Honeydo list??/?

Question

My husband has had 4 days off, he also has West Nile which makes him tired.
All he does is sleep but my problem is that he asked me to make him a honey do list, I never have before I guess i think that he should look around and know what needs to be done.
I do not want to turn into a nag.
should i do this?? it really does not bother me if he doesn't clean as long as he doesn't complain when i don't clean.
????????

Answer 1

Make a list of things that you know he can do without draining himself too much. I'm guessing that he's feeling a little insecure. Men need to feel needed and women need to make sure that they don't need a man and at the same time make the man think that they do.

Answer 2

WOW! How did your guy find such a shallow person, if you do not know what West Nile Virus is let me spell it out for you:

Most people infected with West Nile virus do not become ill. People with a mild infection may present with fever, headache, eye pain, muscle aches, joint pain, a rash on the trunk and swollen lymph nodes. In severe cases symptoms include extreme muscle weakness, inflammation of the brain (encephalitis), paralysis, and coma. In rare cases the infection may be fatal, particularly in the elderly and people with other medical conditions.

For the first time as long as I can remember, I am at a loss for words

Answer 3

Make it for him, since he asked, but only put stuff on it that you wouldn't normally do anyway. Things that wait a long time to get done because he has no time when he's at work. Now, just because you make the Honey-Do list, doesn't mean you make him actually do it, lol. If he's feeling up to it he can pick something to do, but if not...there's always next year.

Can you add on there to come over to my place and bring my old water cooler to the Salvation Army because my husband has been working 60 hrs/wk lately and hasn't gotten around to it ;-)

Answer 4

Go ahead, make the honey do list, and under it make a list of things for you to do, too. If no one is going to do any cleaning, you'll be surrounded by nasties sooner or later. He has a physical problem, what's yours excuse? I have a cousin with west nile and it was hard for him to even get up, he had to force himself to do anything. I hope his wife had more compassion.

Answer 5

Are you living in filth and squalor? You husband lies ill and you don't want to clean the house? What the hell is the matter with you? I am sure glad I am not your husband. If I were, the minute I got well enough to arise, I would throw you and all your trash out into the street.

Answer 6

I hate to say this, but the guy is sick, giving him a break. It sounds like he has tried and has good intentions, but he physically can't do it. Take care of him, when he has West Nile don't ask him to take care of you.

Answer 7

Boy O Boy....theres a diamond in the ruff there!!!! Keep that one. Guess maybe he feels guilty about laying around. Make him a list and tell to do what he can. If he doesn't feel well enuff to do it all....theres always tomorrow. But if he gets it all done, send him to my house, my old man sleeps all day, and does absolutely nada. Hehehe.

Answer 8

Go ahead and make a list, but I wouldnt expect everything to be done and I probably wouldnt make it too long. Might look overwhelming and a bit naggy. Guys hardly ever look around and just know what needs done. I probably would title it something like "Our to do List"...that way it doesnt look like you are asking him to do everything around the house and just cross off things as they get done.

Answer 9

Just leave him alone and only clean if you feel like it. When he starts to complain remind him that you never nag him so he shouldnt do it to you.
I use to try to clean everyday and crap would annoy me. But once I relaxed and left for a day when I had more time. I was much happier and didnt feel stressed.

Answer 10

Since he asked for a list, then make a list together. He probably wants to prioritize what needs to be done.