2007-06-14 01:19:05 · 17 answers · asked by crazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-06-14 01:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by chequamegon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't married to this guy... so of course leaving is always an option. Is he the father of your two kids? Because more than just being married, having kids is a bond that can never be broken with someone.............. and taking your kids' father away from them is something that you really want to think about before pulling the trigger.
May I make a suggestion? When and if he gets a new job, encourage him. A real man supports his family no matter what... he will shovel manure if that means that his family has a roof over their heads. Your boyfriend might feel like he needs to do more important work, but is stifled and fearful of losing his job... so he swings the other way and ACTS like he is lazy or unconcerned about his work. Encourage him. Tell him that you need an active partner to help out. When he gets a job again, no matter what it is, try and take an interest in it. Ask him about his day, about his work. Make him feel important at his home if he isn't important at his work, or if his work isn't all that important, you know?
You are in a tough spot. I don't envy you, that's for sure.
Good luck to you
2007-06-14 01:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend cannot work things out because he is an ******, then ditch him. You own your own house and sound like you have a good job, if you think you can do it on your own then go for it! You have the family support, that is more than a lot of single mothers!!! Also, your work doesn't need to know that you are a single gal having a baby, for all they know you and the father are happy! Just don't tell them, it's definitely none of their business whether or not you are married or even with the father. Good Luck!
2016-05-20 00:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by lorie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to separate or something. As long as you allow him to be lazy he is going to be lazy. Regardless of whether or not you can afford to pay all the bills, if he can work he should be working and he needs to hold down a job. As long as you keep paying the bills and sticking around he is going to do nothing. It's one thing to be understanding and to try to stick by your man but don't be used ... tha'ts exactly what he's doing is using you. Any man who will sit back and watch his wife go to work, pay most or all of the bills and take care of the kids is trifling!!! I'm sorry, that's my opinion. A real man would step up to the plate.
2007-06-14 01:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christ....you actually need to ask if you should leave him?
No...no...why not just stay with him and consider him a child along with the other two. Raise him as you would the two of your own.
Its pretty clear that's what he is and can't support you, the two kids or hold a steady job.
Sheesh....lady...come on. You can't possibly be stupid holding a job, mortagage and raising 2 kids. Why are you find it necessary to even ask such a question?
2007-06-14 01:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably time to sit him down and talk about how important stability is for you at this point. If he truly cares about you and you tell him that you are at a point in your life where stability is very important to you a light may come on. Let him know how this stresses you out. And ask him where he plans to be in 10 years as a bonus.
If you see no signs of dedication to change find someone with ambition and dreams. LIFE will be alot better..
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2007-06-14 01:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by musiclife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have 2 kids, do you really want to stress yourself out over raising a grown man as well? Think about it. Is this a good example to raise your kids with?
2007-06-14 01:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes!! He is a lazy bum, and a bad role model for your kids. Why should you be working your butt off paying everything by yourself. There are just some people out there who don't want to work and are content to sponge off others, he sounds like one of them.
2007-06-14 01:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is excess baggage and very non-productive in your relationship. Get him outta there while you are still upset. Lots more fish in that sea and lots of ones who can maintain a job.
2007-06-14 01:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by SALSA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not change.
How much can and should you take? Are there compensating factors?
Not a good role model for the kids.
I say go.
2007-06-14 01:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋