because I am from a very different culture, how must be my behaviour with me ex-husband?

Question

I understand that polite and kind, but which are the limits for not confuse our daughters.
if I need help to fix the car, he helps me, and also I do not have anybody in this country, not money not family and not friends.
I do not want to keep on confusing my two girls of 6 and 3 who have suffered very much.
and how I behave with the family of him ? please helps how are you in this culture in this aspect, what wait from me.that is what I must not do and that is what I can do.
for example they never look for us I am who called them, so that they see my daughters or sometimes to ask them to take care of them if I do not have anybody any more, but this is just 3 or 4 times a years.my daughters have three stepbrothers who never look for them, what I do to the regard?honest forgive for my English

Answer 1

sweetie, is there anyway you can get you and your children back to where ever it is your from? You can be friends but nothing else. Be nice, don't be ugly, it will help your children later on. Do you have a religion or church? That is a good way to make friends and have support and so forth. Don't go chasing down the family. Let them come to you and the girls. If they don't want no part of your life and the girls, it is their loss. Don't block your husband from being a father and it will take time for your children to adjust, none of this is easy. What about the counselor at the school talking to you? Most of them are very open and will offer help. Find sometype of support group in your area that you could meet up with and find support and help. What about communicating with some one from where you are from even, via the internet? Be nice and act like someone, don't be ugly or mean there is no reason not to act like an adult.

Answer 2

Culture? You mean what should be your conduct? Culture is literature, music and clay pots that depict naked men running around playing olympic sports and were used to hold wine.

Your conduct (assuming you're in America) would be civil. Polite and reasonable to your ex. You have no obligations to him per se and should not feel beholden to him if he repairs your car. Offer him a beer or a sandwich. make small talk but by no means to you have to keep a relationship up romantically or sexually.
Who gives a damn about the stepbrothers? They aren't going to be an intrigal part of your daughter's lives so write them off.
Does this explain things for you? Your question is a bit disjointed because of the structure of the sentences. Other than that you have a good command of English. Just needs a tiny bit more polish to it.

Answer 3

Just do what you feel is right for your daughters. Your ex husband sounds like a good guy, in the aspect that he's still willing to help you out when you need help :)

Answer 4

Do what feels right to you.
If you can still get along with everyone that is a good thing for your girls.
You also need to try to make some friends other than just his family that way if things go wrong you won't be alone.
Your English will get better, it just takes time.

Answer 5

please do not worry so much...u must ask for help when you need it.you can tell your daughter that the man helping mommy is still their daddy so he should be spending time with them leaving you time for yourself.

his family will always be in your daughter blood line.so if can have a healthy relationship it will be wonderful.

called them let them share the responsibilities in bringing up the kids.starting from there ,I am sure as they meet often and barriers between the step brothers will improve in time.meeting up often and interacting will definately do magic.