Marriage & Divorce - 14 June 2007

My VERY soon to be ex-husband believes he did all he could in our marriage because he never went out to hang out with his friends or go to clubs, bars etc. His undying defense is I was a good husband, I went to work and came home and thats all! Women/Men correct me if I'm wrong but doesn't a marriage take more than JUST BEING THERE? I begged for more dates, more excitement something to keep us "alive" after 15 yrs & two kids. I bought lingerie, danced for him, lit the candles planned get-aways but sometimes I wanted to be the one who sat back and enjoyed HIS plans. He refused to keep a cell phones cuz he didn't want ANYONE to have tabs on him and I begged for him to get one even got him one and he gave it to our son. Oh but now he has one, now going to parties, lost all this weight... I just need a little validation here please, just being there isn't ENOUGH RIGHT?

2007-06-14 03:09:55 · 16 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2

OK 3 year relationship with my fiancee,I cheated on him sometime toward the end of october 06. Im expecting August 19, could it be who i cheated with or def my fiancee.Serious people only? No childishness. thanks

2007-06-14 03:08:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just curious if there is some guideline out there?

2007-06-14 02:53:49 · 11 answers · asked by :o) 3

What things around the house would you prefer that your spouse does FOR you...and also that you wouldn't have to ask them?
What are things that you do, because you really enjoy doing these things.."Just because"!?
why?
thanks!

2007-06-14 02:48:35 · 25 answers · asked by ladyk 2

2007-06-14 02:48:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Let me start by saying that I am a happily married woman. I recently ran into my high school boyfriend's mother in the grocery store and she told me he just got married. He and I are still friends and email and phone each other frequently. I have even met his new bride ( they have been together a while). My problem is that I can help but feel a little upset that he didn't tell me he was getting married. Not that I would have went to the wedding ( no matter how close that would just be strange). But we have been friends for 15 yrs and dated for 2 1/2. I don't know why this bother's me but it does. Am I over reacting or am I justified in being a little hurt?

2007-06-14 02:40:33 · 19 answers · asked by DEBBY'S BABY 4

2007-06-14 02:36:14 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have fallen for a white man really hard. In recent times i find white guys to be hot. I was never really into them at all.The problem is a have a Black B/friend who i don't feel much for(maybe because i have fallen for another guy).

I know my b/friend will want to fight this guy if i leave him & he finds out the other guy is white. I think it will make matters worse if he know that this white man is 43yrs and i'm 29 yrs . My b/friend is 30yrs.

Even though he is 43 yrs, he is really hot & looks better than most young men.He has the Anderson Cooper look(the CNN News anchor) BUt i think he's even more cuter that Anderson Cooper.

I think it will kill my B/friend to know that this guy runs his own successful company and my b/friend will use that against me.

I know he will try to find this guy to physical fight him. how do i deal with this. I have not slept with my b/friend in 4 months & i once told him it was over but he did not accept it. He said we should work things out.

2007-06-14 02:31:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband ignores me a lot, is addicted to video games, masterbates/ looks at porn sometimes (and lies about it), only has sex with me maybe once/twice a week, doesn't open up or talk to me. I feel like all I do is complain, or remain silent with all my needs unmet. I'm starting to resent marrying him.

I've given up alot, moved everywhere his job has taken him (even overseas). I have two children 2 yrs and 1 yr. I want them to have a good example for a father and marital relationship. I feel like we are just roommates that have sex once in awhile.

I talk to him about it nicely, and complain, nothing is working. I feel like nothing will change.

By the way- (jerks) I'm not ugly or overweight, or a b*tch

2007-06-14 02:24:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-14 02:18:40 · 43 answers · asked by annabelle p 7

a few weeks ago, there's a rumour that my uncle has second wife. more worst, becoz it happened 4 years ago n they already have 2 children!! i'm feeling sorry for my auntie. my family suggest my auntie to divorce her husband, but i think my auntie didn't want to do it.

2007-06-14 02:17:03 · 1 answers · asked by distiko 2

2007-06-14 02:15:52 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

me. She always addresses her issues with my husband. I do not like her, she says and does some of the most stupid things. She believes she is the only good parent. I fear that if my husband spends time with her and their kids together he will miss that environment and want to go back to her. We have been married for almost 2 yrs.

2007-06-14 02:15:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need some advice. Maybe I'm over reacting but I feel like my husband doesn't like me anymore. I know he loves me but i just feel like I'm not attracted to him anymore. He still treats me right he's never disrespected me, but he doen't talk to me the same. I feel like he's keeping things from me and i've caught him looking at porn couple times. Also caught him talking and text messaging with one of our neighbors daughters, calling her babe and stuff. We talked about it and nothing ever happened ever since, but i still have these feelings that he keeps things from me. and the sex is not the same anymore; used to be more into it and now we just do it and thats it. Ever since I had my baby(1 yr ago) he hasnt wanted to do oral sex but he still asks for it. I just feel alone and don't know what to do. Everytime he makes me mad leaving him always comes to my mind, but i still want to be with him at the same time because i love him. Do i make sense? Please help only serious advice plz thanks

2007-06-14 02:10:29 · 9 answers · asked by confused 1

2007-06-14 02:03:45 · 23 answers · asked by Magalela 1

How many of us can confess that we have either cheated or not on our partners before?

2007-06-14 02:02:14 · 30 answers · asked by Cuz 1

we've been together 12 years married almost 5. have a 3 yr old. For the past 2 years he has been miserable every day. He calls me names and is only nice when he wants sex. nothing i do is good enough. he rewashes the dishes and wipes the counters. if I vacuum he says "you wouldn't know it." same with washing floors. i do 75% of housework and ALL childcare. came home from work after 6 hours chils asleep in clothes with soggy diaper. he has hit me in the past, is very verbally abusive and his moods change from one minute to the next. he's been threatening to kill himself or tells me that I should kill myself. he does all of this in front of child. recently started saying that she was a mistake and he should never have let me talk him into having her. I think he suffers from depression and possibly OCD but refuses to acknowledge a problem and gets angry at the suggestion of getting help. always saying that everyone is the problem especially me. stay or go?

2007-06-14 01:54:50 · 12 answers · asked by deeply troubled 1

I feel in love with some on who is 30 years older than me.

I alaways was interested in friendship with older guys than me because I find young boys stupid.

2007-06-14 01:41:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-14 01:40:46 · 42 answers · asked by swish 4

he makes his hints pretty obvious. when he walks by my office, he always looks in and when i catch his eye, he winks. He just gives me that look you know. he tells me I look beautiful almost everyday, and whatnot.

I'm only 23 and this guy is like 50. what do I do? I am not interested in any scandalous office affairs and I'm not even attracted to him (lol)

this man is married with like 5 kids. ewww, help me?

2007-06-14 01:34:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-14 01:29:55 · 26 answers · asked by musiclife 1

2007-06-14 01:19:05 · 17 answers · asked by crazy 1

When will i get my money for save my husband i got an email and they was 3 winners and i was the third one.

2007-06-14 01:14:43 · 8 answers · asked by ford man 1

She continues to harass me. On the phone she calls me names and threatens me. She tried to bring me to court on every small concern like whether I can take the kids on vacation. Last night I had my daughter's awards ceremony and she had me served in front of my two boys who were with me because she does not want me to take the kids on vacation. She is relentless and wears me out with her actions. I have basically begged her to stop and let's move on in peace. Needless to say she will not even listen to me. It is effecting my kids and my health as well. What else can I do?

2007-06-14 01:04:30 · 17 answers · asked by paco 1

its was arranged marriage also their side parents given all wrong information about her studies, her belief in God, her age, their background now we never lived happy life........ our argument never gets end also she was keep on post ponding about kids (means she dont want child for more 1 year) i feel i dont want to continue life and to be separated

2007-06-14 01:01:41 · 11 answers · asked by Vishwa Prasad 1

my STB Ex-Husband NEVER drinks. in 8 years, i saw him get drunk once when we were 16, and i've seen him have a random beer followed by tea MAYBE 4 times. His dad is an alcoholic, and he always said 1) i HATE the feeling of being drunk, and 2) i never want to be like my dad.

Him and his girlfriend went out of town last weekend, and pictures of them have surfaced, and in them, he is beyond drunk. he looks as if he's ready to puke, he's so drunk.

dont start telling me to not care and to move on. i dont care what anyone thinks, i do still care for him. that's simply my personality, dont put me down for that. I AM concerned as to why he suddenly would drink himself to oblivious after 8 years of hating to drink at all. it wouldn't bother me if he did this from time to time, but he just DOESN'T! why would he suddenly do this? does divorce do this to some people????

2007-06-14 00:52:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think i'm in love with a married woman, I never met or felt the way about anyone else but her....we kissed and hanged out a few times for almost a year, she's four years older than me... she has a 1year old daughter..and i know that she's carzy about me! what should i do? it'll be real hard to walk away!

2007-06-14 00:35:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

As per Indian law

2007-06-14 00:15:02 · 11 answers · asked by janu 1

how shuld i behave if i want to show them i am mannerless iam in india and i dont want to marry my parents are foring me for marriage i dont want to marry so i want to behave badly so that the people who are comming to see me they have to go back with view that iam a bad manner less girl please is there any one who can suggest me ,,,.,,

2007-06-14 00:10:03 · 7 answers · asked by nausheen_dreemgirl 1

2007-06-14 00:02:46 · 14 answers · asked by tintin 1