he makes his hints pretty obvious. when he walks by my office, he always looks in and when i catch his eye, he winks. He just gives me that look you know. he tells me I look beautiful almost everyday, and whatnot.
I'm only 23 and this guy is like 50. what do I do? I am not interested in any scandalous office affairs and I'm not even attracted to him (lol)
this man is married with like 5 kids. ewww, help me?
2007-06-14 01:34:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
excuse me- but I really dont want to be rude about it.
2007-06-14 01:59:50 · update #1
Be firm, no means no. Put your hand out like a traffic cop and let him know the flirting is not wanted.
Don't be wishy washy! As long as he thinks there is a chance he won't stop bothering you.
My daughter had the same problems at work and when she took my advice she found she got more respect from everybody. Of course she had to keep me from going in there and kicking his &$$.
Be Strong! Be Firm! You can do it.
Good Luck
2007-06-14 01:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married, and you're not even attracted to him, where is the problem? A man showing some interest, doesn't mean you have to jump into bed because he wants to. You also have a say in that. Just tell him no if he ever gets the balls to come out and ask. If he makes you uncomfortable, then ignore him completely and he will probably go away. The main reason he hasn't stopped is because you must respond in some way to his flirting (smiling, or laughing at his lame jokes or whatnot). If you ignore him, he will lose interest.
2007-06-14 01:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do a few things:
1. When he talks to you on private matters, just cut the converstaion short and say u have to get back to work or something and move on.
2. When he winks at you, ignore
3. Dont be overly friendly with him or he WILL getr the wrong idea
4. In a very casual thing you can mention to him how you think it's sick when people take professional relationships to higher levels.
2007-06-14 02:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ewww..help me". Christ...grow up sister. How about telling him "Look...you're married, old enough to be my father..which in and of itself makes my skin crawl...and I am not even remotely interested in your amourous advances. So...and we'll keep this between ourselves because I feel this needs to be said to you and only you at this time. Please do not bother me anymore with this and refrain from comments or compliments. I have no problem working with you however I do not wish to be put into a situation where I feel uncomfortable to the point that I am left with no option other than to mention this to the supervisor. So...lets start out fresh here from this point on...okay?"
That should drive the point home. If he doesn't get it...he's an idiot and let the chips fall where they may.
2007-06-14 01:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is bothering you too much then I would mention it to your boss, this is Sexual Harrasment and isn't proper in the work place. This guy is probably going thru mid-life crisis and has been at the company for a long time, therefore he feels comfortable and thinks he can get away with anything. Just tell him, that your not comfortable with his geatures towards you and if he doesn't stop you'll report him.
2007-06-14 02:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the hotel room and why she told you her hubby and kids are going to be gone. Why can't you discuss the filing stuff over lunch in a public place or at work? It doesn't add up.
2016-05-20 00:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away fast girl....you dont need none of that trouble in your life...affairs (especially in the office) never turn out nice. let him know your just not interested with a few nicely aimed remarks at how your either taken (your sooo in love) or just cooling it till Mr right comes along(let him know he definitely isnt Mr right or even Mr rightnow)
2007-06-14 01:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by coolred38 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he actually made a pass at you? giving winks and telling you that you are beautiful hardly translates to " i want you". just say thank you when he compliments you and thats it. he will get the hint that you are not interested.
2007-06-14 01:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by bumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be upfront with him and tell him directly that you're not interested, then show him in your actions. Maybe you need to start ignoring him, turning away from him, things like that to get your point across.
Good luck...(what is it with some married people?!?!)
2007-06-14 01:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him. He's probably in his mid - life crisis. He wants to show he still can seduce someone younger than him.
He forgets about his wife and his children.
Ignore him, I am sure he will give up after a while.
And you probably find your Mr right sooner or later...
2007-06-14 01:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by Maybe YAP again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋