is it hard to say or do you want the other person not to know that they were right on an issue?
2007-06-14 04:08:47 · 28 answers · asked by suederay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I am wrong I will say so. When I am right I make sure he knows it. It takes the bigger person to say I am sorry and I was wrong.
2007-06-14 04:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think laying down your pride and being humble goes a long way in life, and it's essential in relationships. It's not that you have to apologize all over yourself or even repeatedly, but I know that one sincere and heartfelt apology does wonders. (Better yet, think before you speak so you don't have to apologize constantly!) I think knowing when you are wrong, being able to admit to it and apologize for it is part of being a mature adult. It isn't always easy, and as a very stubborn woman, it's something I've come to learn through time and experience. But, by apologizing and admitting when you are in fact wrong, it makes you the bigger, better person. You'll respect yourself more and the other person will respect you too. There is nothing worse than the person who feels they are ALWAYS right and has to prove so each and every time, that's annoying, infuriating and immature. So, be the bigger person and apologize when you know you've messed up. Trust me, it'll make for a much easier and happier relationship all the way around!
2007-06-14 04:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by sarahlizjudd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm in the wrong, I HAVE to apologize. My conscious has a very loud voice, and I have to make thing right. I used to apologize when I knew I'd done nothing wrong, just trying to make peace, but that ended up blowing up in my face too, because then the other person learns that they can manipulate and "control" you...and that you'll do anything to make peace. Now, I apologize if I'm in the wrong. They can accept my apology or not. If I know I was not in the wrong, I just say, "I'm sorry you feel that way." That puts the ball back in their court, without me owning up to something I know I did not cause or do.
2007-06-14 04:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took *me* a while to learn how to do this well, but I apologize. Perhaps you look bad for the moment, but it adds greatly to your self-image, and gives you more credibility with others. When you can recognize right and wrong, even when you're the one who's wrong, others learn that you're a reliable moral compass.
Also, trying to "prove" that you're not wrong takes a lot of attention and energy. A couple of times, I've apologized, and later found out I was right all along (usually for reasons unrelated to my line of thinking). That's the best of both worlds: once I apologize, my mind is free to consider alternatives and develop a better answer, one neither of us was considering in the first place.
2007-06-14 04:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by norcekri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a stubborn person, and you know you were wrong, get over it and apologize. Life is too short to be mad at the ones you love.
2007-06-14 04:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be stubborn for a bit (I hate to be wrong...lol) but if I do see the error in my ways, I will always find the strength to apologize for my mistakes because I would like that same consideration given back to me if the roles were reversed.
2007-06-14 04:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important in a marriage, as in any relationship, that a person be willing to admit when they are wrong, and apologize when they have wronged their spouse. It takes a strong person to admit that they're wrong. And when people can do this, then they can put the problem behind them, and put the relationship back on course.
2007-06-14 04:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I manipulate the situation till I can justify myself or come out smelling like a rose!!!!
Oh, no, wait ...that was my exhusband...I know how to say I'm sorry...so much so that I was sorry even when I didn't do anything wrong.
But I still know right from wrong and when I'm wrong I apologize and leave myself open to learn right.
2007-06-14 04:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens with my wife, many times she is wrong but at the same time she is stubborn not to apologize and the problem will become bigger.
The best thing is that we you are wrong ,apologies you will surprise your opponent but make sure he will not take advantage of your apologies.
2007-06-14 04:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rajab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am wrong I have no problem with apologizing or saying I was wrong. I'd want the other person to do that for me so that makes it easier for me to admit it to them.
2007-06-14 04:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋