Marriage & Divorce - 14 June 2007

I have been married for 5 years and unhappy almost the whole time. We only knew eachother about 3 months before we got married. He is a coach and very set in his ways. He doesn't even realize the abnormality of his controlling behavior. Family and friends say that I act totally different around him. He doesn't allow me to drink alcohol or anything of that nature.

2007-06-14 05:01:11 · 9 answers · asked by liz 1

2007-06-14 04:54:11 · 18 answers · asked by panicos m 1

or when the baby is still very small?

2007-06-14 04:49:41 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just found out that my husband (we're seperated however not legally yet) has been seeing a 28 yr old gal that has 3 small kids. the problem is he's 49 and we have a 28 yr old daughter ourselves. is that gross? like dating/sleeping with your daughter. he has grandkids for gosh sakes? whats up with these guys who think they can relive their younger years through someone else? whats up with her? she likes sleeping with daddy? how could you ever forgive something like this? i'm devastated and sick at heart.

2007-06-14 04:44:03 · 51 answers · asked by MIMKA 1

He told me I'm so fat, I can't even dodge responsibility


should I celebrate?

2007-06-14 04:43:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Married 25 years, and have raised 3 children. First of all, am I happy. Most of the time. Nobodies happy all the time. Does my husband make me happy, sometimes. I have learned to dig deep inside myself to make myself happy. Does my husband hit me? He hasn't actually hit me in about 15 years, has thrown things at me, or around me as recently as a year and a half ago. Am I still afraid of him, somewhat. I give him some credit for controlling his anger. Does he call me names or try to belittle me, yes, things like white trash, and liar come to mind. Does he do it all the time? No, it comes and goes in spurts. Does he compliment me? Never about my appearance, I am attractive and it seems to bother him when other people comment on it, but he does seem to respect my intelligence and is not afraid to say it to others. Does he say he loves me, all the time, but he also says he hates his life and only sticks around because of me.

2007-06-14 04:33:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband hates his job. He comes home every night in a foul mood. He complains all the time about how much he hates it. Now he is on a pity-party saying "maybe I'm just not qualified for this job" "maybe I've been fooling myself". First, I tried to cheer him up all the time, give him pep talks. Nothing changes. So, I tried to tell him how his attitude was effecting me. His answer "fine. I'll just pretend like everything is okay". Look, I am pretty realistic. If your job makes you miserable then get another job. Don't sit there and wallow in it. Get up and do something about it. Unfortuately, he doesn't see it that way. Right now, I don't want to be around him because I am just tired of the complaining. How do I deal with him?

2007-06-14 04:31:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for a few years years and our sex life had slowed down a bit - we were only making love about two or three times a week. However since he found out that I slept with another man he can't leave me alone. He showers me with affection and we now make love every day, sometimes even twice. I am not complaining but I wonder what the explanation for this is.

2007-06-14 04:29:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

but we filed taxes separately. In case he stops paying his credit cards, the collectors can come into my banking account, that is only in my name and take my money?
Can you also refer me to a website that details this?

2007-06-14 04:22:49 · 5 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 4

I understand that polite and kind, but which are the limits for not confuse our daughters.
if I need help to fix the car, he helps me, and also I do not have anybody in this country, not money not family and not friends.
I do not want to keep on confusing my two girls of 6 and 3 who have suffered very much.
and how I behave with the family of him ? please helps how are you in this culture in this aspect, what wait from me.that is what I must not do and that is what I can do.
for example they never look for us I am who called them, so that they see my daughters or sometimes to ask them to take care of them if I do not have anybody any more, but this is just 3 or 4 times a years.my daughters have three stepbrothers who never look for them, what I do to the regard?honest forgive for my English

2007-06-14 04:19:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is married so i avoid him little by little, when ever he ask me to go out for date , i make excuses or , i wont go , but now he ring me and ask a date tommorow coz tomm is his birthday, he wants to celebrate his bday with me , so i promise to go out and have a date with him , now do i have to go and do my promise or dont, im sure the end is we will sleep , now im thinking i wont go but what about my promise , he will get mad in his birthday , any good solution pls

2007-06-14 04:14:24 · 55 answers · asked by carmelite 2

is it hard to say or do you want the other person not to know that they were right on an issue?

2007-06-14 04:08:47 · 28 answers · asked by suederay 1

I do understand what it meant in the ages where life span was very short. Although in these days and times people live much longer time periods. Can "Til death do us part" mean... The death of the love of 2 people who are no linger on the same page and out grown each other mentally and spiritualy?

2007-06-14 04:06:44 · 16 answers · asked by gypsey 3

2007-06-14 04:06:44 · 7 answers · asked by Nimbot 2

In other words why hold in the anger when you can address the situation right then and there instead of waiting until you burst and it turns into a shouting match

2007-06-14 04:05:20 · 10 answers · asked by suederay 1

If I miss a call from her, she'll say "WHY DIDNT YOU ANSWER MY CALL?" Where were you? What were you doing? When she misses my call, I just leave a message asking for a call back. She'll call me 100 times until I answer my phone.

2007-06-14 04:05:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage. His parents want us to be married in his church. He is a Baptist. I'm not religious and I'm not a member of a church. Do I have to become a Baptist in order to be married in his church?

2007-06-14 04:04:04 · 15 answers · asked by hammysammy027 2

2007-06-14 04:00:50 · 15 answers · asked by lilj316 1

To YA! say this because our childrens schools form of communication is mostly through email. Every week they let us know what event/fieldtrip etc. is going 2 take place 4 that week & the next few wks ahead. Both of us get the emails. He reads emails from people here who contact him directly about answers or questions but when it came down to events at the school or something that needed his attention his excuse was "oh I didn't read the email." Excuse me but shouldn't your childrens schooling take prioirty over YA? Last night I gave him our daughters outstanding report documenting her excellent improvement ovr the year (she was very shy &sensitive) & a few minutes later I c the rerport in his hand but him looking at YA! Am I being overly sensitive? I love YA too, I apprecate the diverse advice & opinions but I also can still keep my priorities in place. Tell me if I'm nagging. Our children & I were very dissappointed @ the events and conferences he missed this yr. due 2 this

2007-06-14 04:00:47 · 4 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2

my gf of 5 years disappered on my dughters birthday , she had depression problems , my kids are totalled and she left me in a finacial disaster. she is refusing to comunicate with me . she also hapens to work at the biggest law firm in Ottawa, should i try and contact her? it has been 15 days , she has estranged all her family aswell , except her mother who is a real mental case. what should i do , we had al lot of misunderstandings and fights over her problems.

2007-06-14 03:57:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

( horrible I know...but I promise it'a a really complicated situation ) Thing is she now knows my name and chances are will be seeking me out any time soon. He has said that I can tell her what ever I want....but what on earth do I do. Tell her to ease my conscience and to give her the full truth to move on with or lie to protect us?

2007-06-14 03:55:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is always nagging me about things to do around the house. She hates to see me enjoying a book or a TV program. I do stuff around the house but she ignores it gives me no credit and finds something else for me to do.
She seldom tidies up and and buys stuff for the house we don't really need. But whenever she leaves the house like, to go to work, or visit her freinds, I get a surge of motivation and do all of things she asks about and more. And when she returns or is at home I don't feel like doing anything. It's like turning on a light switch when she leaves. I wonder why I feel this way. Anyone have a clue? Thanks

2007-06-14 03:54:56 · 9 answers · asked by Nash M 1

this is tricky. i have been married for 16 years. i met this other guy and we started as friends with benefits, but then i met his wife thru our boys and sports. problem, we have fallen in love to the max. we dont plan on leaving our spouses, but now she wants me to be her best friend, i feel bad, but i am so in love with her husband. it has been going on for 2 years. what do i do??

2007-06-14 03:51:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I talk to an ex bf of mine and he's not married but I am. Thats not what I want to talk about I also have a friend who is married and his ex is married, but her marriage is good and his not so great. No love or compassion is given towards him & he gives it. But my question is his ex has not been talking to him as much this week and I need to know how to let him know that it will pass and they will be talking on a regular basis again? If you have anything bad to say, well go ahead, he might not need a safe answer.

2007-06-14 03:46:35 · 6 answers · asked by ? 4

I have been with my wife for 13 years, she was my sweet sixteen. I like her very much but feel confused at a recent discovery. We have had several intimate moments over the course of our marriage (every night if i do the dishes) but i spoted in the last few weeks that everytime we get jiggy our dog Herbie is in the room with us. When i confronted my wife she admitted to not feeling comfortable in bed without having the dog in the room. She also told me she couldn't have an "orgasm" (whatever that means, god somettimes i think understanding women is a different language all together) unless the dog was watching. I love my wife very much and don't want to ruin our relationship by telling her how i feel. What should i do?

2007-06-14 03:38:23 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf and I have been together for over a year. His ex wife has three children--oldest one he married her with, middle one his, and the 3rd by someone else. They've been split up at least four yrs. He pays child support every month and has never been late or missed a payment. However, yesterday I found scrap paper w/ all 3 girls shoe sizes and that they needed for the summer. Hello?!? I am pregnant and have an child from a previous relationship. I have NEVER asked him to purchase anything she needs nor would I...she is not his responsibility. I don't mind him buying his daughter anything she needs, but the other two are off limits as far as I am concerned. He says he never bought them, but just wrote down the sizes. Why does he feel the need to support the other two when they don't belong to him?!? When they were married and he supported them, that was his business, but now we are together and I don't see that this should continue. Am I wrong? Please advise me...I need help!

2007-06-14 03:35:30 · 25 answers · asked by mvngs 4

2007-06-14 03:31:46 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do you think about being married

2007-06-14 03:23:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am so heartbroken. I want to believe him...but I don't. I love him...but I don't know if I can stay married to him now that the trust is gone. I think he might be having an affair.

2007-06-14 03:15:55 · 29 answers · asked by disruptedgirl 2

I am married now for 6 ys but I want out I cant take the lies the cheating the im sorry anymore but I keep going back because some how he manges to make me feel guilty that hes changing and if I love him I stay.. Did I mention we have 2 kids together..

2007-06-14 03:13:59 · 7 answers · asked by ktbhlove 1