admitted it.That was 7 months ago. I know what i should do is dump him but it has been very difficulty for me.Had i known he was married I wouldn't have dated him at all.

There were no signs that he was married at all. Whenever I called & wanted he to come over,he was always there.He has Never ever stood me up.I used to go to what I thought was his primary place of residence but he confaced that it's a house that his wife doesn't know about.He even gave me the keys to that house(I thought he was not married).The only TRUTH was his 3 kids that I met & hung out with over & over again.He introduced me to them as daddy's friend( which at the time seemed right bcos they are 7yrs,6yrs & 4yrs & I thought he didn't want to confuse them). He said he was divorced.
At times i called him late at night, when i felt like having sex(he was my b/friend, at least I thought)& he came over.He never said No or gave any excuses.

2007-06-14 08:20:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 18 now, he will be 21 this month. We have already been dating for about 2 years. We know we will be together, We love each other dearly. But we are mostly worried about finances. I'll be in college full-time and he is still starting out in his career as a mechanic. We plan on getting married in a couple of yrs, is that too young, could we make it financially?

2007-06-14 08:18:24 · 16 answers · asked by guitar_girl1988 2

I need alittle help. My husband wants to move closer to his family. I really dont want to. I am so close to my parents if we move we will be 5 hrs away from them. He doesnt just want to move because of his family but has been promised a job making alot better money than he does now. We have 2 children together so I have to wonder if it is the best decision. He has promised we will visit my parents at least twice a year. Some advice please!

2007-06-14 08:10:57 · 33 answers · asked by augusta_kitty 1

I am conducting a survey on how many people have cheated on their spouses without them knowing. Please be honest! Thanks

2007-06-14 07:56:17 · 36 answers · asked by JesseNevaehsMommy 3

Eventually I'll have to deal with my boyfriends X because of my relationship with him and his kids - how can I not let the kids know how much I dislike her - I've been avoiding any and all situations that she's involved with... But I can't do that forever .... can I?
She truly is a FREAK!

2007-06-14 07:51:14 · 6 answers · asked by Kaybee 4

If there were a resturant with tables that could be completely colsed off with a curtian, so the people inside could have sex while dining? So any resturant entrapures want to take up this one? I know you would have at lest one customer.

2007-06-14 07:44:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousin is still in love with her psycho ex. He says he's changed, but his lips are saying something completely different. What advice could I give her on how to move on?

2007-06-14 07:43:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband think that we are not finiacially ready. I had two abortionts beacause of him and somehow i feel like I'm getting older(almost 30) and I'm running out of time. I dont know if he's really not ready or not ready with me. Should I ignore him and stop the pill or should i wait and hope that it doesnt take 5 more years.

2007-06-14 07:40:39 · 16 answers · asked by marie 2

Would you leave your husband if he had cheated on you with the same women for a year and you caught him 4-5 times and he still kept it going with this other women .He swears its over this time, but has told this same story before.

2007-06-14 07:33:31 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have nothing against anyone that has done this -- seems like most people in their 25-35 has...in MI at least.

I personally am waiting but everyone around me ends up having a baby and separating from the Father afterwards. I feel so bad that all these kids are coming from broken homes!! :( I understand that to some marriage is only a slip of paper but to me...it's a LIFE LONG commitment to eachother. Why don't people do it more?? Don't they want to have a FAMILY NAME?

2007-06-14 07:33:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Question Details: I am a single 50 yr. old, attractive, in good physical shape, like to go out,party and get wild. But I only seem to be attracted to married men. I find the challenge of getting a married man to be with exciting!!

2007-06-14 07:13:10 · 6 answers · asked by wanna love 1

CHEATING: My boyfriend and I have different fews on this...see he thinks that cheating only pertains to married couples. He doesn't believe that if he flirts and is "extra" friendly to other girls while having a girlfriend is not to be considered cheating. I think he is WRONG. I feel that if you have a significant other, love and respect them , it shouldn't matter whether you are married or not. CHEATING IS CHEATING!! I told him that he is only trying to convince himself of that because if he did cheat, he wouldn't feel so guilty, therefor convincing himself that he did nothing wrong to clear his conscience.
Am I wrong?

2007-06-14 06:59:29 · 24 answers · asked by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7

I know that if I was married I would say cheating, but worse than that I'll say walking into my room and seeing the cheating happening

2007-06-14 06:57:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother signed a mail that we weren't supposed to get from my dad because it's like this big law thingy. But my brother signed it so my mom is going to the post office, but is there any way to give back the mail?? We're not supposed to get it!!!

2007-06-14 06:57:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I work security at a very small office building. I was watching on camera when I spotted a man laying outside on a picnic bench stripped down to a very flimsy pair of shorts. At first I thought that it was a homeless person that had wondered onto our property but upon further inspection I noticed that it was an employee. I was shocked. I thought that I was back at work, not on the beach. Some of the employees walking past me saw him on camera as well and one even went outside to scold him. My question is was this innapropriate behavior or if you are on your lunch break should be allowed to do whatever you want?? Input please!

2007-06-14 06:56:38 · 25 answers · asked by Cheryl J 2

I was WONDERING whether ....?
I always keep my physical interests and emotional interests apart so when I told my friend that I had major crushes on many guys and wanted to go out them but thought about other HOT guys on the physical level she called me a big jerk.
Now that I think I think I will get really bored with my husband ( when I have that ) after say 8 - 13 times. Because then he is going to be old and then there is going to be nothing new. I think I might like other guys physically the although I won't bew tangled in a extra marital affair though.
ARE THESE SORTS OF FEELING NORMAL ???

2007-06-14 06:55:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hot neighbor is always in the backyard with the bikini thongs? She's always asking me if I want any lemonade in her house when her husband is out. Does she want to talk or something?

2007-06-14 06:50:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my wife are deciding to get separated but we dont plan on divorcing for a few years , i am about to buy a property in the state of Florida what can i do to protect my property in case she decided to fight me on day for it , she has told me that she has no problem signing a paper that states that she has no rights to the home i buy in Florida , is there a such paper that i am able to get for her to sign to protect myself

2007-06-14 06:45:43 · 18 answers · asked by lee s 1