I have fallen for a white man really hard. In recent times i find white guys to be hot. I was never really into them at all.The problem is a have a Black B/friend who i don't feel much for(maybe because i have fallen for another guy).
I know my b/friend will want to fight this guy if i leave him & he finds out the other guy is white. I think it will make matters worse if he know that this white man is 43yrs and i'm 29 yrs . My b/friend is 30yrs.
Even though he is 43 yrs, he is really hot & looks better than most young men.He has the Anderson Cooper look(the CNN News anchor) BUt i think he's even more cuter that Anderson Cooper.
I think it will kill my B/friend to know that this guy runs his own successful company and my b/friend will use that against me.
I know he will try to find this guy to physical fight him. how do i deal with this. I have not slept with my b/friend in 4 months & i once told him it was over but he did not accept it. He said we should work things out.
2007-06-14 02:31:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U are a gold-digger.
2007-06-14 02:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like there are two seperate issues here, or are they linked? Do you no longer want to be with your bf because of this other dude (and what difference does it make what color he is? He's still "another" man) or did you get into this other guy because things with you and your bf aren't so great? First you have to figure that out. Because if this white man is the cause of your no longer wanting your bf that's so wrong. How would you feel if he came to you and said "it's over, I found someone else better than you". Because that is essentially what you are saying. But if you found this white man, as a result of things not so great with your bf, then you should end that relationship BEFORE starting something with this other fellow. As for the white/black thing...the fact that you are leaving your bf is going to be bad enough, but for you to leave him for a white man, girl you must be crazy. Race WILL matter to him. It's going to be a big blow to his ego and it's not going to be pretty. Also, how well do you know this other guy? There has to be more to him other than being "hot" and having a successful business. Those are superficial things. Also, there is a marked difference between black and white, there is, and anyone who says there isn't is lying to themselves. We are just very different people, we have different values and cultures. So with that said, you better be sure you know what you are getting. There is a saying that is a favorite of mine, it goes "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know". Good luck.
2007-06-14 09:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots goin on here. You have told your current bf it is over...are you living together? If so, move out and let him know in no uncertain terms it is over. Don't try to be his friend because if you do he will think he still has a chance. Just be blunt and tell him you are sorry, but you don't love him anymore and it is over.
As for this other guy, does he care for you too? If so then pursue it...your ex bf is very immature if he wants to fight him for you when he can't have you anyways. But you might warn the new guy your ex is radical.
Make sure that your ex bf knows there is no chance of working it out...it really seems like he does not get it...don't talk to him at all after you tell him it is over and why...the why does not have to include the new guy.
Let the dust settle and pursue your new attraction.
be cool...
2007-06-14 09:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay your boyfriend has all the right to want to fight this other guy if he knows that your in a relationship with him right now and he still messes around with you. Why dont you tell your current boyfriend that things arent working and give yourself a couple of weeks to clear the air. This will assure your current boy that you havent left him for someone else and it might just save this white boy from getting his *** handed to him.
2007-06-14 09:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of this other man you need to at least show your boyfriend the respect of leaving him before you create a new relationship with this other person.
If you leave and are doing it just for your well being and because you no longer want to be together with your current boyfriend then guess what....he has no one to physically assault.
Do not leave and immediately start a relationship with this other man. How will he ever know that you will not find someone new while you are with him and then proceed to leave him like you are doing to your current boyfriend now?
Finish one story before you begin another!!!
2007-06-14 09:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont let ur bf hold you back if you don't love him. If you live with him pack up your things and leave when he's at work or if you don't take him to a fancy dinner IN PUBLIC and tell him "Sweety, I'm sorry I just can't wait any longer towork things out, I'm sorry but it's over." and that should to the trick. Does that help?
2007-06-14 09:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Livey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an trying to understand why you feel it necessary to mention his race. Who cares if he's white or black? What difference does it make?
2007-06-14 09:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cuter than Anderson Cooper? I think not. As a female admirer of AC360, I must disagree with you.
I've never been approving of mixed race relationships. Being together is difficult. Get stared at, kids have problems, where do they belong.
Love conquers all they say.
Only if it is God's love, but eros love stands on shaky ground.
My answer? Forget it.
2007-06-14 09:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
If you are not happy with your present boyfriend, leave him...but DON'T use this new man, white, purple or otherwise...as an excuse...be TRUE to your feelings.
2007-06-14 09:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by Darkcherry81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell can't you just tell your current boyfriend it's over and move on? If he gives you any trouble, call the police.
2007-06-14 09:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your current bf has the attitude that he needs to fight the current bf of his ex-gf, then I can see why you're not attracted to him. That's so immature! Sounds like your bf has very little self-respect, poor impulse control, an intimacy deficiency, a manipulative personality, and excess aggression. I am so glad to hear that you have decided to stop limiting yourself to men who are of the "correct" race. It makes perfect sense to want to date someone who is mature, responsible, and civilized.
2007-06-14 09:41:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋